Intrepid Her

Spring is here 🌸
and for me that has brought
a sense of expansion
and a bit of unease

I see a backyard tree
budding then flowering then fading
I see all the beauty
and birth around me

I also see all the work
to be done this time of year

There is a nudging energy
that tells me
to do more

.. plan that workshop
design that package
clean the garage
finish the pile of clothes
that need stain treatment

But I know
even if every stain was treated
the garage de-cluttered
the plans created
and the list seemingly checked off-
that nudge might not leave me alone

From many many
introspective moments
focused on these nudges
I have come to realize
that nudges to DO MORE
almost always actually mean
to STOP everything

Because the nefarious
double side of
DO MORE
is a whisper of
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH

~And that
is not something
I desire
to be working towards~

What if instead of taking
“spring cleaning”
into the physicality
of do-ing more
we sat with the discomfort
and unknown of
pausing
to do nothing first?

You might just find
in that sweet pause
of nothing
a quieter invocation
asking for your attention

Maybe
its an early morning walk
coffee with a good friend
complete presence with a blossom

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.. What is your body desiring before the do-ing?

Using natures rhythms to create evolution in my own life looks like

Taking that barefoot step outside even in the winter
Basking in moonlight at all phases
Touching icy river water
Watching my garden shift
Catching a sunrise or set
Foraging for whatever is in bloom

It’s easy to stay inside when it’s cold
It’s easy to get on your phone and scroll
It’s easy to never take moments with the moon
It’s easy to override your body’s desires

But jumping into nature, even in the smallest way, WILL shift your perspective and guide you back into alignment

Try intimacy with the full moon tonight
If only between the car and the house
Stare up into her brilliance
Let her radiance envelope you

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For all you beauties just coming out of your menstrual and new moon darkness

Here’s to the light

Might sound crazy to some women
But I missed my cycle
During pregnancy/postpartum

And as she subtly links back up with majestic moon I rest back into the evolution of my body

Always changing

Still feeling postpartum after this hike!

Every year when my kids start school again I see my mama friends that I didn’t keep up with through the summer and they tell my some version of the same thing
☀️summer was so busy☀️

All the sun
All the fun
All the friends
All the rivers
All the lakes
All the camping
All the family
All the music

One season to fit all the fun

Don’t forget to slow down and

✨Taste the sweat on your upper lip
✨Laugh really hard
✨Ask how the check out person’s day is
✨Feel gratitude
✨Look at the stars
✨Hear the opposition with an open heart
✨Fall in love with your wrinkles
✨Let your kids make the plans
✨Taste a garden tomato 🍅
✨Give in to that nap

Inhabit the moment
Inhabit your body

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Rites of Passage are pauses in the chaos of life
A pause to honor moments that fly too fast 💨
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My daughter found the idea of celebrating her growing up and her menstrual cycle quite alarming

But I was set on creating a moment for her to remember
I was going to give her something I never had
I was going to weave power and confidence into her adolescence
I was going to celebrate her blood 🩸

I talked her into it and she was able to have the experience with a few close friends last year before entering middle school

I was crying by the end of it and she was glowing with all the care and attention we mothers showered on her and the other girls

“Mom thank you, I really loved today”
She said to me afterwards

This mama is ready to invite a few clients into her work/life balancing act!!

Even though breastfeeding every 2 hours and through the night feels like a full time job

Even though taking care of my babe creates pleasure in my life

Taking care of my babe is not my end all be all

I can not live just for my baby and my kids

I love my kids

And I love my separateness from my kids

I love me too

And right now what I’m craving is the mentor me, the coach me, the me that guides another woman into her muchness

I’m ready for you

Maybe you are a fellow mama in search of some separation from the role of “mom”

Maybe you have been stuck in someone else’s script and you’re ready to start starring in your own story

Maybe you are uncomfortable in your own skin and you just want to feel the freedom to dance at that upcoming concert

Whatever itchy scratchy uncomfortable something you are experiencing
We can work with it
We can integrate it
We can turn it into fuel for your dreams

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Me & .being.wellness after a saucy ceremony💞This woman exudes brilliance, she walks in the room and knows her worth
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Do you know the song by Sammy Kershaw, “she don’t know shes beautiful”?

