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I think I took for granted a lot of things I didn’t consider before babies and just learned during this chapter (even though I thought I had it somewhat planned out).⬇️

1. How training in evenings was such a luxury.
2. Being able to do open mat, seminars, you name it at the drop of a hat and now I plan intensely to do anything.🙃
3. How fatigued my brain and body are breastfeeding
4. I think I still have postpartum waves. It’s not all bad but there are days where it’s rough, most are good though, I thought it was only like the first 2-5 months.
5. Having a helpful and caring husband has been priceless. ❤️ .lense is always ready to help take the load and that is invaluable to me.
6. Wondering when I’ll ever feel “normal” again is apparently just going to be an ongoing process.
7. You have to be MORE flexible then you’ve ever been and willing to adapt to ways that will keep you encouraged to not quit.

I never considered quitting jiu jitsu but honestly there have been days I just wondered if I could adapt. There has been A LOT of outside life curveballs we have battled also the last two years I may share one day. The kind of years where life keeps beating you down while your on the ground. What I can say that helped me hold on to my small sparks to keep going have been visiting the gym to just say hi, or watch class, try to go when I could even twice a month, watch other moms train to give me encouragement. And those small sparks are what has kept me alive.

Had life had less curveballs it still would have been a turn of learning most of those things above. But somehow with the hell, it’s also brought a lot of nearness to God and deep appreciation for people in life, this sport once again has been a small escape for a bit and a place to quiet my mom brain. Jiu-jitsu is easy to quit if you don’t make it part of life, it’s taxing, an investment both time and money and just a lot of commitment. But it’s also what has kept me going in wanting to stay healthy and fit (hating the thought of regression), and keep the relationships like family that are in our gym. Life is filled with hard, but that’s a good reminder to let us know we’re alive❤️

Just two moms rolling❤️

FYI has been of the most inspiring women to me for many reasons.

-She’s a mom of 3.
-Killer purple belt
-An absolute savage but nicest person you’ll meet.

That right there is a person who sharpens me❤️ and makes me feel like I’m not sucking at motherhood as I navigate what the heck I’m doing 🙃

Summer vibes loading☀️☀️

Life lately.

Getting back with consistency.🥐🍓🥥🍠
Constantly changing plans and adapting to life🙃
LOTS of walks to keep me sane when I can’t workout.
Jiu-Jitsu when I can ❤️
Elijah’s rat tail growing strong 😂

Gained 50lbs. Been working my way back to goals. Losing as much blood as I did I didn’t realize the insane journey of hormones and healing it was needed. What I’ve been learning:

1. Pregnancy is crazy miraculous.
2. Training jiu jitsu is not linear for everyone. And I was upset when I didn’t get to go back weeks later.
3. You’re stronger than you think, if you want to be.
4. Feelings right now change often (find your support pillar-this is .lense for me and my sis)
5. As much pain and hardship the cycle is, I’d do it again. The love is indescribable ❤️
6. It’s a lot like jiu jitsu journey, it IS the journey. There is no “making it”.

Here we are, back at it. Slowly. Not super consistently. But not stopping 😘

Love these girls. Love our rolls. Always will.

Ps. Always been grateful for a safe gym where women are protected. 🌸💜🌼

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
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As hard as it’s been not training like I’ve been used to for 10 years. Being able to teach an empower others with the knowledge over time is exactly what was needed❤️

It’s all a process.💁🏼‍♀️❤️