Abby DeGraff

Last post in my 30’s.
Receipts > Regrets. The unwritten chapters are my favorite! Socials spotty. Spirit steady. Beyond grateful for my people near and far (and the ones in these frames). October, you’ve been beautiful so far! ♎️

10 Things Every Woman Should Know

1️⃣Confidence is your power. Don’t shrink it, hide it, or dim it for anyone.

2️⃣You’re not for everyone. Be for yourself first. The right people will meet you there.

3️⃣Speak to yourself with love. A high five in the mirror can shift your whole day.

4️⃣Bad body image days happen to everyone. Don’t let a fleeting feeling dictate your future.

5️⃣Your dream body feels like strength and freedom. Forget numbers—focus on how it feels to live in it.

6️⃣Goals are non-negotiable, methods are flexible. Adapt when needed, but never stop moving forward.

7️⃣Rest isn’t idle. It’s an essential part of progress.

8️⃣Your energy deserves intention. Pour it into what makes you grow, not what keeps you small.

9️⃣Your worth is untouchable. It doesn’t need justification or approval.

🔟You are your own revolution. Honor your power, your growth, and your light. The world is better because you’re in it.

When you slowly—and then all at once—realize you’ve put yourself back together differently, it changes everything.

Maybe that’s why I’ve felt more resistance showing up here, in this space?

To be in “the middle” while so much is shifting behind the scenes.

Outgrowing your old life is disorienting.
It’s walking into spaces that once felt like home and realizing they don’t hold you anymore.

It’s answering questions about where you’re headed when you’re still figuring it out yourself.

It’s carrying the weight of a world you’re leaving behind, even as you feel the pull toward something more.

And what I’ve come to realize is this: I no longer care about the things I once built my life around.

The recognition, the striving, the perfectly curated image.

The life that looked polished from the outside but lacked the depth and substance I craved within.

When you heal you also realize so much of it is stepping into the person you were always meant to be.

It’s about sitting in the discomfort of letting go, trusting that what’s on the other side is worth it.

So here’s to the women who feel like they’re in between lives.

To those brave enough to loosen their grip on what no longer serves them.

Here’s to the quiet work of unbecoming, the unsteady process of revisioning, and the beauty of building something new—something true.

This is not the end.
This is the beginning. And we’re doing it differently. Whatever that looks like for you.

I’m making you read enough on my slides! But ya’ll— bookmark this. Make room for the pause. The audit. Slow down and take a good long look at how you’re doing things and areas that may be out of alignment with the version of you that yearns for more. 💫 Awareness. Auditing. Action. Accountability. DM me “Alignment” if you’re ready to finally uncover what alignment feels like.

Beyond these little squares and captions, life has been a whirlwind of massive shifts and emotions too deep to shrink into something easily digestible. Lately, I’ve been pouring my energy into creating a life that feels so aligned, so full, that I am having a harder time coming here.

Instead, I’m drawn to the beauty of real moments—the quiet stillness, the meaningful connections, and the sense of purpose woven into the rhythm of my days.

When I show up here, it’s not out of obligation but alignment. I want to share something that resonates—practices and shifts that have helped me craft alignment in every facet: not just health.

This post is an invitation for you to do the same: to focus on what’s going right, to build environments and relationships that uplift, and to take small but intentional steps toward a life that feels truly yours. Architecting your own alignment is the greatest gift you can give yourself. I promise you that.

Swipe through for 10 thoughts and practices that have helped me realign—and maybe they’ll meet you where you need them most. 🌿✨

Any we have in common? What are some of yours? 💫 come chat with me in the comments.

🧱 by 🧱. #2025

2024. It’s wounds. It’s healing, and how each challenge has brought me closer to the person I’m becoming. The year has been a constant push and pull, moments of deep struggle followed by breakthroughs that forced me to grow. And now, I stand at the threshold of 2025, ready to step into the next chapter with intention and clarity.⁣⁣⁣
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Sometimes life has to break your heart so you can finally move. It shakes you awake, pushing you toward growth that you didn’t know you needed. When everything feels undone, you realize it’s the perfect space to rebuild.⁣⁣
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𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟓 – 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐘𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐎𝐅:⁣⁣⁣
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𝘚𝘩𝘦𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘐 𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴.⁣⁣⁣
𝘔𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘺, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦.⁣⁣⁣
𝘓𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘯𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘴.⁣⁣⁣
𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘵𝘰 𝘶𝘯𝘳𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥, 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘢 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦.⁣⁣⁣
𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳𝘴, 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘪𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘵𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.⁣⁣⁣
𝘚𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘦.⁣⁣⁣
𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵, 𝘴𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘳, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨.⁣⁣⁣
𝘍𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘧𝘵 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘴.⁣⁣⁣
𝘖𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴, 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘰𝘴.⁣⁣⁣
𝘍𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘐 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘰𝘳𝘦.⁣⁣⁣
⁣⁣2025. Let’s go. 🎉

What if?

2024.

The year of awakening.
The year of surrender.
Shedding skin. Blurry lines and trusting my gut.

Triggers.
Teachers.
Taking my power back.
Tripping over my old, conditioned self who wanted to stay safe.

Liberation.
So much liberation.

Embodiment.
Femininity.

Taking up more space.
Not just the space I was accustomed to.

Behind the scenes breakdowns and breakthroughs.

Coloring outside the lines.

Throwing a big middle finger to the people and places that brought me fear, betrayal and a false idea of safety.

Boys. Wild, energetic and teachable moments with the boys.

Letting them see a Mom grieve and grip life tightly by the hands and trudge on.

Soul connections.
The kind I was ready for because of the inner work I spent years cultivating in the dark.

The kind that makes you say “this.” And “stay a little longer” and “this is what home feels like.”

Deconstruction.
{How can we renovate with walls that need expanding?}

Brick by brick.

What the hell am I doing.
And
This is exactly where I need to be.

Less apologizing.
More ownership.

Precisely the year that reinvented my mind / body / soul.

And a little carousel of monumental photos, little fragments of moments in my own personal evolution.

Thank you for being here. Supporting me. Supporting yourself as we learn and grow and walk together toward the best gift we have:

Time. Energy.

Alignment.

Onward.

Xoxo,
Coach Abs

Have you ever felt the ache of outgrowing yourself? That quiet, unsettling pull that tells you: You’ve changed, but the life around you hasn’t caught up yet.

As we approach the close of the year, this thought has been echoing in my mind. I am no longer who I once was, and while that truth is freeing, it also demands something from me: the courage to let go.

Growth requires us to release the parts of ourselves that no longer align. To stop clinging to what once worked and trust that making room for something new isn’t a loss—it’s an invitation. Yet, this process isn’t easy. Letting go feels like standing in the in-between, where the old feels too small, and the new hasn’t fully taken shape.

And still, that’s where transformation begins.

This past year has taught me that the journey of becoming is rarely neat or linear. We’ll stumble, second-guess, and revisit old doubts. But growth isn’t about perfection—it’s about integration. For years, I tried to fine-tune the pieces of my wellness in isolation: my physical health, my mental clarity, my sense of purpose. Now, I see those pieces coming together, forming something whole.

The most profound work we can do isn’t about a perfect routine or checklist; it’s about cultivating a relationship with ourselves that embodies everything we value in the relationships we hold dear. Because the truth is, the life you’re hungry for starts with the version of you who is ready to claim it.

So, as this year draws to a close, I invite you to take a breath and step into the next one with intention. You are the sum of every lesson, every effort, and every moment of self-trust. And you are ready for more.

Xoxo- Coach Abs