10/06/2026
He never hit me. So for years, I didn’t have a word for what was happening.
There was no bruise to point to.
Every one of those had a “good” version, and that’s the version everyone saw. It’s the version I told myself, too.
What I know now: abuse doesn’t have to leave a mark to rewire your nervous system. Your body keeps track of what your mind explains away.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This month I’m telling the parts that don’t leave marks, because those are the parts that keep people stuck.
If you saw yourself in any of these slides, you can stop questioning yourself. What you lived was real, and you can heal from it.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Free, confidential, 24/7.
Share this post to the person who keeps saying “but he never hit me.”
What I offer:
I offer one-to-one coaching to help you trust yourself again and heal what your body is still holding. You never have to tell your story, because we work with your nervous system and your body. I keep sliding-scale spots open; message me “ready” to ask.
For leaders: I work with leaders and teams who want a workplace that is inclusive and sensitive to the things employees don’t say out loud. I’ll help you bring a trauma-informed lens to your culture. Message me “workplace” to start.