Cooperative Coparenting

Trying to set boundaries with a co-parent and feeling emotionally exhausted? Are you stuck in the same cycle of over-explaining, second-guessing, and hoping that something sticks?

The Boundaries Bootcamp can help. We will help you get clear on how, when, and what to do to set a boundary that works and sticks. No more over-explaining.

If this feels like the support you need, comment "BOUNDARY," and I'll send you more info. 💙

When your kids have to pack a suitcase every time they leave one parent’s house for the other, it can unintentionally send the message: I’m visiting here.

But your child shouldn’t feel like a visitor in either home. They deserve to have clothes, comfort items, toys, and everyday essentials that feel like theirs — and they deserve to know their belongings are welcome to move with them, too.

- That may mean those sneakers you bought don’t make it back for a while. 👟
- It may mean their favorite toy travels between homes. 🧸
- It may mean letting go of “who bought what” so your child can feel ownership, comfort, and belonging. 🫶

Because in Cooperative Co-parenting, the goal isn’t to protect the stuff, it’s to protect your child’s sense of home and belonging. 🏡

For more support on building security for your child after separation or divorce, my book “Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids” is available through the link in my bio. 💙

A breakup doesn’t just hurt, it can shake your entire attachment system.

The person who once held the role of your attachment figure, now feels like a source of pain, threat, or instability, and your nervous system responds accordingly. A breakup can also reactivate old wounds that originated in childhood, making them feel brand new. And because this activation can happen for both people, your co-parent may also be showing up in ways that feel unfamiliar, extreme, or out of character for them.

But healing is possible. When you begin to understand what’s being activated, you can start responding with more awareness, care for the part of you that feels threatened, understand where it comes from, and stop personalizing your co-parent’s behaviors.

Follow along for more co-parenting tips, attachment insight, and support for building a healthier path forward. 👍

Seeing the red and green flags before you introduce a new partner to your kids is so important. These 3 questions can help guide you.

If your new partner creates division, is not supportive of the structure you already have in place with your co-parent, or is in any way competitive with the attention and care you provide your child, they may not be good for your kid, your co-parenting team, or fundamentally for you.

Introducing someone new is a big step — not just for you, but for your child’s emotional world.

So before you look only at how this person makes you feel, pause and consider how their presence may impact your child’s sense of safety, stability, and belonging. 💙

✅ You send the long message.
✅ You clarify every detail.
✅ You defend your intention.
✅ You try to prove that you’re being fair, reasonable, flexible, or child-centered.

And sometimes, yes — clear communication is important.

But the deeper question is:

➡️ Why does being misunderstood feel so unbearable?

For many co-parents, the issue is not that they don’t know how to communicate. It’s that boundaries still feel emotionally dangerous, so what looks like “communication” is often actually protection.

✋ Protection from conflict.
✋ Protection from guilt.
✋ Protection from being seen as the problem.
✋ Protection from the discomfort of letting someone else have their own reaction.

A boundary does not become more valid because you explain it perfectly, and your peace does not have to depend on whether your co-parent agrees with your perspective.

The work is learning to communicate clearly — without abandoning yourself in the process. 💙