FIT-OLOGY holistic ADHD coaching - Jessica Covington

I got the chance to chat recently with Amanda Russell, the rockstar behind "The Chaotic Middle Podcast" and an incredible copywriter.

It was a great conversation, and we covered a LOT of ground in less than 30 minutes!

It blows me away how Amanda can get right to the heart of an issue without bypassing any of the important side quests either.

Have a listen, and share with a friend who needs to know she's not alone in the chaotic middle!

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mqVkqG0oS5K8wcOaqr1XX?si=6f9c9c43af6048b0

There’s something deeply freeing about realizing you are not lazy, flaky, or “bad at life” — you’re just wired differently.

In this conversation with Ryan Vik, we talked about what it’s like to grow up knowing you’re different, but not always knowing what that difference means. We also talked about the quiet pressure to keep proving yourself, the frustration of trying to force structure that doesn’t quite fit, and the relief that comes when you stop treating your brain like a problem to be solved.

Ryan shared how she’s been learning to notice what actually helps:

keeping a few key spaces visually calm,

putting things out in front of her so they don’t disappear from working memory,

and giving herself permission to try things even when she’s not sure they’ll work.

That last part matters SO much, because a lot of ADHD women have spent years shrinking themselves around fear of doing it wrong, looking inconsistent (flaky!), and/or wanting something that feels too big.

Ryan’s story is a reminder that growth does not require perfection, just willingness.

If you’ve been feeling stagnant, stuck, or tired of arguing with your own brain, I think you’ll find this episode encouraging. It’s a conversation about self-trust, structure that actually helps, and the courage it takes to keep showing up as yourself.

Listen to the episode, and if Ryan’s story resonates, share it with someone who needs the reminder that different is NOT broken.

🔗Link here or in bio: https://adhd-alchemy-podcast.captivate.fm/episode/adhd-fear-of-growth-and-modeling-bravery-for-your-child/



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Atlanta locals, take your pups to Ryan's !

My friend Vanessa Dean is a money coach for those of us with Fancy Brains (she’s amazing!).

You can get first access and the benefits of her new app, and help an awesome small business at the same time.

Check the link for all the details —

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form.neurodiversitytrainingacademy.com Okay, I have to tell you something. I've been working with a developer behind the scenes on a brand new app, and it's basically the tool I wish someone had handed me years ago.

You know that feeling when you keep telling doctors, “Something is off,” and they keep changing your meds instead of asking better questions?

That’s where Mindi Alexander lived for years.

She moved through autoimmune diagnoses, specialists, and a growing list of prescriptions… but the core experience never really shifted: the brain fog, the overwhelm, the “why can’t I just function like everyone else?” kept following her from season to season.

On paper, it looked like depression and anxiety.
In her body, it felt like being misunderstood and medically gaslit.

What changed everything was finally naming what was actually going on: ADHD.

Not as a new label to feel ashamed of, but as an explanation that made her whole story click into place: the cycle of organizing perfectly, then watching it all unravel; losing things that were literally just in her hand; lying awake at night while her brain refused to shut down; carrying the mental load of work, family, and entrepreneurship… and STILL feeling like she was “dropping the ball.”

*None of that meant she was broken.* It meant her brain is wired differently in a world that wasn’t built for the way she thinks.

In this episode, we talk about:

Why ADHD in women is so often misdiagnosed as depression or anxiety

What it’s like to be dismissed when you know something is off

How to advocate for yourself in the healthcare system

The emotional relief (and grief) that comes with finally having an explanation

How ADHD symptoms can shift across life stages

Using intentional transition rituals to move from work mode to home mode

Rejection sensitivity and taking small signals very personally

Why ADHD doesn’t mean you’re defective — it means you need different systems

So, if you’ve ever:

Felt like your diagnosis doesn’t tell the whole story

Been told “everything looks fine” while your insides are screaming

Wondered if maybe you’re not lazy, unmotivated, or too sensitive — just different

…this conversation is for you.

