Iryna Sulim

I remember my pre s/x coach days when I knew very little about my body & how I enjoyed to be touched & how I expected a man I was with to know it all in the bedroom (to read my mind). And if he didn't, I would resent him. I couldn't speak up about what I wanted in the moment or after our intimacy. Or worse I would override my body's cues, like I would say yes to a fast and hard pe*******on, because I thought I was ready or I just didn't want to disappoint him. Oh, obviously I’m not proud of those days. But I forgave myself for all of that because I didn't know any better.

My path to s/xual openness along with spiritual awakening began with my own self exploration of my body with the gentle guidance of my Ta**ra teachers.

I would self-pleasure in a totally new way. I no longer used vi****or, I ditched p**n, I got a crystal wand (a toy that I fell in love with from day one), I played music, I touched myself gently and softly, pausing and breathing and listening for a YES from my body, not my head. And I would cry a lot, so much, purging all the unconscious hard and fast s/xual experiences. As a result of perhaps a year long "communion with myself" my moods started to shift, I felt happier, I started feeling this inner confidence that is very hard to fake, I stopped craving for external validation, I felt hot, s*xy, radiant and I desired myself a great deal. My life started to change.

And I want that for you too.

That is why I’m inviting you to this masterclass I’m hosting on February 1st, on the Female Anatomy or Arousal. To me it was crucial to master not only the esoteric teachings of the Eastern philosophy, but also the scientific facts about our nervous system and neuronal pathways that are responsible for pleasure, our anatomy (what's where and how it works so to speak). I believe in a harmonious balance of both. And I very much would love for you to know that too (especially men).

So come and play with me! It will be fun.

The link is in BIO to register. And btw if you attempted to buy tickets but couldn't, it's because I had the tickets sale button wrong. Now I fixed it and you can preregister. This class is open for everyone.

Yesterday, I had the last session with a man who came to me because he wanted to have a healthy relationship with his s€xual energy & learn how to never be dependent on the urges, but rather be in control of them.

We put together a program for him during which he had to practice conscious ma********on (i.e. self-pleasure with my magical recordings) as well as daily breathwork and meditations.

He was very disciplined and also trusted the process and my guidance.

After a few weeks of practice he experienced a full body 0rgasm. He read a lot about it in Ta***ic books but couldn't believe it was a reality for him, because those books don't really talk about how this full bodied experience is felt.

According to him: it was blissful! He did not feel urges after that and when he 0rgasmed the sensations felt longer and came in waves.

As a result of our work together, he is much more attractive to the woman he is dating (she asks for things in the bedroom that she never wanted him to do in the past), he is more present & attentive with her, he is no longer frustrated if he doesn't have penetrative s€x, he likes the feeling of being full and enjoys intimacy & connection. She loves it. And what is wild he feels how the energy is circulating through his body during s€x or just during cuddles. This means he is having fun & enjoying to be in charge of his s€xual impulses.

And there is more, he also noticed that his co-workers & subordinates are more respectful of his leadership.

His journey continues. Now he is determined to master how to have 0rgasms with no €jaculation.

I’m so proud of this man! And can't wait to see what is on the horizon for him. I know he is going to up-level his life on all counts.

Do you feel like you may squander your s€xual energy & often feel distracted, depleted & frustrated? And you feel like there is a different way to be but you don't know how to make that shift? Well, I have a solution for you.

Join my men's program "Presence over Performance”. We start January 5th! Link in BIO!

I also want to invite you to an amazing value packed masterclass that I designed just for you, men, about women. Link in BIO.

Last night my partner and I were lying in bed and talking about us and our relationship and what was the number #1 foundational component in our union that has kept our relationship always in tact, helped us both return to connection, love and remembering of why we are together.

And you know what is this #1 piece?

COMMUNICATION

We are masterful at communicating with each other!

Obviously ego, pain body and wounds get in the way. No one is immune from these very human things that we carry inside, which are mainly there for us to experience growth, healing and ultimate integration which can lead to more love and more acceptance.

Relationship offers you that!

Our relationship is no different. It’s far from perfect. We project, attack and hurt each other.

And we have a way of communicating with each other beyond ego or pain body, the way that is rooted in love, openness and vulnerability. And we both know that once we move past our wounds and our egoic parts, and settle into more love and connection, there is a deeper understanding, deeper listening, safer and authentic expression of one’s feelings is taking place. And ultimately - healing.

And one of the main practices (i.e. intimacy rituals) that helped us keep our relationship clean (i.e. no toxic resentments or unspokenness) has been “Relationship Church”. It is a ritual we started doing on Sundays.

And this is one of the rituals I will be teaching in my upcoming workshop “Intimacy Rituals for Couples”, that I’m hosting in person on Sunday, December 19th at a yoga studio in Sausalito!

So if you are local, I’d love for you to join. Bring your partner, wife, husband, friend and let’s celebrate love and intimacy together, starting 2022 with a new refreshed energy and better communication tools in your partnership.

