Be The You

A “holiday” can easily morph into a high-stakes logistics meeting in pastel. We often fill everyone else’s baskets with tradition and energy, yet leave our own internal accounts unaddressed. If this evening feels more like recovery from a performance than a rest from a celebration, it might be worth auditing where you went missing.
How much of today was spent fulfilling expectations versus finding a moment that was actually for you?

“Try harder” is can be the worst advice you can give someone.
We’ve been conditioned to think that more effort is the only path to a new skill. But if you’re swinging a rope—or pursuing a habit—without a foundation, you aren’t training. You’re just blindly guessing.
Blind guessing is the fastest way to burn out and stay stuck.
This week, a client proved that Pacing Wisdom beats “hustle” every single time. He didn’t just “try” to get his double-unders. He waited until he had the specific Next step, and the result was inevitable.
Swipe through to see why his “stalled” session was actually the secret to his biggest breakthrough.

I did 97 reps of a movement I didn’t know the name of.

Five minutes before the buzzer, I had to ask the judge what a “snatch” was. I was 80 lbs down and terrified that if I didn’t redline every day, I’d lose everything I’d worked for.
I wasn’t training. I was just running from a ghost.

Sound on to hear why I wish someone had stopped me—and how to tell the difference between building capability and just being reckless.

Choose Action Next.

Some of my clients are seeing the “melt” right now, but it didn’t happen in Week 1. If you’re frustrated that your “week of hard work” didn’t result in a total body transformation, remember the ice cube. You aren’t wasting effort; you’re storing it.

Can 🚫 Should.
Just because I can carry a lot doesn’t mean I should. The space between can and should is where your values get tested and where conflict lives. For a long time I told myself I was strong, that I could handle it, that I could keep operating at a high level, so it must be fine. I filled every inch of the page — zero margins, zero buffer, zero room for error. I was functioning, but I wasn’t supported, and eventually the “shoulds” started showing up as mistakes, fatigue, and burnout. Strength isn’t proving how much you can survive — it’s knowing when to create space before you collapse.

Happy Thanksgiving! It’s just one day y’all. Enjoy it. Then enjoy balanced living each day after.

“It’s not only what we do, but also what we don’t for which we are held accountable”
Every choice carries weight—what you commit to and what you avoid. Avoidance isn’t neutral. It’s still a decision, one that trades short-term comfort for long-term friction. Pretending it isn’t a choice doesn’t erase the consequences… it just guarantees you’ll be blindsided when they show up.

Too dramatic?
Okay—keep saying you’ll start next year and notice how the start line feels farther away every time. Keep saying you “eat clean” while refusing to look at how much you’re actually eating, and then tell me the scale isn’t creeping up. Keep saying you’ll prioritize your health when the kids are older, and pretend it won’t sting when you watch them model the same avoidance you did.

There’s weight in choosing friction—choosing effort, choosing honesty, choosing the hard-but-not-impossible thing. But there’s weight in choosing inaction, too.

Only one of those builds you. The other buries you.

Get Seconds of What Fills Your Soul
I don’t look back wishing for more pie. Maybe another glass of grandma’s grape juice—but mostly, I wish for more moments together. More laughter, more hugs, more recipes shared, more late-night talks. Whether you’re with born or chosen family, around a table or a TV—get seconds of connection. Fill your plate with memories you’ll never regret.