Mindset for the Modern Mess

I don’t think we ask ourselves “Why did I react that way?” nearly as often as we ask, “Why did they do that?”

Maybe there’s something worth exploring there.

Maybe that’s one of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves...

Not, “What’s wrong with me?”

But, “What is my brain trying so hard to protect me from?”

We’re often excellent observers…
until the person we’re observing is ourself.

Humans are weird. Understanding why helps.

One of the reasons I created Mindset for the Modern Mess is because I love noticing the little things humans do that seem completely normal… until you stop and really think about them.

This was one of those thoughts. ☕💙

One of the things I find most fascinating about being human is how often we trust our fears, our insecurities, and our worst assumptions about ourselves... and we trust them more than we trust our strengths.

Humans are weird. Understanding why helps.

One of the most interesting things about being human is that we often work against the very things we want.

Not because we’re broken.
Not because we’re irrational.

Usually it's because there are patterns running in the background that we don’t fully see yet.

The more we understand those patterns, the less we have to fight ourselves.

Humans are weird.

Understanding why helps.

Most people assume that understanding themselves will make them more critical of themselves.

In my experience, the opposite is usually true.

The more you understand why you think the way you do, react the way you do, or struggle with the things you struggle with… the less time you spend judging yourself for it.

Awareness doesn’t excuse everything... But it often replaces shame with understanding. And that’s a pretty good place to start.

Humans are weird.

Understanding why helps.