ShameOver

What if the thing you’re craving isn’t a drink? 👀

What if you’re craving…

✨ A break
✨ Relief
✨ Connection
✨ Fun
✨ Rest
✨ Quiet
✨ Someone to take care of you for once

Sometimes we reach for the w**e before we’ve even stopped long enough to ask:

“What do I actually need right now?”

That question can change EVERYTHING.

So this September, we’re doing something a little different.

💕 Self♡Tember

30 days of getting curious about YOU — your needs, your patterns, your stress, your joy, your boundaries, your relationship with yourself…
without the cheesy self-help BS.

Because the goal isn’t to become someone new.

It’s to stop abandoning the woman you already are.

And yes… that can change your relationship with alcohol, too. 🍷✨

Self♡Tember starts today. Come play. 💕

Link in bio!

📚Signs you’re an HSP, deeply feeling mama and it’s back to school 🍁

✨ The school supply list gave you low-grade anxiety

✨ You rehearsed what to say (or researched questions to ask the kids) before you even got there

✨ Meet the teacher night wiped you out and you needed a nap

✨ You almost cried at the first day of school photos

✨ The class group chat notifications genuinely stress you out

✨ You’ve been zoning out or reaching for your phone more, just to calm down

✨ You’re easily agitated and the big feelings are BIG this week

✨ You’re counting down to 5pm so you can finally pour that drink

If you said “yes” to at least half of these… you’re likely an HSP mom just like me. And that’s not a flaw, it’s just how you’re wired. And it can truly be your super power.

You need one tool, done deeply, that actually helps you recover.

💕 That’s exactly what Self*tember is for — 30 days, one thing, alongside others just like you, so you’re not doing it alone. 🖤

Join me → link in bio or COMMENT “SELF” and I’ll send it right over!

PS Which one hit different for you? Tell me below 👇

I was really feeling like opening a bottle 🍷 earlier this week.

I was also hungry yet didn’t feel like a meal or snack was necessary. I’m always pretty well hydrated so I knew it wasn’t that either.

I had already done some breathing and regulated myself yet still had a lingering need for something….but it wasn’t going to be alcohol.

So, I walked to my fridge and pulled out this nice, cold kombucha. I sipped on it for 2 hours, and boy am I so happy I did!!!

My belly was happy and content and so was my body and self.

Great reminder to have things on hand ready to go at all times 😉 you never know when the cravings will strike.

Thank you SYNERGY Kombucha for saving the day once again!

🙋‍♀️ How can you set yourself up for success for the weekend or your next trigger/craving? Comment with your fav go-to!

Don’t forget to save this reminder 💋

Sip smarter this summer ☀️🍹

You don’t have to choose between having fun and feeling good. Change your relationship with alcohol, learn to drink on purpose, and discover that your favorite drink might just be the one that leaves you feeling amazing tomorrow. ✨

These are a few of my go-to booze-free summer sips that make moderation SO much easier. Cheers to waking up without the regret. 💛

You love your kids. You also love to drink 🥃 .
And nobody’s talking honestly about what that actually looks like. Until now.

Join shame-free drinking coach Erica Mallery (that’s me!) for an evening of real talk, real laughs, and yes — real drinks — about the sneaky ways parenthood and alcohol intertw**e.

We’re covering:
✅ Why “mommy w**e culture” is everywhere (and why that matters)
✅ What your drinking habits are actually telling you
✅ Simple shifts that make you feel more in control — without giving anything up

No judgment. No lectures. No AA vibes. Just honest conversation with parents who get it.

🚨comment “SIP” to RSVP or checkout the link in bio!

Happy Hour Thursday, June 18

Let’s have some fun - parenting is hard enough!

Alcohol often isn’t just about the alcohol.
For so many women, it has become the support system where support is lacking everywhere else. And that is exactly what this podcast episode is about.

In Part 1, and I talk about:
• what somatic work actually means and why it’s become such a buzzword
• the difference between top-down healing and body-based healing
• why so many women use alcohol to “shut off”
how alcohol can become a stand-in for support, soothing, and regulation
• the role of motherhood, caregiving, and overwhelm in drinking habits
• why co-regulation matters so much more than we’ve been taught
• how Western culture disconnects us from our bodies
• why community can be one of the most healing parts of the journey

🫂comment SPOTIFY or APPLE for the direct link on your preferred platform 💗

About Elani:
Elani Engelken is a depth psychotherapist and somatic healer whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, depth psychology, and embodied healing. She works with individuals, couples, families, and groups to explore the patterns that live beneath the surface, in the body, in the lineage, and in relationship. She is particularly drawn to the places where psychology and the sacred meet. (And she’s really freaking awesome and amazing at what she does!)