09/16/2026
Every parent wants to see their child perform well, achieve and reach their potential.
But when we watch our children take part in activities or competitions, it can be very easy to fall into the age-old trap of becoming the sideline coach as well as the parent.
Expecting a good attitude, strong effort and respectful behaviour is completely reasonable. Children should be encouraged to give their best and held accountable when their effort or attitude falls short.
The difficulty comes when support starts to turn into analysis.
Picking apart their performance, correcting mistakes or giving technical advice can blur the lines between parent and coach. Even when it comes from the best intentions, too many voices can leave a child feeling confused, frustrated or under pressure and ultimately affect both their performance and their enjoyment.
Sometimes the most valuable thing a parent can provide after a performance isn’t another coaching point, it’s a hug, support and affection.
