Mindy Kay Ray, Firearms Instructor

Here’s the difference between 2 women. One is TRAINED & the other one is the poster on social of “oh my God this creepy guy followed me & I had to have someone in {insert store of choice}, come help.

This morning on my walk, a man passed me on an electric scooter. I was watching the whole time as he passed & made a U-turn. Remember, the “head on a swivel” all the “tactical people” talk about?

He slowed down said good morning & I responded good morning and continued walking unbothered. He continued…”do you like the weather” & I answered yep - move along - I kept walking & pepper spray was prepped & ready @ my right thigh (away from him)& I have it on a lanyard that extends. Seeing I wasn’t interested in his banter, this pi**ed him off. When I made BLATANT EYE CONTACT & turned to face him head on…his smile stopped (maybe bc he saw pepper spray) and got smart suddenly 🤓 and a more menacing look crossed his face. He 1/2 spat “nice tattoo for a b@&$h”…

Here’s where I wanted to wink & say “I’m indeed not the huckleberry you want to try today sir” but I didn’t.

& off he went.

I think it’s a nice tattoo too ☺️

Instead of afraid without options BE READY.
I had:
🔺a personal alarm
🔺pepper spray for less lethal
🔺Firearm LITERALLY at the ready loaded with 18 rounds of appropriate defensive ammunition. Just in case
he chose to make the block & try again.

Now that being said…you can simply “have the same tools as I do” the difference is THE TRAINING. If HE DOES THIS - THEN I DO THIS.

Fi****ms training.
MINDSET training.
Less lethal training. Do you know how far pepper spray reaches?
People training - MANAGING UNKNOWN CONTACTS.
Understanding the LAWS that relate to using force or deadly force.

My 🧰 for my morning walk…
Vertex F***y pack/ crossbody
Sig 365 Macro
Crossbreed modular holster
Pepper gel on an extended lanyard
Personal alarm
My DAMN 🧠 & the wherewithal to understand I AM NOT A VICTIM & NO ONE WILL GET TO ME BEFORE THE ATTACK IS OVER.

You don’t rise to the occasion—you fall to your level of preparation.

In a violent encounter, there’s no time to think, only time to act.
If you don’t have a plan, your brain will panic.
If you haven’t trained, your body will freeze.

Prepared women respond.

Unprepared women react—if they can.

Which one will you be?

www.mindykayray.com for training.

💁🏻‍♀️ K thanks

She’s a single mama @ 54 years old & knew she needed to protect herself & her family. I’m very proud of this review.
It’s tough for so many women who realize they are on their own.

No knight in shining armor to protect her.

I’m here to help you with your personal safety plan ❤️❤️❤️

On June 6, 1944
Over 4,000 men died so that YOUR FREEDOM
did not. 🇺🇸

🙏❤️🤍💙🇺🇸 Thank you for the sacrifices made.

On May 23, 1934, near Gibsland, Louisiana, a team of determined lawmen brought an end to the deadly crime spree of two notorious outlaws.

While history tends to remember the names Bonnie and Clyde, far fewer people recognize the officers who risked everything that day: Frank Hamer, Maney Gault, Henderson Jordan, Prentiss Oakley, Bob Alcorn, and Ted Hinton.

Is it time to take that gun class? I’ll get you ready for your LTC!

https://mindykayray.com/event/beginner-handgun-bring-a-friend-for-free-7/

Jeffro says “moom it’s a bit windy” 💨

Everybody in the shooting world knows the name Jerry Miculek.
The speed. The records. The impossible reloads. The legend.

But not nearly enough people know Kay.

And honestly…that feels backwards once you meet her.

I met Kay years ago at the annual Babes with Bullets 3-Gun match — one of those events that brought together women from all over the country to learn, compete, laugh, and build confidence behind the gun. The kind of place where skill mattered, but encouragement mattered SO MUCH more.

Jerry’s name drew attention.
Kay’s presence held the room together.
Also, Lena is a legend in her own right!

Kay wasn’t trying to be “the wife of a legend.”
She was simply herself — warm, humble, funny, welcoming. Just a woman who loved the shooting community and the people in it.

What struck me most was how many shooters walked up excited to meet Jerry…then walked away talking about Kay.

The shooting industry tends to celebrate speed, trophies, and records. But the longer you stay around it, the more you realize the people who truly shape the culture are often the quiet ones in the background — the ones making people feel welcome, encouraging new shooters, and creating community.

She represented something bigger than competition. She represented what this community is supposed to feel like:
supportive, approachable, and deeply human.

Everybody knows Jerry Miculek.

But the people lucky enough to know Kay understand there’s another kind of greatness standing right beside him.

😂😂 true story