The link to register is in my BIO! 👆

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Do you really know how to give your woman an exquisite breast massage that brings her to or****ic pleasure and ecstasy and have her beg you for more?

Do you really know how to give your woman a p$ssy massage that she’ll never forget in her life and will brag how masterful you are to her girlfriends?

Do you really know how to seduce her into a fantasy that you’ve wanted to play out with her for a while but was intimated to bring it up bc you were afraid of rejection?

IF YOUR ANSWER TO ALL THREE IS A “NO” OR A “MAY BE”, YOU MUST JOIN MY ONLINE COURSE FOR MEN - “PRESENCE OVER PERFORMANCE”


* It’s a 10 weeks group program that officially starts on Monday, Dec 6th

* 5 modules

* 10 audio recordings of embodiment practices (meditations, breathwork, self-pleasure)

* 5 educational videos from me on each topic of the module

* 5 educational videos with visuals on how to give her that delightful breast and p$ssy massage + communication frames and intimacy rituals

*5 90 min support/coaching calls with me

* Facebook group for community support

I know you want to be called a S*x God and master all the teasing seductive skills and tricks to be the best lover she’s ever had!

I have those for you! Come and get them! 😈😎😜

Join me and other brave men in Presence Over Performance! You'll learn to master your s3xuality in a way that is unique to you, so you can become the present, powerful and confident lover you're meant to be!⁠

** CART OFFICIALLY CLOSES ON MONDAY, DECEMBER 6th**

You still have time to register up until Monday, December 6th when we'll have our first support/coaching call!

Register at the link in BIO! 👆😎

Hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday surrounded by your most beloved friends and family feeling deep gratitude for the life YOU have created!

And I also hope your love life is potent, deep & thriving. And if it's not, you have a POWER to change it.

So if you ever wondered where this s*xy spark went away between you and your woman, why there is not much intimacy as it used to be, why you lost your consistent erections and desire dwindled for both of you, I can offer you one of the main reasons why.

Most of the erotic energy in partnership flows from a woman, how she feels in her body, how much she loves herself and how safe she feels with you. If she feels protected, connected to you, secure, she feels your leadership - she is more in her softness and feminine effulgent feel good state.

If this doesn't exist for her, her heart will be closed and so is her s€x. Part of it she is responsible for and part - you!

When your woman doesn’t desire you... your p€nis may not be rock hard and you may not be lasting during s€x as long as you want...

HER DESIRE FOR YOU BEGINS FROM HOW YOU SHOW UP IN RELATIONSHIP

Natural bodily desire (because sometimes it can be a fabricated one that we women think we must have to please you) for you sparks up in a woman when you are:

*LEADING the relationship

*you are PRESENT with her when you are with her (i.e. give your attention to her not distracted by work, phone, fantasies etc, your own fears and doubts)

*you don’t get hooked on her emotional baits (diffuse it with humor, or walk away giving her space to process them by herself)

*have clear BOUNDARIES

*adhere to YOUR TRUTH all the time and communicate it to her with LOVE

*you have an exciting life of your own

Well, if you checked all the boxes and she still doesn’t have that desire for you.... she isn’t capable of receiving you! And that’s not for you to fix. Move on, or if you so inclined help her to get there.

Each party in a relationship must do their piece of healing, attending to their old wounds and patterns and communicate that to the other.

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So many men struggle with PERFORMANCE ANXIETY, but only a few will actually admit it to their friends or their partners or even to themselves...

Man's s*xuality - is the most vulnerable aspect of his life. If there are challenges a man experiences around his erections, his ability to be hard and last long during s*x, he feels inadequate, powerless & like a failure.

One man described it to me like this: "When I don't have consistent erections, it's like my sword has been taken away from me."

If you are the man who experiences such struggle, I see you and I can help!

I dedicated about 6 years of my life studying men & men's s*xuality. And my biggest desire for all men is to be the best lovers they can be, to be able to last long in the bedroom, to feel their bodies, have the confidence and power that naturally lives in their C***S and lead women to pleasure and ecstasy, being equally aligned in their HEADS, HEARTS and C***S.

And that is why I created "Presence Over Performance" - an online group course for men who want to heal "performance anxiety" (not only in bed, but in interactions with women overall) and be the confident, powerful and present lover she deeply longs for.

What is included:

🖤10 weeks journey

🖤 5 modules rich with embodiment practices and journal prompts

🖤 5 live support/coaching 90 min calls with me - I extended the calls to 90 min! The men in the previous round of this program found live calls with me the MOST SUPPORTIVE element in the whole course! So take advantage of these!

🖤Facebook Group for asking questions and receiving group support

And all of this for $895 ONLY until November 24th, after that - $1195!

To learn more details & sign up - see link in BIO👆

We start December 1st and our first support/coaching call is Monday, December 6th!

I’m so looking forward to supporting you in becoming the most amazing lover & man she craves for. Give yourself a X-mas gift, invest in yourself, your love and your life overall! *xcoachformen *xualhealth *xuality

Do you want to know a secret?

