From Addiction to Abundance

"You date people like they're batteries... and then you throw them out when you run out of juice." 😨😅😮⁠
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👆 That's legit what a friend said to me about 5 years ago when I told him about my dating patterns... ⁠
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SWIPE 👉 to see what I said back...⁠
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Anyone else been called out on your dating habits?? 😳⁠
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"Why are they so condescending?"⁠
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"I can't believe she made that comment."⁠
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"It bugs me that no one cared enough to reach out."⁠
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🤔 What do all of these questions have in common?⁠
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All of them are based on your INTERPRETATION of what's happening. ⁠
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REALITY 👉 Interpretation 👉 Feeling 👉 REALITY⁠
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REALITY is what ACTUALLY happened. ⁠
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INTERPRETATION is what you THINK happened. It's the story you're telling yourself. ⁠
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So often, we get trapped in our own stories. We get caught up thinking that someone had bad intentions because of the way they said something or thinking we know why they said it. ⁠
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Not only are these interpretations harmful, they're also usually plain wrong... and frankly, unhelpful. ⁠
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What's important is who you WANT to be. ⁠
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What do you stand for? How do you want to respond?⁠
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My client, Tandeep, realized her relationships were being impacted because she was holding in so much of her own emotions and not expressing them in healthy ways. ⁠
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Part of being able to express your pent-up negativity is focusing on:⁠
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👉 Challenging your interpretations of reality⁠
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👉 Stepping into the future you envision, not reacting with your pride⁠
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In only a few weeks, Tandeep was able to start working on her relationship with her family and find deeper connection... ⁠
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Are you willing to take action? Are you willing to do the deep work so you show up differently and start making deeper connections?⁠
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Let me know in the comments how you're going to take action 🔥 Not tomorrow, not next week or next month... but TODAY 💪⁠
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P.S. If you're curious about what it takes to start making these changes in your life, shoot me a DM! Happy to chat and help you figure out a game plan moving forward 🌟⁠
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As a kid, I pretty much lived at the library. I devoured books. They were my escape, a way to explore the world without leaving the room. 🚀⁠
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Even now, I love getting a quiet moment to read and hold a PHYSICAL BOOK in my hands 📙 😊 (I have a kindle, but it's not the same!)⁠
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At my loneliest moments, a good book has kept me company... and reminded me of how much there's left to learn in this world. ⁠
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Not only that, books teach me how to be fully present with myself, realizing I'm alone, but not lonely 🔥⁠
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SO... ⁠
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In honor of all the good reads that have kept me company, I'm inviting you to in this month's challenge! 🎉🎉🎉⁠
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To participate, all you have to do is make a post about what books you're committed to reading this month. Then, tag a few friends and spread the love ❤️️ (Remember to tag .abundance.coach and use the hashtag so I can see your post 😊) ⁠
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Don't be afraid to get creative! Show what you're learning, where you're reading, why you're reading it... Bring us into your world 🌟🌍 It doesn't matter whether you're reading something for fun or to pass an exam - a book's a book, and if you're reading, you're learning! 😉⁠
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📚📚📚 As a bonus, I'll be pulling a random person to win some of the amazing reads that have changed my life (👉 SWIPE to see)! ⁠
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Think of it like... a giant book swap 🤓⁠
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To kick it off, I've tagged some of my favorite people to get this party started! 🎉 (Don't worry, if you're not tagged, you're still invited 😘)⁠
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Can't wait to see what you all come up with!

"What causes loneliness? If you’d told me a decade ago that at 31 I’d be single, living alone 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺 I never would’ve believed you."⁣⁠
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⬇️ THIS IS ⁠
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"I probably would’ve burst out crying in fear. Fear of being alone or rather, lonely. Fear of being unloved by another. Fear of getting it wrong somewhere along the way to wind up so far away from the expected life plan for a young woman in her 30s 🏡👰🏻🤰🏻⁣⁠
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I know that the difference between whether a person is lonely or alone has nothing to do with the people around them and everything to do with their connection to self ✨⁣ I know I felt more lonely while partnered in my toxic marriage than I have living alone in the aftermath of my divorce."⁠
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-- Nausheen ⁠
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SO. POWERFUL. ⁠
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What we need to know about loneliness is it's TELLING us something. When you feel lonely, don't just brush over it and move on to the next thing... you're only distracting yourself for a brief moment.⁠
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Instead, embrace it.⁠
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Feel it in your body.⁠
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Get comfortable with it.⁠
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When you avoid certain emotions, you're subconsciously giving yourself a no-vote-of-confidence... ⁠You're teaching yourself to think: "I can't handle this. I'm not enough."⁠
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So start teaching yourself the opposite.⁠
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Don't run. ⁠
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Face it, head on. Hear what it has to tell you.⁠
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You're stronger than you know. 💪🔥⁠
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P.S. If you're struggling with becoming aware of your emotions, both positive and negative, know that it DOES get better, especially if you work on it INTENTIONALLY. If you haven't already, make sure to grab my free roadmap which will walk you through HOW to build a strong emotional foundation, so you can feel comfortable in your own skin ❤️️⁠

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💘 THIS IS where, every week, I highlight people that are walking the talk 🥾 and living ABUNDANTLY. I know as a Singles & Dating coach that you can learn powerful lessons from watching & imitating those that are doing it RIGHT. ⁠What you focus on 👓 is what you see 👀. Much love, dreamers! ❤️️🌤️

THINGS YOU THINK ARE IMPORTANT IN AN IDEAL PARTNER... BUT DON'T ACTUALLY MATTER IN THE LONG RUN.⁠
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👉 SWIPE to see how people are limiting their OWN options with silly requirements... and keeping themselves from true love.⁠
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It's way too common to talk about your "standards" and think that they reflect what you actually want.⁠
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Comment down below and let me know which one stands out to you!⁠
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P.S. Finding the person you love shouldn't be a frustrating and painful process. If you'd like know how my clients discover themselves on the way to love... click the link in my bio to get a full breakdown 😉
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I've done everything from rock climbing, pole dancing, snowboarding, krav maga, rugby...

