Thriving Loving Relationships

How can two people come together to create the most magnificent partnership & life they could ever imagine? Dr. Joe Dispenza says: "The quantum field responds not to what we want; it responds to who we are being…. If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.”

How does this relate to a couple who want to create an extraordinary relationship and life?

Kim Von Berg responds: "When two conscious people form a romantic partnership and they are able to live mostly from their adult Aware Selves, they are now in a position to imagine & create the most magnificent dream they could ever imagine in their relationship and in their lives. It begins with both coming together to imagine their dream - and then, each being willing to step into being their greatest true selves - the selves who could live out such a dream now.” ❤️


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I get asked this question a lot from my clients: "What is the most important quality or capacity to secure a long lasting relationship?” 💞

There is more than just one quality or capacity - but if I had to pick one, it would be to have the capacity to stay centered in one's aware (adult) self. So, a few thoughts about how we can step into our aware self, that is, our authentic adult self:

The idea is not to become perfect but to become CONSCIOUS when we find ourselves reacting or about to go “unconscious” & dropping into a wounded place.

We want to be able to be self responsible for our part in what is happening - and identify what may need healing whenever we find ourselves getting thrown off or feeling badly about ourselves &/or our beloved. And then, we need to be able to step into who we TRULY are: intelligent, wise, resilient and emotionally mature adults. From this empowered place, we can access all of our capacities to resolve anything that needs resolving - and step into all that it takes to create a beautiful loving passionate relationship with our beloved.❤️

Sharing this song with all of my followers - of the most beautiful tenets we can adopt to create a beautiful country:
https://youtu.be/Far-SlXZKnM?si=VyLs0BtazRkkZ1Mg

Love this post re: Dr. Kristin Neff’s work - describing the single most important predictor of being able to bounce back from failure, heartbreak, rejection & setbacks….

Discover more by reading the post:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DZ7ajohDyTA/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

For 20 years, psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff studied one question: Why do some people recover from failure, heartbreak, rejection, and setbacks… while others stay stuck? She analyzed thousands of people across different cultures, ages, and backgrounds. What she discovered surprised everyone. It wasn’t confidence. It wasn’t optimism. It wasn’t self-esteem. It wasn’t even therapy. The strongest predictor of resilience was something far simpler: Self-compassion. The ability to treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a close friend during their hardest moment. People who practiced self-compassion recovered faster from failure, learned more from mistakes, took greater risks, experienced less anxiety, and reported higher life satisfaction. Yet the people who needed it most often resisted it the hardest. High achievers. Perfectionists. People with relentless inner critics. They believed self-judgment was what kept them successful. Neff’s research proved the opposite. The voice pushing you down isn’t making you stronger. It’s keeping you in survival mode. Growth begins when judgment ends. The question is: If you spoke to yourself the way you speak to someone you love… How different would your life become? Follow @soulmindhub for more psychology-backed insights.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
- E. Roosevelt

In TRUTH, no one can MAKE you feel anything without your consent!


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🌟 What makes a relationship extraordinary? 🌟
"I would say that - first & foremost, such a relationship is a HEALTHY one. That means that there is respect, honor & trust, great communication & deep listening, safety to express one’s feelings, thoughts and needs - and a willingness from both to be curious about the differences & discover how these can enrich and deepen the connection. Each takes full responsibility for calming their nervous system to be able to have an adult conversation whenever there is a breakdown.

From this foundation, an extraordinary relationship can emerge in which each is committed to living from their greatest self .. and see & support the greatest self of the other. There is a shared purpose for the relationship and for each other’s lives." ❤️
- Kim Von Berg

Is it really possible for us to LIVE from our Empowered Aware Selves - where it is possible to create an extraordinary relationship with our beloved? It sure is!! Read this article by relationship expert, Kim Von Berg, to find out how: https://bit.ly/LiveFromOurEmpoweredWholeAwareSelves


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A healthy thriving partnership is one in which we "build a new foundation together" to be able to see the magnificent true self in our own selves & each other - no matter what is going on in the relationship.

I don't just want to be good to you—I want to be good for you.

I want us to help each other heal, tear down the walls built by past hurts, and build something stronger together.

Not fixing what's broken, but nurturing what deserves to grow.

Because the peace we find in each other is the peace we both deserve.

Sharing a brief blog article I wrote about how a couple with entrenched differences & challenges can have huge breakthroughs in their relationship with one small realization:

"At the very core, we influence what is going on in our lives & relationships by who we believe ourselves to be deep down.

Neville said: “Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live. Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.” 💕

Time & time again, I have worked with couples who had the same challenges year after year - and I was only able to help them make lasting change in their relationship if each took on changing "their conception” of themselves!

I’ll give an example: if a wife subconsciously believes she is “damaged goods” due to her childhood trauma - and her husband formed a hidden belief in his childhood that he is not lovable for who he is - and must perform & be perfect in order to be loved, then this is a set-up for some big clashes. The husband might try to change the wife to be more “perfect” & the wife will then have her belief of being "damaged goods" further reinforced to the point of wanting out of the relationship to not have this constant source (her husband) of feeling badly about herself.

They can stop the madness if they both recognize that they are operating from faulty unconscious beliefs about themselves, do some transformational work around what caused their younger selves to adopt these beliefs that are not true - and go about the business of discovering the greatness of who they REALLY are. Once both have done this transformation, repairing the relationship can take place with ease and sincere love coming from their conscious superb adult aware selves."

How can you know if you are in an entanglement or a real relationship? Find out how in my article: https://kimvonberg.com/how-to-know-if-you-are-in-an-entanglement-and-not-a-relationship/


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