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The equinox arrives each year with a quiet reminder: nothing stays the same forever.Hard winters eventually soften into ...
09/21/2026

The equinox arrives each year with a quiet reminder: nothing stays the same forever.

Hard winters eventually soften into spring. Summer gives us time to grow, create, play, and tend what matters. Autumn invites us to gather the harvest—and to begin releasing what we no longer need to carry forward.

Our lives have seasons, too.

There are seasons of planting and becoming. Seasons of abundance and celebration. Seasons of letting go. And seasons when the wisest thing we can do is become still, conserve our energy, and trust that life is continuing beneath the surface.

We cannot keep ourselves in summer forever—and perhaps we were never meant to.

So this week, I’m honoring the season I’m in rather than wishing myself into another one. I can celebrate what has ripened, release what is complete, and trust myself to adapt as the season changes.

✨ Weekly Affirmation:
I honor the changing seasons of my life. I release what has run its course, receive the harvest of what I have nurtured, and trust myself to meet whatever season comes next.

🍂 What are you harvesting—or releasing—as you enter this new season?

09/09/2026

Lesson #40: The Practice of Being Human 🤍

Well…

we made it to 40. 🥹💃

When I started this series, I wanted to share some of the things dance had taught me over roughly 20 years.

But somewhere along the way, I realized something:

Very few of these lessons were actually about dancing.

They became lessons about trust and connection.

Listening and communication.

Bodies and feelings.

Boundaries.

Ego.

Rest.

Play.

Community.

Change.

Getting things wrong and trying again.

Learning when to stay…and when to leave.

And learning to trust myself even when I don’t know what comes next.

I started dancing because I loved the music.

I kept dancing because I loved who I became when I danced.

More willing to feel.
More willing to connect.
More willing to change.
More willing to be here.

I spent 20 years learning how to dance.

And somewhere along the way…

dance was teaching me how to be human.

Maybe that’s what the things we truly love can do.

We practice them.

And somehow, while we’re practicing them…

they’re practicing us, too. 🤍

So after 40 lessons, I don’t have one final step for you.

Just an invitation:

Find the things that make you feel alive.

Let them teach you.

Let them change you.

And whatever your dance happens to be…

keep dancing.

I’ll see you on the dance floor. 🤍💃

KeepDancing

09/08/2026

Lesson #39: There Is No Final Choreography 💃

Well, this lesson decided to demonstrate itself. 😂

This weekend at the Miami Dance Fusion Festival, I competed in the novice Brazilian Zouk Jack & Jill—and for the first time, I made the finals! 🥹💃

The funny thing about a Jack & Jill is that you’re competing at something you cannot completely plan.

You don’t choose your partner.
You don’t choose the music.
You don’t know what’s coming next.

You prepare. You practice. You learn.

And then…

you dance what arrives.

That’s really what Lesson #39 is about.

After about 20 years of dancing, experience hasn’t taught me how to predict everything that will happen.

It’s taught me how to listen, adapt, respond, and trust myself when I don’t know exactly what comes next.

And then, while I was filming this video, the construction workers in the background unexpectedly jumped in at the end. 🤣

I had to stop and laugh because…of course they did.

There is no final choreography.

The music changes.
Our partners change.
We change.

Maybe mastery isn’t eliminating uncertainty.

Maybe it’s becoming more comfortable dancing with it.

We don’t have to know every step that’s coming to trust ourselves with the next one.

Sometimes we just have to dance what arrives. 🤍

SocialDance DanceLife

09/03/2026

Lesson #38: Growth Gets Uncomfortable 💃

This lesson was actually a little uncomfortable to write. 😂 We went around and around with the idea until I realized…I’m literally living the example right now.

I recently joined a short ladies’ choreography class with a dancer I really admire. Her style is different from mine. She moves her body differently than I naturally move mine.

And almost immediately, the room was full of:
“This feels awkward.”
“I don’t feel right.”
“What am I doing?!” 😂

But we’re choosing to be there.

We’re exploring movements our bodies don’t already know. Some of them might become part of our dancing. Some might not. Eventually, I’ll adapt what I’m learning to my own body and style.

But first, I have to let it feel unfamiliar.

I think growth asks that of us sometimes.

Even after 20 years of dancing, I still encounter movements that make me feel like I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing.

And honestly, I hope there always are.

Because maybe growth isn’t supposed to always feel like progress while it’s happening.

Sometimes it just feels awkward…

until one day, it doesn’t. 🤍

Comfort shows us what we’ve already learned.
Discomfort can introduce us to what we might become.

