Zendaze Yoga

Kegels aren’t the villain, but they’re not the

whole story either, and I wish someone told

me that sooner.

Here’s the myth:

pelvic floor issues = weak

pelvic floor = squeeze it more.

Do enough Kegels and everything snaps

back.

Here’s the truth:

your pelvic floor is part of a pressure system

that includes your diaphragm,

your deep core muscles,

and even your glutes and hips.

If those muscles aren’t coordinating with

each other, more Kegels can actually make

things worse

especially if your pelvic floor is already tight

or overworked, not just weak.

My favorite Functional Pelvic Floor PT

explains it like this:

think of your core as a soda can.

Your diaphragm is the top,

your pelvic floor is the bottom,

and your deep abdominal and back muscles

are the sides.

If one part of that can isn’t working with the

others, squeezing harder on just one spot

doesn’t fix the pressure problem it just

moves it somewhere else.

That’s why so many of us did our Kegels

religiously postpartum and still dealt with

leaking, heaviness, or that pelvic floor giving

out on you feeling.

We were only working one piece of a much

bigger system.

The real fix involves breath,

alignment, and full-body coordination

not just squeeze-and-release on repeat.

If your nervous system is stuck in high-alert

mode, by the way, that shows up in your

pelvic floor too

tension doesn’t just live in your shoulders.

That’s a whole conversation of its own

(one I get into in The Soft Reset, first button

in my profile).

Two years ago I got hit.

Then hit again.

Back to back car accidents in 2024.

Nobody’s asking if I’m better yet.

That question lives in my own head now.

I’ve done the work. Chiropractic

adjustments. Pelvic floor physical therapy to

strengthen the muscles that had to

compensate for everything my back

couldn’t do anymore.

Deep tissue massages that leave bruises

I’m weirdly proud of.

And of course, my yoga.

I show up for all of it.

And I still can’t sit on the floor with my kids

for more than a few minutes before my back

starts screaming.

Laundry, the most basic task on earth, still

wrecks me some days.

I used to fold into deep backbends in my

own yoga practice.

Now I modify moves I used to teach without

even thinking about them.

Nobody talks about this part.

The part where you’re doing everything

“right” and your body still hasn’t gotten the

memo. Where healing isn’t a straight line

from injured to fixed, it’s just… managing.

Some days better, some days you’re back

on the floor wondering why you bothered

with all that PT homework.

I’m not sharing this for sympathy.

I’m sharing it because I know some of you

are also doing the work and still asking your

own brain the same question I am.

Drop a 🙋‍♀️ below if you’re also still healing

from something you thought would be over

by now.

First button in my profile if you want

movement that meets your body where it’s

actually at,

not where the recovery timeline says it

should be.

The link is live. Grab your spot.

ZenDaze Yoga starts at Shanty & Co in St

Augustine on August 17th,

4:30 to 5:30pm.

Bring your kid, or don’t stress if they’d rather

go play a few feet away instead.

Either way, you get your hour of movement

and quiet you’ve been needing.

This is postnatal yoga for moms who are

running on fumes and just want one hour

that’s actually theirs.

No pressure, no guilt, just come as you are.

Spots are limited so don’t wait on this one.

Drop a 🙋‍♀️ if you’re coming, or tag a mom

friend who needs this.

First button in my profile to sign up.

See you in a week, friends!

So naturally they pivoted to a new activity,

which was climbing on top of me during

bridge pose pulses like I was a jungle gym

and not their mother trying to keep my hips

up. Then they moved on to sitting on my

legs during hollow hold leg pumps because

apparently mommy needed more resistance

training. Free added weight I did not sign up

for but somehow still laughed through the

entire time.

It was hot. We were sweating. At one point I

genuinely questioned my life choices mid

pulse with a toddler using me as a seat.

This is postnatal fitness in the wild and

nobody warns you it looks like this.

Then we got in the car, handed them ice

cold drinks, and just like that everyone was

best friends again.

Instant mood reset. Turns out the real

workout was surviving the heat and the

second workout was the emotional whiplash

of toddlers.

Ten out of ten morning.

Would do it again purely for the chaos.

Tell me the last time your kid turned your

workout into their own personal jungle gym.

I need to know I am not alone here.

And if you want movement that actually

meets you where you are as a postpartum

mom, my guide is the first button in my

profile.

ZenDaze Yoga is officially at Shanty & Co in

St Augustine.

Mommy and me classes kick off August 17th

and 31st, 4:30 to 5:30pm.

Your kid can join you on the mat,

or go play close by in the same space.

Either way, you still get your hour.

This is postnatal yoga made for moms who

are overstimulated,

overwhelmed,

and just need one hour where nobody needs

anything from them.

No pressure to entertain your kid the whole

time. No guilt if they wander off to play.

Both options work.

Drop a 🙋‍♀️ in the comments if you’re

coming, or tag a mom friend who needs this

on her calendar.

Happy National Breastfeeding Week from

my minivan,

where the snacks live and the nursing cover

has never once been used.

Nobody tells you breastfeeding awareness

week actually looks like this.

Not a rocking chair.

Not soft lighting.

A parking lot and a coffee that’s been cold

since 9am and I’m still drinking it out of

principle.

We put breastfeeding on posters

like it’s one peaceful bonding montage.

The real postpartum version is cluster

feeding at 2am and nursing wherever you

can pull over.

Feeding your baby however and wherever

you can get it done is enough.

It doesn’t need a nursery or a Pinterest

board, just you showing up and doing it

anyway.

Tell me the weirdest place you’ve fed your

baby. I need to know I’m not the only one

running a nursing operation out of a parking

lot.

If you’re rebuilding postpartum on your own

timeline, no bounce back required,

A Come Back Guide, Not a Bounce Back

Guide is the first button in my profile.

Postnatal yoga getting labeled as

“just stretching” is the reason so many

moms think their bodies aren’t responding

to it.

Here’s what’s actually happening in a real

postnatal yoga practice.

Every pose is asking your deep core and

pelvic floor to work together instead of one

overpowering the other, which is exactly

what pregnancy and birth disrupted in the

first place. The slow pace isn’t a lack of

intensity, it’s what lets your nervous system

come out of high alert mode long enough for

your body to actually rebuild instead of just

bracing through another workout.

That’s the part nobody explains.

You’re not doing yoga to relax around your

recovery.

You’re doing yoga because it’s one of the

only things that talks to your nervous

system and your deep core at the same

time.

If you’ve been doing crunches and

wondering why nothing feels stronger,

this is probably why.

This is exactly the kind of rebuilding work I

teach inside A Come Back Guide, Not a

Bounce Back Guide, because postpartum

recovery was never about bouncing back to

who you were.

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