Agora Coaching & Training with Valeyne Grotrian

Have you ever tried to talk yourself into feeling more confident?

I can do this.
I’m good enough.
I belong here.
And then some other part of your brain says...

Yeah, I don’t believe you. 😂

That’s the problem with positive thinking.

I’m not against it. I like a positive thought as much as the next person.

But you can tell yourself you’re confident all day long, and if somewhere underneath that you still believe you’re not good enough, that belief is going to keep showing up.

In the things you avoid. The opportunities you talk yourself out of. The decisions you second-guess. The stuff you keep telling yourself you'll do later.

That’s what I want to talk about in Radical Shift: How to Shift Your Limiting Beliefs and Build the Life You're Meant to Live.

It’s a free, live 90-minute workshop I’m leading on July 21 about the beliefs we carry and how they can shape our choices without us even realizing it.

And no, it’s not going to be 90 minutes of me telling you to believe in yourself.

I mean, you will.
Ted Lasso and I are both pretty sure about that.

But telling ourselves to “be more confident” doesn’t change very much.

So we’re going to do something more useful.

We'll look at how a belief begins shaping the way you think, the choices you make, and, over time, the life you build.

Then we’re going to work backward. We'll notice the belief, name it, look at what it may be costing you, question whether it's actually true, and begin deciding what you'd rather believe instead.

Tuesday, July 21
12:00 PM Central / 1:00 PM Eastern
Live online and free.

I’d love to have you there. Drop "BELIEVE" in the comments and I'll send you the link to register. Or send me a DM if that's easier.

For the better part of the last 15 years, I've sat with parts of me that have said some pretty crappy things to myself.

Coaching others has a way of forcing you to do your own inner work…IYKYK. Because I couldn't sit with my clients in the flames of their unraveling if I wasn't willing to sit with myself in mine.

Sometimes those voices are loud. Other times they're sneakier. Just a dull hum in the background. Hardly recognizable on the surface while everything inside feels a wee bit wobbly.

They like to "what if" things to death.

"What if you fail and you're humiliated?"
"What if they think you're selfish for asking for what you need?"
"What if they don't like you anymore?"
"What if they finally see the real you...and realize you have zero freaking clue what you're doing?"
"What if they realize you're just paddling like a scared duck trying to get the hell out of the water?"
"And what if, when it comes right down to it, you're just not good enough...and everyone else knows it too?"

It hurts my heart to type those. If you've ever thought any of them, you're not alone. I know because I've said every single one to myself.

Including the day I received a manager award, walked into a conference room to a round of applause, hit metrics everyone said were impressive, smiled through the congratulations, and sat in my car afterward wondering when everyone was going to figure me out.

Gliding on the outside.
Paddling like mad underneath.

Ironically, I hear versions of those same thoughts from some of the most driven, compassionate, successful people I know. The more they grow, the more frustrated they become that those voices are still there.

They start asking themselves:
"I help other people through this. Why am I still thinking this way?"

But, growth doesn't erase those thoughts.
It does change how you respond to them.

You don't have to believe every thought your brain offers you. You don't have to keep making decisions based on fear, self-doubt, or old stories that no longer fit. You can learn to recognize the hum for what it is instead of treating it like the truth.

That's exactly what we'll be talking about in my free 90-minute workshop, Radical Shift: How to Shift Your Limiting Beliefs and Build the Life You're Meant to Live.

Tuesday, July 21 at 12:00 p.m. CT

Can't make it live? Register anyway and I'll send you the recording. It's free.

I'd love to see you there.

Register here:
www.agoracoach.com/shift

I've been thinking about change management lately.

I was working with a client that's asking its sales team to move from a transactional sales approach to a more consultative, business partner role.

The immediate conversation was about training.

What skills do people need?
How do we teach them?
How do we reinforce the new behaviors?

Those are important questions.

But the more I listened, the more I found myself wondering if they were the first questions we should be asking.

I recorded a short reflection about it and would love to hear what you think.

The link is in the comments.