Andrew James Eastman - Dating & Relationship Coach

How’s your relationship with your subconscious?

Do you even know?

It’s ok if you don’t, most people don’t so it’s normal

But if you don’t learn about it and get it sorted

You’ll continue to attract junk and have junk relationships if any at all

Your subconscious is the part of you that you work to hide

The part of you that wants to tear people’s heads off

The part of you that feels like a loser

The part of you that can’t figure out why life has been so unforgiving

It’s the part of you that is so disappointed

The part of you that wonders why even try anymore sometimes

And the reason that part is such a hidden problem

And I say hidden because it wreaks havoc on your life without you even realizing it

Is because it is actually the strongest energetic force in you

So it dictates your vibes

Even if you have it “all together” on the surface

Even if you’ve accomplished all sorts of stuff

If you’re struggling to nail down an awesome relationship or keep attracting one’s that fail or just aren’t it

It’s because you’re repressing your subconscious and that’s like putting a bandaid over a thorn in your toe

The pain might go away for a while but every time it gets touched by the countless triggers in life that it’s sensitive to, it overrides your system and sends all sorts of repelling energy off you to keep anything good far away

It’s basically like having a completely irrational and unreasonable passenger who keeps grabbing the wheel in panic every time it sees a bird fly by

Imagine driving down the road like that

Not good right

But it’s terrified and trying to steer you back to “safety”

And it’s definition of safety is far away from anything that could touch its tender thorn wound

So that means encounters where women might reject you

That means situations where your woman if you already have one, flips out at you or even cheats on you because it has been having you do all this self betraying stuff like kiss her ass or work overtime to prove yourself to her

It’s afraid of losing love, or not getting love, or worst of all-feeling the pain of rejection one more time

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If you think that you’ll ever find the love of your life in the future, you’ll be waiting forever

This is the paradox of the universe

Decide WHO YOU ARE

KNOW who you are

And then sit back and let the world line up accordingly

If you are TRYING to become something or someone, you are not BEING that

You are TRYING TO BE that

BE it

NOW

RIGHT NOW

Then KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that that’s who you are

Decide right now

I HAVE the dream relationship with my dream woman

Realize that within the infinite realm of possibilities, that is an absolute TRUTH

Because the INFINITE includes ALL possibilities

So you already HAVE her

You now just need to KNOW it FOR SURE

Then sit back and let the universe catch up

God will make her appear like magic, not a few years from now, but a few months from now, not even a few weeks from now

But in days

You just have to BE the guy who has her

KNOW it in ever cell if your being

KNOW that she is already yours

Just perhaps not at this second because up until now you have NOT been BEING the guy who has her

You’ve been being the guy who hopes to have her some day

You’ve been being the guy who’s working on himself so that someday he’ll finally get her

And don’t get me wrong-

Working on yourself is important

But at some point you must put all the work into action and BE the guy who already has her

And the life to go with it

KNOW it

I repeat-

KNOW IT

And then STOP trying because if you had her, would you be trying to get her??

Hell no! Because you’ve already got her

She is yours, ALREADY

You just need to KNOW that as truth and then act as someone who knows it

A guy who has his woman is not busy trying to find her

Make sense?

I know it seems weird but it’s how consciousness works

Act, feel, be, know that you have her

And she will show up like magic

Faster than your eyes can believe 🪄

Do you want to be someone who has an amazing relationship?

Or someone who is searching for one?

The answer is obvious

But the cosmic significance may not be

So I'll explain

Contrary to how it may appear

All is one within the infinite quantum field of consciousness

So what that means is, nothing is actually ever lacking, missing or out of order

Because reality is actually just one big thing that appears to be many things (people, environments, things, etc)

As such, you can think of yourself as a body part on a giant body

When you want to say, grow or improve the wellbeing of a certain body part, you must give it extra care and attention

By focusing on it with care and patience, it will grow

Same with a plant in the garden or even ideas

If you water them they grow

So if you water the state of being in search of something, that state will grow

If instead you water the state of HAVING that which you desire, instead that will grow

It can sound confusing and nonsensical because it APPEARS that you don’t already HAVE what you desire

But if you understand that you’re one with all, then you actually do already have it

It’s just not in proximity to you currently

And do the way to bring it to you-to ATTRACT it

Is to water and nurture the conditions that will attract what you already have, closer to you

You do this by BEING the version of yourself who already has what he wants

Which signals to consciousness to situate things differently

If you want to be someone who has an amazing relationship or money or whatever

You must BE that person in your thoughts and feelings

Water and care for them regularly

Be patient to allow for the infinite field to reconfigure accordingly

And watch your life transform before your eyes

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It’s one of the hardest but absolute necessary things to solve or you’ll just continue to have the same problems in dating and relationships

Because of your trauma you have deep hidden beliefs that it’s ok or that you even deserve to be treated poorly

Ur so used to living in a world where people are judging and qualifying you that ur super critical of yourself

And so you come to relationships worried that ur going to mess up

And so guess what happens when you do that?

