Claire The Heartbreak Coach

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Claire The Heartbreak Coach

I help women stop wanting Mr./Ms Wrong back and FIND SOMEONE BETTER

04/07/2026

Celebrating the morning miracle of getting everyone out the door in time for school and a doc appt all by myself😬. The car chats with this crew are my fave😭♥️.

04/04/2026

I know. I need a new watch.

04/02/2026

I woke up this morning to an email from a local Santa Barbara business I love & trust.

So I was pretty taken aback to see, at the end of the email, a book rec by Deepak Chopra.

If you’re not aware, his name has come up multiple times in connection with the Epstein Files. And yes, there are documented messages, including one to Jeffrey Epstein that reads:
“God is a construct. Cute girls are real.”

That’s not something I can just scroll past bc to me, that’s fu***ng disgusting, especially considering I bought his books & relied on his spiritual & meditative teachings for years, only to find out he was preying on young women & using his cult like leadership to take advantage of them. 🤮

So I emailed the business I received this email from.

Not to attack or shame.
But to say: I love what you stand for, and this felt really misaligned.

Look, am I some privileged, middle-aged white woman changing the world with one email to one tiny local business?

Hell No.

But I’ve had so many conversations where we sit there wondering: what else can we actually do beyond calling representatives, marching, donating, posting, etc?

And I think it’s speaking up in the small, everyday moments that are easy to ignore, eye-roll or move on from.

And I say this as someone who has hesitated to speak up more on this platform as I’ve gotten death threats in my DMs— even if I didn’t take them seriously, they’re still jarring.

But staying quiet doesn’t feel like the answer either.

Because if one message makes one person pause…
If it helps someone realize something they didn’t know or hadn’t considered…

That matters.

At the end of the day we’re are ALL still learning.

We’re ALL getting things wrong at times.

But if we don’t say anything kindly, clearly, & directly, then nothing shifts.

And we all stay stuck, stunted, & uninformed and therefore in moments like this particular email I received, my step daughters aren’t being protected from sick men weaponizing their power with “wise” teachings masking their abusive ways.

Say something. Even if it’s awkward or uncomfortable.

Awkward & uncomfortable are small prices to pay to protect our girls & ourselves. 💪🏻❤️‍🩹

03/15/2026

My focus lately has mostly been family & rest.

Two things I’ve never put before hustling since my early 20s when I started pursuing acting professionally.

I hesitate to share this because I recognize the privilege of being at a point where I don’t have to hustle.

But wow… it’s surprisingly hard to unlearn the belief that what I do and how hard I work defines my worth, and is the only way I’ve ever identified having a “purpose.”

It’s a fine line because I love chasing big dreams, whether that was acting or building a heartbreak/finding-love coaching business from scratch.

But step-mama over here at 45, after 25 years of hustle, needs some serious rest and time to just BE.

Not comfortable for me.
But necessary.

With 4 stepkids there isn’t much “being” time, but in the pockets I do have, I can feel my nervous system letting out a big, cathartic “ahhhhh.”

I don’t know how long I’ll be in this mode.

Maybe until this baby girl turns 18.
Maybe until something hits me over the head that has my soul aching to pursue it.

But right now I’m learning to believe that simply being Larry’s wife, the kids’ stepmom, my parents’ daughter, etc., is enough.

I still love the work of growth & self-discovery.

Even now, 5 years shy of 50, I’m having big AHA moments, like finally being diagnosed with ADHD & connecting more dots back to childhood.

That awareness helps me show up for my stepkids with more patience, compassion, & understanding.

The mental health journey isn’t just for you.

It’s for the people you love too.

And the deeper I go into my own healing, the more I realize something I intellectually understood but didn’t truly believe:

Your worth was never supposed to come from how hard you hustle.

And purpose doesn’t only live inside a career.

Sometimes purpose looks like showing up for school projects.
Doctor’s appts. Track meets. Homework.
Putting thought & care into their meals instead of half-assing bc of burn out & no time.

Even if you identify as an independent, entrepreneurial-minded feminist.

Sometimes the most meaningful work you’ll ever do is simply learning how to be here: softer & more present for both yourself & the people you love. 💛

03/07/2026

I KNOW heartbreak is the worst feeling ever.