What’s something you’ve tried lately that pushed you beyond what already felt comfortable?

KeepLearning

08/31/2026

🎬 40 Lessons Dance Taught Me by 40

Lesson #35: You Can Speak More Than One Dance Language

This weekend I’m heading to Miami Dance Fusion Festival, which means I’ll probably dance Bachata, Kizomba, Zouk…and maybe a little Salsa if it finds me. 😂

Meanwhile, at home I’ve been practicing my Belly Dance zills and drills, stretching, flowing and exploring movement on my own.

This is pretty normal for me.

I’ve never wanted to speak only one dance language.

Because every dance really does feel like a language.

It has rhythm.
Vocabulary.
Structure.
Culture.
And its own way of communicating.

Learning different styles has made me a more responsive and adaptable follower—but it’s also given me more freedom to PLAY.

Give me a ’90s pop song? I might Hustle.

Give me some hip-hop? Maybe Salsa. Maybe Zouk. 😂

Once you understand different movement languages, you start hearing possibilities you might not have heard before.

You’re not just collecting more moves. You’re expanding your vocabulary.

And every dance offers something different: the music, the aesthetic, the community, even the parts of ourselves that come alive within it.

What speaks to you now might not be what speaks to you five years from now.

So if you’re getting bored, feeling stuck, or simply wanting more room to grow…

maybe you don’t need to give up dancing.

Maybe you just need to learn another language.

Sometimes when you’ve lost a little joy in one dance, you can rediscover it in another.

I know from experience. 🤍

💬 What dance “language” are you speaking lately—and which one are you curious to learn next?

DanceCommunity

08/27/2026

🎬 40 Lessons Dance Taught Me by 40

Lesson #32: Switch Roles

Well…this one took TWO DAYS to get filmed. 😂

Between the electrical issues happening in my apartment and all the construction noise around me, I finally decided:

You know what?

I’m sitting outside.
I’ll optimize the audio as best I can.
And I’m FILMING THE THING.

Sometimes you just have to work with what you’ve got. 😂

Which feels oddly appropriate for a lesson about changing positions and seeing things from another perspective.

One of the best things we can do in partner dance is spend some time on both sides of the conversation.

Follow.
Lead.

Teach.
Learn.

Know what you’re doing.
Have absolutely NO idea what you’re doing. 😂

Because something can make perfect sense from over here…

until you experience what it feels like from over there.

And you don’t have to master every role to benefit from experiencing it.

The same thing happens for me as a teacher.

I’ve taught dance for years, but I’m still a student. Every time I learn something new, struggle with a movement, or find myself confused in class, I remember what it feels like to be on that side again.

The teacher becomes the student.

And the student becomes the teacher.

Sometimes changing our position is enough to change our perspective.

💬 Have you ever switched roles and suddenly understood something differently? What changed?

P.S. If you hear a little construction in the background…welcome to my glamorous production studio today. 😂 We got it DONE.

DanceLife

08/21/2026

🎬 40 Lessons Dance Taught Me by 40

Lesson #30: Not Every Dance Is About You

Or, as I actually said while filming:

“This isn’t about you, boo.” 😂

Jokes aside…

I’ve been part of dance communities across different cities, countries and styles, and one thing remains remarkably consistent:

Dance communities are communities of HUMANS.

There are friendships.
Cliques.
Romances.
Misunderstandings.
Moments of beautiful belonging.
And moments when we feel left out.

Someone doesn’t ask us to dance.
Someone says no.
We see them dancing with somebody else.

And suddenly our brain has written an entire screenplay about what it means.

Sometimes exclusion really does happen, and we shouldn’t dismiss that.

But sometimes?

It simply wasn’t about us.

One of the most useful things I’ve learned is:

My feelings are valid.

But the story I attach to them isn’t automatically true.

And this is another reason I don’t want to build my entire world on one dance floor.

Dance can give us friendship, movement, music, community, connection—even love.

But no single community needs to carry ALL of our belonging, validation or identity.

Sometimes we need to widen the lens and remember:

Our world is bigger than this one room. 🤍

💬 Have you ever discovered that something you initially took personally actually had nothing to do with you?

And speaking of things that aren’t all about me…

🐈 Mr. Neville makes an appearance somewhere in this video.

See if you can spot him—and leave a 🐈 in the comments if you agree he’s clearly the handsomest member of the cast. 😂

PersonalGrowth

08/20/2026

🎬 40 Lessons Dance Taught Me by 40

Lesson #29: Your Feelings Can Dance Too 💃

Dance is emotional because music is emotional.