You “mess up”

And you attract people of the same vibration who are also critical and judgmental, so if you get past the first few dates, both parties abuse one another

And eventually it either fails or it’s an ongoing punishment game

She points out what you do wrong and you feel bad about it so you apologize and try to change

But that just makes her less attracted to you

Cuz it shows her you have no backbone and she doesn’t find a guy like that sexy

Or you overdo it with trying to show you how much you love her and it’s the same thing

Maybe ur paranoid that she might be cheating or just confused about why she doesn’t seem to show you the love

And the more you worry and obsess about it, the more it pushes her away and becomes ur reality

In any case, you are yet again in a low quality, abusive relationship

Or not in one at all

And you can’t seem to figure it out, getting someone new is a challenge, and then if you do manage to land a girl, it’s the same thing over again

This will never end

Until you learn about and sort out the underlying issue

The issue of your trauma leading you to believe that abuse is ok

Here’s a rule of thumb-

If ANYONE, and I don’t care if it’s your own mother, points out what ur doing wrong constantly, tells you how to be, jerk’s you around, leads you on, plays games, manipulates or simply doesn’t authentically share their love without any strings attached…

It’s abuse

The answer-

Cut them off

Most people will find this advice appalling

Because they’ve normalized abuse like MOST of society

But think about it-

Would a guy who knows he’s amazing allow someone around who treats him poorly?

If he did, would he actually think he’s amazing?? 🤔

Do you want to be someone who has to prove himself?

Who has to win over people?

Who has to slave away for scraps?

Or do you want to be someone that the world caters to?

Someone who sits back and makes the world prove itself to?

Someone who who ain’t going out of his way for no one?

It’s a choice that most people don’t believe is optional

And I have spent a good deal of my life being one of those people

Cuz that’s what I was taught

By morons

But then I realized that by being one of those people, I was totally fu***ng myself

Because all along all I had to do was truly believe it was possible

That I could BE someone who only gets the best

Then stand by it without exception

Ever

And boom-

The world works for me

People prove themselves to me

Women have to earn my attention and respect and time

And if they think they don’t, guess what?

They get NONE of me

For a long time I was afraid that if I tried living with that level of audacity, that I would lose everything

But guess what happened when I finally tried?

I lost all the hassle of all the pieces of s**t who aren’t worthy of even an ounce of my time

And replaced them with people who adore me

A simple shift in my being

Transformed my life from feeling like I had to work to earn love

To feeling like people have to work to earn mine

And if that sounds scary

Then you have some bulls**t ass beliefs that you need to eliminate

Unless you want to keep being the guy who doesn’t get what he truly wants

Is that who you want to be?

We know the answer

The reason that dating and relationships are so nerve racking for most guys is rejection

They hate it and understandably so

But do they understand WHY they hate it?

If not, it’s worth figuring out

The reason we hate rejection is linked to our self worth

Through conditioning by society, our parents, peers, teachers, the media

We have learned that there is a “right” way to be and a “wrong” way to be

And if we’re the “right” way, we will be loved and accepted

If you do things the way people want or groups expect and have also been brainwashed into thinking is “right”, well then they’d gladly have you at their party

They’d gladly welcome you and your family into the club

However if you f**k up and don’t do things the “right” way-whatever that way is for whatever group it is-YOU’RE OUT

You’re BAD

You’re this or that and not deserving of love and acceptance anymore

So as you can imagine, that puts A TON of pressure on us

We DO NOT want to be rejected because it means we’re “wrong”

Or ugly or not cool or a loser or whatever countless things it could mean to be “wrong”

It means we are unworthy of acceptance and love

So thoroughly brainwashed by all the other brainwashed puppets (again EVERYONE is-though it’s not their fault, it’s not YOUR fault-it was done to them like it was done to you)

Off we all go into the world trying to be “right” so we get accepted

And avoid being “wrong” so we don’t get rejected

So then when we meet a woman, we are terrified deep down that if we do one “wrong” thing, she will reject us

And that experience triggers the DEEP seated conditioning that if we don’t pass the test, we are not acceptable

We let HER determine that we are unacceptable, UNLOVABLE

And since we’re worried af about having that happen, we put A TON of pressure on ourselves to NOT f**k up and do something “wrong”

Which when you put all that pressure on yourself, what is likely to happen??

If you guessed “f**k up” give yourself a gold star ⭐️

Thing is-

Right and wrong are relative

They change based on the situation and angle you view them

So in order to become UNREJECTABLE

YOU must accept and love yourself

And know that YOU decide that, not her💪

What kind of relationship do you really want?

The problem with this question is so many guys don’t really know the answer

They go on more of a “I guess I’ll know it when I see it” idea

Which is what I did for years

But ya know what that got me?

It got me a lot of time spent with women who ultimately weren’t it

It took me months and sometimes years of trying with various “relationships” and I use quotes because looking back you could hardly call them that

They were abusive and toxic because neither party was in it for the right reasons

We were in it to not be alone

In it to get some

In it to look good and feel good or at least that’s what we thought it would do

As long as we’re not single right?

But then how good does it feel when it fails after ALL that time invested?

How good does it feel when it fails because she doesn’t want to be with you anymore?

