Thriving Loving Relationships

How can you know if you are in an entanglement or a real relationship? Find out how in my article: https://kimvonberg.com/how-to-know-if-you-are-in-an-entanglement-and-not-a-relationship/


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It’s been a tough year-long journey to be awarded this certification as a True You Coach - being personally trained by Katherine Woodward Thomas in this transformational modality of coaching through her coach certification program.✨ Alas, Katherine passed away in the very final stages of certification.

I’ve learned a lot & deepened my coaching skills - and have a commitment to learn more! If any of you are curious about this incredibly powerful form of coaching, reach out to me. Also, check out Katherine’s book, What’s True About You (https://a.co/d/0gMrEq6Z ).

This process to become a Certified True You Coach has awakened something in me that I know has only just begun! 🦋

What is a "mutual psychotic projection”? Could this be synonymous with falling in love?

And what can you do to prevent waking up one day after getting involved with someone - and realizing you’ve made a terrible mistake?

Listen to more pearls of wisdom by one of my favorite authors on love, Dr. Polly Young-Eisendrath, to find out:
https://youtu.be/XTX8SyU5-NM?si=HzZHOA6yWR5mefXb

Doc Childre, expert in heart-brain-coherence & founder of the Heartmath Institute, reveals more pearls of wisdom & the keys to a thriving loving relationship:

"We have to become more conscious of our feeling-world. By learning to identify the 'emotional baggage’ and manage our feeling-world reactions, we can view life based on current information instead of being held captive by our past. However, since emotional processes can work faster than the mind, it takes a power stronger than the mind to bend perception, override emotional circuitry, and provide us with intuitive feeling instead. It takes the power of the heart.” - Doc Childre, Founder of Heartmath®



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"Love brings you face to face with yourself. It's impossible to love another if you cannot love yourself." - John Pierrakos

Colbert reminds us to come from our loving wise selves in our relationships - no matter where the other person is coming from. That doesn't mean we don't set boundaries and negotiate for our own needs. In fact, we stand for love & respect for our own selves AND each other. 💞

"In the new paradigm of marriage, we look to form unions that have enough vision and expansion to support us to midwife ourselves into being all that we are capable of being." - Katherine Woodward Thomas 💞

The depth of love you can give & receive from another is a reflection of the degree of intimate relationship you have with yourself. ❤️

How do we have a deep loving intimate relationship with ourselves? We do so by connecting to our deepest inner self, listening to & accepting our feelings - and accepting & acknowledging whatever needs we may have.

Give yourself the gift of this meditation - is a bonus gift of Katherine Woodward Thomas in which she takes you through an important practice in Calling in “The One,” called the “Self Love Power Practice” : https://vimeo.com/546605544/5822b7d451?fl=pl&fe=ti 🌅


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FREE communication tip by relationship expert & communication specialist, Kim Von Berg - whenever you feel hurt by your beloved in what was done or said! Here goes:

So what are more skillful ways of addressing your hurt than saying something like: “you need to apologize for hurting me"?

First of all, it is important that you recognize that you feel hurt – and you’ll first want to take at least a little space to go inside to discover where the root of the hurt stems from. 99% of the time, what is occurring in an adult relationship is not the root cause of painful feelings - and it often goes back to childhood or something traumatic in your past. So, we take time to go inside & nurture that younger part of us who feels hurt.

And then, we look to the actual situation/behavior of our partner that we may still not be happy about. From here & in our wise loving adult place, we recognize that NOBODY CAN MAKE US FEEL ANYTHING – since feelings are fundamentally coming from our own interpretations, history and assumptions. So, we own our feelings – and don’t make another responsible for them.

From THIS place, we can now communicate!!! We might say something like: “When I hear.. or see.. or experience… (describe the behavior, keeping the “you” pronoun to a minimum), a younger part of me gets triggered as well as not being happy about this. It would be so wonderful if – in this situation – (state your ideal such as: a kind request could be made, I could be notified when…, the kitchen could be cleaned by whoever had a meal, etc.)

This way, we own our side of the street and come from an assumption that our beloved did not do something to hurt us intentionally. It gives him/her an opportunity to adjust behavior and still feel honored and respected.

If you are in a relationship, where do you begin to turn this relationship into an expansive joyful romantic partnership? 💞

Kim Von Berg, Relationship Expert, outlines seven steps to do just that in this article: https://bit.ly/TurnYourRelationshipAround


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