Just a couple of weeks ago ya’ll were stomping up and down the internet hollering “wE nEeD a mAtRiArChAl sOcIeTy!!!”
But ya’ll don’t want matriarchy.
Because co-creating and maintaining a matriarchal society would require that you expand your concept of motherhood and mothering, and you would rather drag your coochie across hot asphalt than do that.
The fact that people didn’t miss the opportunity to turn Mother’s Day into a fight over deservingness instead of a broader conversation about care, attachment, nurturing, interdependence, and community shows how much ya’ll like to lie and you don’t actually want to be free.
Especially because motherhood under patriarchy is already politicized, stratified, and racialized.
We already know whose motherhood is protected.
👉🏾 Whose motherhood is criminalized.
👉🏾 Whose children are considered innocent.
👉🏾 Whose parenting is monitored.
👉🏾 Whose reproduction is controlled.
👉🏾 Whose grief is humanized.
👉🏾Whose caregiving is expected but devalued.
You are are still deeply emotionally invested in hierarchy, exclusivity, legitimacy, and social gatekeeping.
A matriarchal ethic would require:
🌱 Interdependence
🌱 Collective responsibility
🌱 Expansive care
🌱 Relational accountability
🌱 Redistribution
🌱 De-centering dominance itself
Not simply moving women into positions of authority within the same scarcity-based framework.
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05/09/2026
Suddenly everybody (and they mama) wants “matriarchy.”
We’re true to this, not new to this
A matrifocal society has always been available to you.
The United States just chose whiteness instead.
The blueprint for survival was always here, in plain sight.
You saw:
The Black femmes.
The Black organizers.
The Black educators.
The Black artists.
The Black aunties.
The Black mothers.
The people who have been practicing collective care and survival all along.
A matriarchal society cannot exist without:
* Integrity
* Repair
* Accountability
* Trust
* Care without control
And that means many people will have to unlearn everything patriarchy taught them about power.
Especially white women and liberal feminists.
Because you cannot build matriarchy while remaining invested in whiteness.
You cannot build collective care while avoiding accountability.
And you cannot restore democracy without repairing relationship.
This Mother’s Day, I’m thinking about the Black women who mothered movements.
Who held communities together while the state abandoned them.
Who practiced survival as sacred work.
I’m releasing a 3-part series on matriarchy on the Interrupting Business As Usual Podcast.
Episode one is available now:
“Matriarchy Won’t Work Until We Rethink Power: Care, Repair, and What Liberal Feminism Gets Wrong” featuring .
Comment “MATRIARCHY” and I’ll DM you the link to listen, or tap the link in my bio if you want to be independent.
04/28/2026
White women who have said “all lives matter,” come to the front.
If “not all men” makes your skin crawl, trace that feeling back to its root and sit in the irritation.
Because that’s exactly what you sounded like.
If you actually want a world where women are safe, violence is interrupted, and power is redistributed…
Then you don’t get to pick and choose when you understand deflection.
You don’t get to achieve the utmost clarity only when it benefits you.
04/21/2026
As Black men spent the weekend arguing to have the right to murder women…
…And Black women argued for their right to be entertained by a known abuser…
…A man murdered 8 children in a DV rage.
This is the world y’all want and fight tooth and nail to keep.
I say this all the time:
When someone does something as heinous and vile as this, it’s never out of nowhere.
Family knew who they were. Friends knew who they were. The community knew who they were.
They knew this person was capable. They knew this was possible.
But now, after entertaining and excusing violence, we’re all shocked and saddened by such horrific tragedies.
No, we’re culpable.
I will never understand arguing in defense of a violent person, inviting them into our lives, allowing them to take up our time and then looking Pikachu surprised when they are violent again, or *gasp* WE are impacted by a similar type of violence.
It’s the violence we cultivate.
It’s the environments we curate that allow violence to thrive.
It’s not so much about the acts of 1 person as it is about creating a culture that produces violent people and in which individual people are empowered to act out in such evil ways.
04/16/2026
It’s Black Maternal Health Week.
And Black women in the U.S. are 3-4x more likely to die from pregnancy and childbirth.
This is true across income.
Across education.
Across access.
This is not about “bad choices.”
This is about systems that routinely fail Black families and people who uphold and benefit from those systems.
If we want better outcomes for Black mothers and babies…
We have to resource them like our lives depend on it.
Because they do.
04/01/2026
The white emotional violence has been on one-hundred-thousand-trillion.
So, listen.
Before ya’ll role that foolishness right on into Q2 of 2026, I just want ya’ll to consider taking a break.
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