Queerly Attached

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Episode 5 of Q***rly Attached — “It’s Not Just a Knot” — dives into the emotional side of massage therapy with Estelle Strother of Metamorphosis Massage LLC. She shares her personal story of medical neglect due to identity as a bisexual woman. We chat about healing deeply tied to q***r identity, safety, and the spaces we create for each other. 🌈👐

🎧 Tune in now to hear how massage becomes a practice of empowerment and release.
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I did it. Last night. For the first time. Doing it again tonight because why not? I didn’t have any birthday plans 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😉

My son.

I was searching my 92,293 photos (I don’t trust The Cloud) for a pic of me as a kid so I searched, “kid” 😅

This was the top result. A photo of us taken during the eclipse on April 8, 2024. Guess what?

This was also the day Q***rly Attached was born into existence. And just like my son (except in dog years) Q***rly Attached has grown and evolved unlike I expected but exactly like I needed.

Guess what else? April 8, 2014 was the day of my spinal cord injury emergency surgery. The day they told me my life, my body and motherhood weren’t going to look at all like I had expected. On April 8, 2024 when we took this pic, you better believe I marked the date. 10 years between my “death” and “rebirth”. And there I was on a baseball field I was coaching him on, enjoying the eclipse.

Finding this photo of us is also right on par with what I’ve learn about my own evolution and expansion. When I’m aligned and self attuned, I am in flow. There are times I haven’t felt in flow and I’ve resisted the ride. Then there always seems to be a “call back” to the start.

Like a Remembering of where you began is required before your next expansion. This call to Remembering also seems to come right after a contraction. Right after the moment I decide to stop choosing fear and get aligned again with my desire and goal. The contraction ends…because my resistance ended. It always passes when I allow it. And that is Flow! I accept it’s the trade off, part of the deal, when you’re seeking expansion!

I turn 42 years old tomorrow. Celebrating by signing up for my first open mic night…tonight! That’s how I roll 🤷🏻‍♀️ 🎉

I honor this photo as the Call To Remembering that it was, a moment to revisit the emotions of that day. The joy. The determination. The deep knowing that this was a choice that could change lives. Mine and his, first and foremost. 💝

What does an e-bike, a luna moth, and a podcast hiatus have in common? They all taught me about letting go of perfectionism. Talking about all three on Ep 4!

Hope you’ll have a listen!

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5v9V55umFZEr0Ui2exqYXH?si=L304EUlcRGunMEpfydjlZg&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A5aLLklSKKjGd4L1RrwV3Gl

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I used to hate Pride.

Not because I didn’t want to belong.
But because I had been taught that belonging meant rejecting myself.

Twenty years ago on this day,
I was getting ready to serve a Mormon mission. Entering the Missionary Training Center(MTC).
I had repented—over and over—for what they called my “same-sex attraction.”
I was proud to wear that missionary badge.
That badge meant I was Choosing The Right.
That I was safe. Redeemable. Worthy.

I entered the MTC in June.
While some people were marching in rainbows, I was learning Spanish, memorizing scriptures and praying away the gay.

When I first saw Pride parades,
I judged them.
Not because they were wrong,
but because I was still trying to stay in a story that never saw me fully. It wasn’t Pride I really hated, it was me.

But here’s what I know now:
Every person has their badge.
Their symbol of belonging.
Something they once clung to because it made them feel worthy, even if it came at the cost of authenticity.

Mine just happened to be religious.
Yours might have been approval. Perfectionism. Silence.

But Pride?
Pride is what happens when we pivot.
When we choose presence over performance.
When we stop wearing what made us feel worthy and start becoming who we actually are. Happy Pride month friends! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ❤️💛💚💙💜 ***rhealing

I’m proud to be part of the Education Tent at the 2025 KC PrideFest! 🌈✨
The Education Tent is a place to celebrate our brilliance and dig into the issues that matter most.
Catch my session 💬 Q***r & Clear: Connecting Through Conflict—
If you’ve ever shut down mid-fight, spiraled after a text, or performed connection while feeling totally alone, this chat is for you.
We’re unpacking how to move from reactivity to realness, and how to reconnect with yourself first.
🎟 Grab your tickets to KC PrideFest now at bit.lyKCPrideFestTix


🗓️ June 7th @ 5:30pm
📍 Education Tent, Theis Park, KC PrideFest &gold ***rattachment ***rhealing

🌈 Q***rMMunity is now a real thing!
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🌈 Let’s chat attachment in the Wellness Tent at KC PrideFest! 2nd year in the tent and can’t to see someone of you again! KC Q***rs show out for this event 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
Curious about your attachment style? Want to learn how to stop spiraling in q***r relationships and start showing up with confidence, clarity, and calm? That’s my jam and I get to share all about it at KC PrideFest!

✨ I’ll be at the Wellness Tent on June 7th from 12:00–4:30pm with info on our local Q***rMMunity group I’ve got a free attachment quiz, Pride coloring pages and I won’t let you leave without a Q***rly Attached sticker😊 Come out and support small businesses, holistic healers and wellness providers!

I am also excited to be presenting again in the Education Tent! This year I’m speaking about “Creating Q***r Joy” June 7th at 5:30pm. I’ll save you a seat!
Come say hi & grab a sticker💬💖

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You don’t set a boundary to control someone. You set it to stay connected to yourself.

A boundary says:
“This is what I need.
And this is what I’ll do to honor it.”

If they cross the line but you stay?
That’s not a boundary. That’s a wish at best. And wishes don’t keep you safe actions do.

Want to avoid another situationship?
Get clear on what you need before you fall for the potential.

Start with this question:
What’s one need I’ve abandoned in the past that I won’t abandon now?

Follow for more q***r clarity in dating, conflict & communication!

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I didn’t grow up learning how to stay with myself.
I learned how to hide. How to please. How to adapt.
How to be lovable, even if that meant being invisible.

Growing up gay in a high-demand religious system, I became an expert in shape-shifting—
not because I lacked identity,
but because I was trying to protect it.

But here’s what they don’t tell you:
Self-abandonment feels safe until it starts costing you your life.
Your voice. Your joy. Your truth.
Your timeline.

This post is for anyone who’s ever asked,
“Is it okay to be all of me?”
And still feared the cost.

If that’s you:
You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep surviving.
You get to practice staying.

That’s what we’re doing in Q***rMMUnity
at , twice a month,
q***r joy, q***r healing & play!

We don’t just talk about healing.
We practice it. Together.

Come join us. You belong here.

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