How to Catch a Cheating Heart

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"To the players out there"... A good woman is only going to put up with your s**t for so long until she emotionally checks out! It's at that point, even a good woman might seek out another man to meet her emotional needs. Once a woman stops arguing about your whereabouts and stops trying to poke holes in your lies, she's planning her exit strategy. So when your woman becomes desperate for a little excitement, blame yourself player not the other guy!!! , ,

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Golden rule: When caught in a lie, a cheating heart will always try to redirect the conversation and many times, start an argument just to try and find a leg to stand on. Always remember, that most Cheaters are Master Manipulators! With that said, Manipulators, Cheater’s and abusive people never question themselves, they will always try to find fault in others to justify their actions. Cheaters don’t play by the rules, they will always bend & break them to suit their selfish heart...

Today’s Heartbeat Minute is my version of a “Ed Talks”. It’s not a misprint since my name is Eddie (Ed).

Ever wanted to be a CEO? Well let’s think about that notion for a minute. What kind of company would you want to be in charge of? What kind of employees would you choose to hire? If you had to choose only one person to run your company and share responsibilities that would determine the success or failures of your company, who would that one person be? What qualities or traits would you want your COO (Chief Operating Officer) to posess?

Next, ask yourself what traits, characteristics or decisions do the most successful CEO’s have or make on a daily basis, that has helped their companies to thrive and succeed?

Well, I’m here to empower you and tell you that YOU have that opportunity, but here’s the best part... You need to hear me loud and clear when I say “YOU ARE THE CEO OF YOUR LIFE!” You may laugh for a minute or think this is a joke, but you would be wrong about that.

Most people fail to realize that you are the CEO of your life. So what does that mean? When it comes to RELATIONSHIPS, it truly means that you are sole person responsible for making the DECISIONS that are going to affect
Happiness or sadness, your relationship successes or failures.

When you start looking for the ideal relationship partner, this person must possess all the qualities you would look for, in an employee to help run the day to day operations of your company. Remember, you are the COMPANY! This means you must be prepared to interview every potential applicant with a fine tooth comb, because if you choose wrong, this person could ultimately destroy your company? Starting to get the picture?

So what matters in hiring and finding the right applicant? Well since this pertains to being in an intimate relationship, ask yourself what matters to you?... at the same time, you have to think back to what all successful CEO’s have in common when building their companies.

You must first choose wisely, so here are some key points to follow.

1. How much do looks matter? They matter to most people and after all, image does matter when it comes to the workplace in most instances and to most people in choosing their ideal mate.
2. Look into past job/relationships history. What does this mean? If this applicant was applying for the top position in your company, wouldn’t you want to know if this employee was fired from multiple jobs? Next, what kinds of jobs has this person held? Remember, for most high level jobs, most applicants have to meet certain prerequisites to even apply. There are far too many people in the world that get into relationships (hire the wrong person) based on their looks without doing their homework to find the right applicant.
3. Being a CEO requires making tough decisions on a day to day basis. Are you up for the challenge? If not, you are going to have this person running your life, which equates to running your company. Why would you ever choose to have the wrong person run your company, make poor decisions, possibly ruin your company’s good name, and then quit your company in the end, to join a new company!
4. So you absolutely must be prepared to write up this employee (relationship mate), move forward with progressive disciplinary actions and ultimately TERMINATE this person should they continue to fail at their job. This means failing at making you happy, respecting you, and taking care of you.
5 Finally, this person (applicant) must not only meet but should exceed your expectations! Be sure to read this entire chapter in my forthcoming book “How to Catch a Cheating Heart”.

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I’ve always said that everything in life is about perspective, so let’s talk about that today. What I’m about to tell you is a true story... I recently was put into a situation a few months back where two people who meant an awful lot to me were dealing with life changing situations. One was a good friend, whose wife had cheated on him and left him for another man, which was utterly devastating to my friend. The other was a patient of mine who was a mid 30’s married female, who was a mother to a beautiful 8 yo daughter, and was dying from metastatic breast cancer. In the end, my patient died on my shift and I watched her die in front of her entire family. Needless to say, this broke my heart to pieces and will have an impact on my life as long as I shall live. As for my friend, I shared this story with him and told him I understand his pain and validated his pain because it is real. I also told him that I have been in his shoes 👞 several times in my life. The moral of the story, is when you think you have it bad, realize that someone out there has it worse. This is especially true when that other person is dealing with a terminal diagnosis and are hours or days away from death. When it comes to relationships, many of us feel as if we are going to die when they come to an end, especially if it wasn’t what we wanted. Many of us have been there, where you don’t want to eat, work, can’t focus, can’t sleep, etc. I wanted to share this story to tell you a few things:

*If given the choice, what do you think my patient would’ve chose and what would you choose?

1. to have her husband cheat on her and leave her for another woman or

2. get to raise her daughter on her own as a single parent while her husband went off with that other woman?

I think we all would choose answer #2. Please think about this story the next time you are going through heartache in your relationship or the next time your spouse, bf/gf, or life partner starts to put you through some BS... Remember, life is too short to let some no good, unworthy, untrusting, or unfaithful SOB ruin your life! Be thankful for having good health, being able to breathe on your own, and having the ability to make a choice! Finally, be thankful that you will get to see the sun rise another day...
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All to often in today's dating world, the minute something goes wrong or he or she doesn't meet your full expectations, your eyes suddenly begin to wander. Remember, the grass in your yard won't stay green forever on its own, you have to water it daily... ,

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"If you hang around dogs, you are bound to catch fleas"!
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Always remember to characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words...
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You can't expect to weather a storm and come out the same person. Remember, "The strongest oak in the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against winds, rains, and the scorching sun."
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So what is "real love"? I mean genuine, honest, and authentic love? From the very beginning, real love should be selfless, not selfish. Real love should always give more than it takes. Real love is about respect, equality, and having a moral compass regarding the actions one takes, while in a committed relationship. Real love never undermines, manipulates, or compromises it's values. Real love will always manifest, so others can see its one true face... "Happiness". Remember, I love you means nothing without the actions to back the words... ,

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There is nothing worse than getting out of a bad relationship and realizing, you just wasted months or years on someone who never intended on a happily ever after with you...

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Letting go of the past is your first step towards happiness...
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