How good does it feel when you know it’s not right but you’d rather be with someone than no one so you come up with justifications until it finally fails??

Been there, done all that

The biggest mistake anyone can make who wants a serious long term relationship is to date carelessly

If you’re just trying to hook up, fine, but it’s RARELY just that and if it is you’re either in college or you’ve never really matured into a man

Because at some point beyond your early 30s, if you’re just trying to add more notches to your belt and nothing else

You’ve missed a rite of passage or two that are going to wind up biting you hard when you hit 40+

But if you’re aware of this and you’re working on it, GOOD

Because thing is, this life goes by fast, and I can attest 7 years into my marriage after a string of partly fun, often messy, ultimately failed relationships

That it wasn’t until I got CRYSTAL clear on what I wanted

And made a vow that I wouldn’t settle for less ever again

Then got real busy maturing my ass out of a version of myself that I now know was continually attracting repeat offenders

That my wife appeared like magic and was completely different than any of the others

And it just keeps getting better

So if you don’t know what you want, then trust me, it’s worth it to figure that out

Go from feeling like you’ll be judged as a failure

From feeling alone and inferior

To feeling totally confident and sure of yourself

Knowing exactly what to do and as a result, having women wanting to know more about you

Wanting to be with you

To feeling so good because you’ve got YOUR woman by your side for a movie at home, that you know you’re not going to make it through because she always interrupts it by jumping on top of you

Go from feeling like you might not ever figure this out

To feeling like SUCH A BADASS

It’s time

There’s no more time to waste doing things that haven’t gotten you there

Enroll in a program that will take you by the hand and walk you through each step to FINALLY solve this

So that it’s the last thing you have to do and you can FINALLY start living the life you want and deserve

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And the opposite is also true

The more anxious, down or unhappy you are

The more your future will be the same or worse

The reason for this, is because our thoughts and feelings create our reality

This is a concept that may seem debatable to some

But if you have any experience with spirituality or quantum physics

You know this to be true

And if you don’t, I have a fairly straightforward way of explaining it-

It’s a well known fact that the only place and time you will ever find yourself is the present moment

Sure you have a past, which is the memory of your present moments

And a future, which is what your present moment will become

But you yourself don’t ever go to the past or the future

They come to you

And guess where and when they come to you?

If you guessed “the present” give yourself a gold star ⭐️

Now if you think about it

If you’re in a s**tty mood in the present

Chances are very good that you’re going to be in a s**tty mood in the next following moment too

Because that’s where all the attention is

That’s where all the energy is concentrated

On feeling s**tty

Sure something could happen that might change your mood-and in fact it will for sure

Because life happens in waves

Or rather consciousness occurs in duality

It needs to go back and forth between happy and sad, hot and cold, day and night, life and death and an infinite number of other contrasting opposites that must occur in order to be conscious of each polarity

So that’s why you don’t stay sad forever

Though you can most certainly let your brain become addicted to staying MOSTLY one way because it’s running on survival instinct and doesn’t like change cuz that threatens survival

So if you’ve grown used to feeling sad

It’s going to do whatever it can to keep you there cuz being happy requires too much energy

And yet again the opposite is also true

You can train your brain to do whatever it can to keep you happy most of the time because sad is too much energy

In any case since whatever thoughts and feelings you are having in the present are most likely going to spill right over into the next moment and the next

You had better enjoy now before you run out of moments!

So many teachers and philosophies tell you to “figure” things out

To unpack the trauma

To get to the bottom of the anxiety

To investigate into why this happened or that happened

And it’s ALL a FRAUD

It takes complete advantage of you

Because it keeps you stuck

It keeps you sick

It keeps you needing to spend more on books and courses and coaches

Because you’ve got a lot of work to do they make you think

And you’re TRYING

But guess what?

You can try FOREVER

You will be trying FOREVER

As long as you are trying, that’s the character you are being

The one who is TRYING to change

The one who is TRYING to be better

But the thing about this life

Is that it’s a theater

We are all method actors

On the stage of life

And at ANY point we can choose a different character

But we have grown so immersed in the crappy character we’ve been for SO LONG

That it feels hard to ditch it and BE someone new

In fact, that lesser character has a “hard time” figuring it out

They just don’t know what to do

They can’t seem to feel better

They’re stuck

And if you imagine you’re watching a play or a movie

They are acting that character SO WELL

It’s so convincing

And so then they go searching for help and become the “TRYING” version of that same character

Which is worse!

STOP TRYING

BE a new character

Think about that they would look like, be like, on the stage

Does a baller sit around and TRY to figure it out?

Does a successful husband wonder if he’s ever going to find a wife?

Does a millionaire wonder if there’s going to be enough money coming in?

Now remember, HOW does the character on the stage act??

Would anyone ACTING out any of those characters do those things?

NO-they would be s**t at their character if they did

You must stop BEING confused

You just stop BEING hurt

You must stop BEING a victim

Cuz as long as that’s who who are being, well then you get the life that goes along with it

Because you’ve probably grown so used to being a character you don’t want to be anymore

And that character is really good at keeping you chained to it

It’s might feel confusing or challenging

Because for that character it is

It can be done in days

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