Trust me.

It’s why I do what I do after navigating 7 all-consuming heartbreaks in my 20s and 30s.

You’re not alone.

But there’s a chance you’re not realizing how you’re making it worse:

💔 By staying in contact with him (apply any gender pronoun that works for you

💔 By psychoanalyzing his behavior ad nauseam, while driving loved ones away.

💔 Stalking his next partner and indulging compare and despair

💔 Trying to change yourself in order to get him back

💔 Connecting with his friends to get more information.

💔 Avoiding actually doing the healing work (showing up to therapy without ACTIVELY integrating the work doesn’t do much)

💔 Bargaining with him. “Please give me another chance.”

💔 Refusing to see the greater lesson in this for yourself

💔 Reaching out to say “one more thing!” for “closure” but then never feel closed

💔 Telling yourself and your loved ones that it’s “really over this time” after you’ve already given multiple chances.

I DID ALL OF THE ABOVE.

I’m not here to shame you my love.

I’m here to say you can help yourself a lot more.

I know it’s really heavy and hard.

But you can do hard.

And if you want my help, comment READY and I’ll get you started your healing journey. ❤️

03/05/2026

I did too.

I had so much judgement of myself.

I thought there was something wrong with me that I cared this much about someone who treated me so horribly.

I just wanted to be at peace.

I wanted a magic pill to be over him.

I wanted someone to validate that my deep feelings were warranted.

And I also wanted someone— God, my therapist, my best friend, my mom, ANYONE - to take the pain away.

And the more I tried and tried, the longer the pain percolated…

So I finally ALLOWED it to be there instead of wrestling with it being there.

I “invited to Mara to tea.”

I embraced the pain and gave MYSELF the permission to feel it as long as I needed to feel it.

I became my own mom, best friend, and therapist (even though all of these roles in my life were phenomenal) while still appreciating the external support, and said to myself:

I’ve got you, Claire.

You GET to feel all the pain and we will process it for as long as it takes…

People ask me all the time how I finally landed a guy like Larry (the best man for me) and one of my tactics was that I decided I was never going to give up searching for him.

The same went with heartbreak.

I was never going to give up on my commitment to healing.

I wanted a healed life filled with the best romantic love, so I made it a top priority to create that for myself.

If this is you, I’d love nothing more than to be your guide to get you there…

Comment READY if you’re ready to start your healing journey. ❤️

03/03/2026

You had a margarita.

Maybe two.

Or you saw a reel you knew he’d think was funny.

Or perhaps you just went on a sh*tty date, & it reminded you of how GOOD it was when things were good.

So you unblock him.

Take a peak at his IG profile.

Text him.

Maybe make your own number private (*67 anyone? 😬) and call just to hear him say HELLO?

Oh just me being a lil psycho stalker over here??

(Please take the word psycho as a joke)

Whether any of the above prompted you to connect or put yourself in a position for him (use whatever pronoun applies to you) to reach out or it was something else…

His birthday? Your would-be anniversary?

You’re back to toxic game, only realizing that he hasn’t changed and your attachment to him lives on…

Which ultimately impacts your mental, emotional and physical health yet again.

So how do you stop yourself from what you know isn’t a good idea deep deep down?

HAVE A LIST OF ALL THE HORRIBLE THINGS HE HAS SAID AND DONE.

💔 The lying

💔 Gaslighting

💔 Cheating

💔 The unwillingness to do any work and point fingers at you

💔 Separating you from the rest of his life.

💔 Diminishing you.

💔 Only showing he cares when he thinks he doesn’t have you the way he wants you.

I know you have plenty more to add to this list. Get specific. Give it to trusted people who will hold you accountable and remind you of how awful it was when you’re experiencing a weak moment of longing.

Which isn’t to be confused with YOU being weak.

You’re human.

You loved him.

You really wanted him to be who he said he was.

I get it.

But he isn’t that guy, my friend.

And the more you commit to not connecting, the quicker you will heal.

But of course there is sooo much more to this healing process.

It isn’t just cutting contact.

It’s also consciously grieving and learning how to create closure for yourself, WITHOUT getting it from him.

I can help you with that.

If you want to finally move past your heartbreak and find something radically better, comment READY to get started. ❤️‍🩹

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