Your intuition is not the problem here. It’s information.

If you’re ready to explore what might actually be going on with your “something is off,” listen to this episode — and if you want support connecting the dots in your own life, book a Spark Session with me. We’ll look at your biggest challenge, find the mirror trait in it, and start using that to work with your brain instead of against it.

You’re not broken. You’re different. And different is good.

Transformation rarely arrives all at once. It begins the moment you start seeing yourself more clearly (and that means *without* the judgment).

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You'll find your July Lab Kit, wisdom from Magnolia Black Digital Marketing, and my newest creation, the ADHD Alchemy Habit Stacker. 💙

Harris said something in this conversation that really stayed with me: for years, they thought they were just “bad at life” in all the ordinary places:

Late.
Distracted.
Always trying to catch up.
Always trying not to let people down.

When you’ve spent years living inside that kind of story, shame can start to feel like part of your personality -- like it's deserved.

What I appreciated most about Harris’s perspective is how clearly they named the difference between a person and a pattern. The problem was never a lack of care or effort. It was a nervous system that needed different support, more honesty, and a lot less self-betrayal.

We talked about the way relational trauma, ADHD, and autism can overlap, how much criticism neurodivergent kids often absorb, and why asking for help is not a moral failure. It’s often the first real step toward relief.

If you’ve ever felt like your brain works differently but you’ve still been trying to force yourself into a standard that never fit, this episode will feel deeply familiar.

Listen to the full episode of ADHD Alchemy with Harris Eddie Hill -- link in comments.

Heather said something that will probably feel familiar to a lot of high-capacity women with ADHD: she’s spent years being the person who says yes, keeps things moving, and somehow holds a lot of big responsibilities at once.

There is a very real cost to that.

At some point, “I can handle it” starts to turn into overwhelm, guilt, and shame — especially when your brain has big ideas but not endless capacity.

What I loved about this conversation is how Heather is approaching that season differently. She’s not trying to outwork her nervous system. She’s getting more honest about what she can carry, simplifying what matters, and letting go of the pressure to do everything. She's using "no" as an open door.

She also talked about the relief that comes from naming what’s really going on: not laziness, not a character flaw, just a mind that works differently and needs different supports.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, this episode is a strong reminder that clarity and boundaries can create more room than forcing ever will.

Listen to the full episode of ADHD Alchemy with Heather Cleverly of Magnolia Black Digital Marketing 🔗 Link in comments!



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She described the moment so many of us know too well: getting into a work task, hyperfocusing on the wrong part, and then realizing the clock has run out.

Not because she didn’t care, wasn’t smart, or “should have known better.”

Just a nervous system doing what it does under pressure.

What I loved about Lori’s story is how clearly she named the shift that changed things for her: she stopped interpreting every struggle as a personal flaw and started building around how her brain actually works.

That meant:

noticing her best focus window,

reducing clutter and overstimulation,

using sound and environment on purpose,

and giving herself permission to pause before she hit total overload.

That’s not laziness, it's self-awareness.

And for a lot of high-capacity women with ADHD, that’s the turning point: not trying to force consistency through shame, but learning to work with your real patterns.

Listen to the full episode of ADHD Alchemy with Lori Cobbs. Her story is honest, grounding, and deeply familiar in all the right ways.

Link in comments!



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I want to offer a workshop that solves the biggest issue you're having right now with your ADHD. What's tops for you?

1 - Procrastinating on important things

2 - Getting overwhelmed and stuck, with too many to-do's

3 - Emotional regulation, melting down under stress

4 - (name your "other")

In case it helps your choice, I'm thinking the workshop would be around 45 minutes, and it's not just me talking -- you'd actually be solving the problem in real time. Low cost, too.

Feel free to share this post with others for their input!

(PS, this post is an example of an ADHD workaround. Since Facebook removed the poll option for business pages, I'd have to either create a third-party poll link or make a story with a sticker and a poll and, and, and... Too many damn steps. Just ask, and count on Fancy Brains to answer. 😀💙🙏)