What do all these have in common?

I was terrified when I first started all of them.

I never thought of myself as an athletic person. I didn't grow up playing sports.

But I wanted to push myself. I wanted to grow, so I made myself get to know my body in new and uncomfortable ways.

Being able to do things you've dreamed of means you can step into freedom and not be controlled by fear.

How will you push yourself this week? 🔥

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"It was a pure moment of freedom, acceptance, letting go. And how often do we TRULY do that? Often, even if alone, we do things the way we think they should be done, the way others would support, the way we’ve been taught, the way that feels known and safe. Honestly, I believe some of us even have this odd feeling we’re being watched, even when alone. Rebel against that feeling and it’s new, scary, confusing, overwhelming, freeing, and the most YOU you’ve ever experienced. I promise.
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Self Discovery. It’s what I’m here to share."

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💘 THIS IS where, every week, I highlight people that are walking the talk 🥾 and living ABUNDANTLY. I know as a Singles & Dating coach that you can learn powerful lessons from watching & imitating those that are doing it RIGHT. ⁠
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What you focus on 👓 is what you see 👀. Much love, dreamers! ❤️️🌤️⁠
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P.S. If you're ready to take action towards massive self-growth, check out my ultimate 5-Step Formula to get started 🔥

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Want to stop feeling resentful in your relationships?⁠
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👉 SWIPE to learn 3 EASY ways to set boundaries. ⁠
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Learning to SET BOUNDARIES is one of the first steps to PROTECTING your self-worth, being more honest in your relationships, and decreasing the resentment in your life. ⁠
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Where are you on this journey? Let me know in the comments below!⁠
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P.S. If you're not careful, resentment can creep into your life. Learn the 5 step roadmap to becoming SELF-AWARE and setting boundaries, see my ultimate 5 step roadmap by clicking the link in my bio.⁠
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HOW TO BE BOLD IN WHO YOU ARE 👉 SWIPE to see my before & after!⁠
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I turn 25 today 🎉⁠
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To think that 1-2 years ago I was a completely different person than I am today.⁠..⁠
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One of the biggest outward indicators of this is my CLOTHES.⁠
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Two years ago, I was afraid to stand out. ⁠
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I wore clothes that felt "safe". ⁠
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I would get anxiety whenever I tried a different style. ⁠
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I was constantly afraid that others would be judging me for "trying to be too ____" or being "fake".⁠
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One day, I looked at my wardrobe and asked myself WHY it was filled with free t-shirts, clothes that didn't flatter or fit me, and why everything was grey & black. ⁠
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📍 I realized that I had been afraid. ⁠
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📍 I was too worried about how I would come off to others rather than asking myself what I liked.⁠
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📍 Truth was, I had NO IDEA what I liked. I hadn't experimented with it. I didn't have FUN with it.⁠
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When you don't know who you are, it's easy to BLEND IN with everyone around you.⁠
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What areas are you stuck in your life?

Where is fear controlling your decisions and keeping you from growing?⁠
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Shoot me a DM! We'll figure it out together.⁠
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P.S. If you want to build confidence and discover what you want in life and relationships, click the link in bio to get my ultimate formula to discovering identity ❤️
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SWIPE 👉 to learn 5 myths that hold you back in your relationships. ⁠
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If you struggle with having confidence in your relationships and you're tired of rejection, you need to read this.
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Comment below if this post put things into perspective for you. I have a strong feeling it will.⁠
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PS: Challenging & growing your inner emotions is something I teach in my premium program. Click the link in bio to see the COMPLETE roadmap to discovering yourself on the way to love.⁠
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Are you unsure about who you are?⁠
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I believe that self-awareness should be the FOUNDATION of everything that we do.⁠
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If you don't KNOW yourself, then you can't change your life.⁠
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You may ease surface symptoms, but to make lasting change, you need to address your emotions at the core.⁠
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One of the first steps to learn yourself is to learn more of the VOCABULARY that surrounds emotions.⁠
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First, embrace the emotions and don't judge them.⁠
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Then, put a name to it. Be specific. Go beyond "happy" and "sad".⁠
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If you can identify the specific emotion, you're one step closer to solving the root of the issue. ⁠
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Don't be fooled, though. Anger directed outwards is often anger at ourselves. Resentment due to others is commonly resentment towards ourselves. ⁠
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Name it, but don't blame it.⁠
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Acknowledge it. Accept it. Then take responsibility for meeting your needs. ⁠
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To learn more about the framework of Non Violent Communication, check the link in bio. ⁠
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For more content like this, check out my newsletter, where I pack in high value content to intentionally improve your relationships every week! Link in bio. ⁠
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@ Dallas, Texas