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Your SP chose someone else…

F*CK
That hurts

You see them together & your stomach drops

Your brain does what it’s always done…
“See… it’s over”
“Why would they come back now?”

& before you know it…
You’re comparing yourself to them.

Are they prettier? Funnier? More confident? Less anxious?

What do they have that I don’t?

This was me too…guilty as charged 😂

Back then, I thought a third party was the BIGGEST obstacle you could have when manifesting someone

I mean…

How are they supposed to choose YOU when they’re already choosing somebody else?

It felt like the END.

Except…
It wasn’t.

Because the thing that changed everything for me wasn’t getting rid of the third party.

It was realising the importance I was giving them in MY reality

In my movie… like, hello?! I’m the main character!😂

& when I really looked at WHY their existence bothered me so much…

It was never actually about them

It was about what they confirmed:

That I wasn’t chosen

& suddenly every relationship I’d ever had flashed before my eyes

Different people. circumstances & excuses

But underneath?

The SAME story.

A reason they couldn’t choose me

I’d bend over backwards trying to be “easy” so they wouldn’t leave

Pretend I didn’t have needs because I didn’t want to scare them off

Accept the bare minimum because at least they were still there

Made them my whole world while abandoning myself

& it became clear as day…

I was doing ALL of it hoping they would finally choose me…

Because I assumed I wasn’t chosen

So of course I kept experiencing reasons why they couldn’t choose me

My reality was faithfully reflecting my assumption

The penny-dropped…

If I’d created the story, I could create a different one

If I started seeing myself as the woman who WAS chosen…

Why would there need to be somebody else chosen instead?

Goodbye third party 👋 😂

& before you think…
“Easy for you to say, Candice…”

I once had an SP who had a third party

The circumstances did NOT look favourable

& yes…
I manifested the third party away

They even started comparing me favourably to them 🤭

I’m breaki

A few years ago I spent FIVE MONTHS trying to manifest someone.

The funny thing is…

At the time, I genuinely believed I was manifesting.

Looking back now…

I can clearly see that I wasn’t 🙈

I actually saw them nearly every day.

So if there was ever going to be movement…

Surely I’d see it.

Right?

I remember sitting there thinking…

“This can’t be working.”

Because if it was…

Surely I’d see something.

A text.

A little more effort.

A sign.

Anything.

Instead…

Every day felt like a constant game of…

“They definitely like me.”

Five minutes later…

“Actually… maybe they don’t.”

Honestly…

It was exhausting.

I see this so much in my community and with my clients.

They’ll tell me,

“Candice… I’ve been manifesting my SP for a year.”

Have you though?

Or…

Have you spent a year TRYING to convince yourself it’s working while checking every five minutes to see if it’s worked yet?

Because they’re two completely different things.

It wasn’t until I realised what I’d been doing wrong….

That they confessed their feelings for me ONE WEEK LATER.

I’ve broken down exactly what I realised, how I stopped wavering, got into the “it’s done” state, and finally manifested my SP in my latest Substack article… so you can stop waiting for the 3D to change and finally receive your relationship too.

💌 Comment “SPDONE” below and I’ll send it to you. 😉

From someone who has manifested many SPs & is now married to one 🥰

When I first started my Law of Assumption journey to manifesting my SP, I genuinely thought I was “living in the end.”

Meanwhile I was like:
“Why the bloody hell is the 3D not showing me what I want?”
“Where the hell are they?”
“Why is there still no movement?”

& I know so many of you are in that exact place right now

But sometimes you’re not fully in the state to receive them yet… even though you think you are

So here are 3 REAL signs you actually are:

1. You feel different within yourself

You’re more focused on yourself
You’re calmer
More detached
More secure

You’re not spending all day trying to micromanage your SP or force movement

& no, this doesn’t mean you never think about them

You just think from the story you WANT

Because this journey is never really about the SP.
They are reflecting YOU.

We don’t actually want the person
We want the feeling we think they’ll give us:

Chosen
Loved
Wanted
Prioritised
Secure

So when you start giving that to yourself internally, they naturally start reflecting it

2. Birds before land

Angel numbers
Signs
Hearing things
Seeing things

But not in the:
“OMG WHAT DOES 111 MEAN?!” 😭 way

More like:
“It’s done”

When I was manifesting marriage & pregnancy, I had this inner knowing ALL the time

I always knew my first baby would be a girl before I was even pregnant

It was like my body already knew before the 3D caught up

3. Other people start treating you the way you want your SP to treat you

People pursue you more
Exes come back
People become more interested in you
You feel more wanted & prioritised

And I know some of you are like:
“Okay great Candice but why is it everyone EXCEPT my SP?” 😭

Usually because you have less resistance & less story with those people

So if OTHER people are already reflecting the new version of you back?

That’s actually a REALLY good sign

You just need to keep persisting in the new story of SP

Still checking your phone every 6 min waiting for your SP to realise you’re the love of their life?😭

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Why Yo

A few years ago I’d been manifesting someone for five months.

Then I finally made a decision...

One week later...

They confessed their feelings for me.

But honestly...

That wasn’t even the craziest part.

We sat down together afterwards...

And naturally, five months of questions came pouring out of me.

“What were you thinking when this happened?”

“What about that day?”

“When you looked at me like that... what did that mean?”

“When you said this... what were you actually feeling?”

I wanted answers to everything I’d spent months analysing.

And I honestly couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Everything.

Literally everything.

Every assumption I’d been affirming.

Every story I’d imagined they were thinking.

Every thought I’d assumed they were having.

They repeated it back to me.

Word.

For.

Word.

One thing still makes me smile.

Months earlier, I’d had this really random thought...

“I bet Instagram just keeps showing them my videos.”

Then after we’d got together, I asked them,

“When did you realise you liked me?”

They laughed and said,

“I was sitting there one night and your Instagram videos just kept coming up. I just kept watching them all and realised... this isn’t normal. I must really like her.”

I just sat there smiling.

Because it was another assumption...

Repeated back to me.

They hadn’t suddenly started liking me that final week.

They’d liked me the ENTIRE TIME.

Looking back...

The movement had been there all along.

I just couldn’t see it.

The shift happened in me first.

I’ve broken down exactly what that shift was, how I stopped wavering, got into the “it’s done” state, and finally manifested my SP one week later in my latest Substack article... so you can do the same.

💌 Comment “SPDONE” and I’ll send it to you. 😉

You say you want them back…

But every day…

You’re reminding yourself they ghosted you.

You’re reminding yourself they rejected you.

You’re reminding yourself what they said.

You’re reminding yourself how much they hurt you.

You’re reminding yourself why they probably won’t choose you.

I know that’s hard to hear because I did exactly the same thing.

But you have to understand…

You are always the one writing the script.

So every time you keep telling yourself the old story…

You’re writing more of it.

So don’t be surprised when you keep getting more of version of them that you DON’T want 😂

Trust me, I know it hurts babe….

BUT… the old version of your SP is in the past.

The only place they still exist…

Is in your mind.

And you’re keeping them alive.

What you write from this moment forward…

Is what creates your future.

As someone that has manifested many SP’s and has taught my clients how to…

I go much deeper into how to let go of the old version of your SP so that you can experience the one you actually want in my new YouTube Video

Comment “SPOLD” & I’ll send you the link to watch now 🩵

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