And because we are human.

Joy, frustration, confidence, embarrassment, connection, insecurity…sometimes all within the same song. 😂

But one of the deeper things dance has taught me is that I don’t always have to THINK my way through what I’m feeling.

Sometimes I need to MOVE through it.

Dance was one of the first places I rediscovered that kind of flow as an adult.

That moment when repetition, movement, creativity and presence come together…and some of the mental noise gets quieter.

But dance certainly isn’t the only doorway.

Maybe you find it running.

Painting.

Swimming.

Tending a garden.

Kneading bread.

Knitting.

Cleaning your home.

Playing an instrument.

Rollerblading.

Or doing something completely different that lets your body settle into a rhythm while your mind loosens its grip.

I think many of us access this naturally as children.

We play.
We move.
We make things.
We get completely absorbed in what we’re doing.

And then somewhere along the way, adulthood can make us forget that we still need those experiences.

That doesn’t mean our emotions disappear.

The practice I’ve learned is to recognize them, validate them, regulate them—and then choose how I want to respond.

Sometimes that means taking a breath.

Sometimes laughing at myself.

Sometimes sitting one out.

And sometimes it means putting on the music and letting myself MOVE. 💃

The goal isn’t to stop feeling.

It’s learning how to move with what we feel without handing every emotion control of the entire experience.

💬 What helps YOU move through your emotions and find your flow?

40LessonsBy40

08/19/2026

Researchers at Stanford have finally given a name to something many women have been dealing with for years. It's called mankeeping. And it's helping explain why so many women are stepping away from dating altogether.

Mankeeping describes the emotional labor women end up doing in heterosexual relationships. It goes beyond remembering birthdays or coordinating social plans. It means being your partner's one-man support system. Managing his stress. Interpreting his moods. Holding his hand through feelings he won't share with anyone else. All of it unpaid, unacknowledged, and often unreciprocated.

The root of the issue is tied to what experts are calling the male loneliness epidemic. As more men report having fewer close friendships, romantic partners are expected to pick up the slack. Instead of processing with friends, many men offload everything onto the woman they're dating. She becomes his entire emotional infrastructure.

Plenty of women are no longer interested in that dynamic. According to Pew Research, only 38 percent of single women in the US are currently looking for a relationship. Among single men, that number jumps to 61 percent. The gap says a lot. Women aren't opting out of love. They're opting out of being someone's therapist with benefits.

The Guardian calls mankeeping a modern extension of emotional labor, one that turns a partner into a life coach. This isn't about avoiding vulnerability. It's about refusing to carry someone else's emotional weight while getting little to nothing in return. And there's nothing wrong with feeling that way.

Some men have started opening up more, which is good. But too often, that openness lands in the lap of the person they're sleeping with instead of a friend or a therapist. Vulnerability without boundaries can feel more like a burden than a breakthrough.

What women want isn't complicated. They want shared effort. Mutual support. Emotional responsibility that doesn't get passed off like a group project. When that doesn't happen, they're choosing solitude over stress. And they're not apologizing for it.

Some women are called bitter for stepping back from dating. Others are labeled cold. What they're really doing is protecting their capacity. The choice to stay single rarely comes from defeat. It comes from knowing exactly how much energy they have left to give. Until that imbalance shifts, more women will keep walking away. Being alone is easier than managing someone else's emotional life.

08/19/2026

🎬 40 Lessons Dance Taught Me by 40

Lesson #28: Your Body Remembers 💃

It felt fitting to film this one back on my stool, putting on my dance shoes.

We haven’t been in this setting for a while.

So in a tiny way, even filming this video became an act of coming back…and remembering. 😂

I’ve experienced that feeling many times in dance.

After time away.
After COVID.
After injuries.
Walking into a congress wondering, “Do I still know how to do this?”

And then the music starts.

We move.

And slowly, the body remembers.

But I’ve also learned that remembering doesn’t necessarily mean returning to exactly what was there before.

I’ve torn both rotator cuffs and fully ruptured my Achilles. Those injuries healed, but my body has a history now.

And some days, for whatever reason, it simply doesn’t dance the way it did yesterday.

That doesn’t mean the knowledge disappeared.

Maybe remembering through the body is allowing everything we’ve learned to meet the body we actually have today.

Not everything we know lives in our conscious mind.

Sometimes we have to move before we remember what we already know.

💬 What does your body know that you might need to trust yourself to remember?

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