Essentially its about a woman who walks around having zip idea how lovely she actually is, walking into bars and down the street and not knowing why people are whistling at her

Well, I used to sing that song over and over to myself. I wanted so bad to be that woman, I wanted to have someone singing how gorgeous I was. I wanted another persons validation because I couldn’t give it to myself

I don’t think that sentiment is rare in women. Its an epidemic of slighting our abilities and not owning up to our brilliance

and the beginning of this epidemic can be traced back to some point in childhood

Because my daughters are confident as hell for the most part

They are not afraid to dance when everybody is looking, or share about a really great piece of art they did, or say “i look really good in this dress”

I don’t know when, why, or how it happens but some which way on the path to young adulthood we lose sight of the inner knowledge that we are BRILLIANT

We start listening more to everybody else’s garble and less to our bodies KNOWING

🌵Lets get back to that knowing
🌵Lets sing “fack yes I know I’m beautiful”
🌵Let’s celebrate our individuality, our differences and our unique BRILLIANCE

Join and I to celebrate and honor all stages of the pregnancy/birth journey✨

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A rite of passage is potent magic
Let’s create more sacred moments
Let’s remember transitory periods of our life
Let’s honor our experiences wholly
Let’s celebrate in a community of care and respect
Let’s mourn for old pieces of ourselves that do not fit, welcome the liminal spaces between, and move forward into our next iterations

Pregnancy Rite of Passage
October 29th, 6-8
8 spots open, link in bio
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What happened to rites of passage?
Gathering to ritualize and honor BIG life events?
Events that can rock a body to the core, flip scripts, and cause worlds to shatter

Sure we have birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, funerals, and baby showers

But what about the other pivotal points in a life?

Like..

The portal of pregnancy
First blood 🩸
First love making
Leaving the nest
Empty nesters
Abortion
Miscarriage
Divorce
Separation from long term partners
Changing identity
Last blood/menopause
And on
…….
What part of your life would you have liked to pause and honor?
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The last 2 pictures are from my daughters blood ceremony that I co-hosted with

My daughter was hesitant at first to accept the offer to host a celebration for her 🩸

But after she couldn’t stop thanking me. She felt so held and cared for. She felt Special for being able to bleed, for getting to experience this woman’s rite. She felt prepared for what was to come

Far fuc*ing cry from my own experience..
Here is a tampon
There will be pain
Don’t get pregnant

My experience is similar to many women’s but we can change that

We can choose to embrace chaos, blood, and evolution

We can teach our daughters to love their bodies
We can honor all the messy moments of life
We can celebrate the chaos of what it means to be human

Embodied Pregnancy Celebration
October 29th
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Read on to find out why I created this offering❤️
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This go-around pregnancy has been hard

My first two I was pretty damn selfless
(Literally lacking any desire, knowledge, or inspiration to put myself first)
I just let them take over without a care
Believing it my duty as woman to be nothing other than thrilled, in love, and stoic in the face of the MAJOR upheaval that pregnancy & birth is

9 years later as a completely evolved being from who I was before, a being with desires, boundaries, and sovereignty..

This Pregnancy has been a wholly different experience

This Pre pregnancy was riddled with
doubts- what if it’s not possible
compromise- 2 parents with some different values
fear- are we ready to change everything?

1st trimester began with so much joy, love, and excitement

Then,
I was hit unceremoniously by waves of grief and loss of identity
My body was not my own
I felt muted and lifeless
Something was physically sucking my life force
Will I ever feel pleasure again?

??????

I had to take a break from life to sort through my experience

And

My hormones finally stabilized
I can eat all the foods again
I re-found my pleasure
I have felt my unborn move and it thrills me to the core

I am reminded every moment-I have created life

This (pregnancy!)is a monumental not to be taken lightly feat

And I have come into the 2nd trimester with such a desire to celebrate 🎉 and support this journey of pregnancy (whether it’s your 1st or your 4th) for other women

This is a journey worthy of being recognized in all the glory and all the sorrow one experiences

This is a rite of passage
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Tell a pregnant friend, your pregnant partner, that pregnant lady you know..

You are a goddess and you deserve to be celebrated for the whole of your experience

Sign up link for ceremony in my bio

I used to worry a lot a lot a lot

I would worry about..

what to do with my free time, my body, wrinkles, never having enough time, how to get everything done, only eating certain foods, what others would think, looking a certain way, getting into intimate conversations and having to speak about myself and my dreams and desires, the future, money, taking charge and initiative, making the first move, looking stupid, my body functions, letting my needs be known, being vulnerable, peoples perceptions of me

Worry was a full time job for me
And I wasn’t getting paid for it

All my worrying left me feeling stuck, empty, and alone

I couldn’t let people get too close to me, they might see the real me..and that was scary

So I numbed instead of facing my issues. I drank heavily 🍻slept around carelessly 🛌 and ran off for the next adventure obsessively 🚵🏻‍♀️

There is always a catalyst to evolution, to change- something that rocks the moment and cracks the fissures wide enough to allow in something more

Mine came and I knew I had to get out of my rutted old ways
It took years and it continues to be a process as new lights get shown on old wounds
But I am committed

Committed to living by my own beliefs, creating my own stories, being my own heroine, and continually moving my most authentic pieces of self into the outside world🔥

Moving my aliveness and pleasure from the inside->out

Journey to Embodied Pleasure is my 3 month coaching package

We will address all the worries
All the ruts
All of your deep desires
And all the pleasure that’s meant to be experienced
From the inside->out

Let’s do this 🌵
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