You know what hurts us, women, the most? What often doesn’t allow the feminine woman to be truly in her heart and trust towards the masculine, which then creates disconnect and resentment? 

WHEN A MAN GOES UNCONSCIOUS. 

What does it mean? 

It means he is not with her, he is physically present but energetically and emotionally he is not PRESENT with her.

He in his head, distracted, or overwhelmed. And just so she can get off his back he says whatever she wants him to say. She asks him to do something and he forgets. She deeply longs to be SEEN, which is an inherent desire of the feminine. And he is so burdened by life, work, his constant thoughts etc.

And then he wonders why she acts bitchy, angry, withdrawn, doesn't want to have s*x etc. 

So here is the whole secret - if you master your PRESENCE, which means when you are with her - YOU ARE REALLY WITH HER, with your mind and body, your attention is fully on. You truly see her for who she is. You are enjoying her and appreciating her. And you are unwavering in your game. This means you are in charge, you know what you are doing and you LEAD. 

You apply this on dates and during s*x, she will be drenched and would want so much more of you. 

Wouldn't that be amazing? 

And I've got you covered here. I created a really amazing program for men that will help you train your PRESENCE muscle to perfection. And not only in s*x, but overall in life. 

This wonderful program for men  "Presence Over Performance" is OPEN for enrollment NOW:

💎 10 weeks journey 

💎 5 modules - rich with embodiment practices and journal prompts

💎5 live support/coaching 60 min calls with me 

💎 Facebook Group for asking questions and receiving group support 

All of this for $895 ONLY
 
To check the details and sign up, click the the link in my BIO 👆

We start December 1st and our first support/coaching call is Monday, December 6th! 

I am so looking forward to supporting you in becoming the most amazing lover and the man she craves for. Give yourself a X-mas gift, invest into yourself!

*xcoachformen

Chase PLEASURE, and OR**SM will follow 💦💦🤗

This Friday, November 12th my friend and colleague and I are hosting a workshop on “the Power of Orgasm” in person, in Mill Valley, in the most gorgeous location! 😊🥰

This is my favorite topic to talk about.

Many years ago when I started my sacred s*xuality awakening journey, or***ms what I was after!

I wanted to experience those mind blowing full body and multiple or***ms and be obliterated by ecstatic bliss. 😳😵‍💫🤩💦

And in the course of my learning, I discovered that you can never chase those states, you can never expect them to be the way your mind wants to me to be, you can never will them…

Sounds like anything we really want in life, right?

So the moment I surrendered to welcoming pleasure, to moment to moment sensations (not always pleasurable, btw), the moment I decided to be patient with my body and my mind, that moment - or***ms came!

And now I have all that I always wanted and more. And I know my journey isn’t over yet.

Come join us for this wonderful experience. Receive the transmission, as I only can teach what I really experienced in my own body.

Get your tickets at the link in my BIO!

Can’t wait to share the magic with you! 💦💎🌹

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Growing life inside my body requires a lot of energy and also release of control, in the biggest way ever. And I suspect more will be demanded of me once the baby will be born.

Navigating life as I used to is no longer working. 😅😵‍💫

And as a result I’m obviously slowing down, my business is slowing down too.

The other day I was feeling into what would be really amazing for me to create, put out there that would be super easy for me and also very supportive for my clients.

And what came to me was - having small intimate gatherings in person and online both for women and men.

So this month I have two amazing in person events coming up - November 6th and November 12th.

November 6th event is a 2 hour masterclass for women only on “Female Anatomy of Arousal” that is taking place at a beautiful spa in Sebastopol! Link in BIO

And November 12th, my lovely friend and colleague and I are hosting an event in Mill Valley (at a really gorgeous location) on “The Power of Orgasm”. This one is for both men and women. Details and tix are at the link in BIO.

Come, play with me! You will learn a ton, hone your lover skills for the upcoming holidays and connect with lovely humans.

And I really want to share my magic with you and give you hugs before I go into a full on mama mode next year!

*xloveandrelationshipcoach

Trust

“To a Masculine man, the trust of his woman is deeply life affirming.

When we women say to him, "I trust you," there's a recognition of his masculine instinct, and need to be trusted, that we are honoring and recognizing.” - Gillian Pothier

I started saying saying this simple phrase to my man “ I trust you” (of course, only when I deeply felt it)…

And it literally created MAGIC! 💦🌹

Try it out for yourself!

The work I guide you through isn’t for the faint-hearted. It takes courage and trust. It’s deep, life transforming, painful AF and it will stir up all your s**t. And your life will never be the same.

This is your last chance to sign up for Sacred W***e, a 13 week program for women who are longing for more in their lives.

Sign up at the link below!💋

https://www.irynasulim.com/sacred-whore

Can’t wait to be on this magical journey with you!

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My friend and colleague asked me today: “How did you arrive to creating the Sacred W***e program for women 💋?”

And I thought that was a great question.

And I wanted to share with you too why this course has been birthed so spontaneously.

Once I got pregnant my whole energy shifted drastically (hello oxytocin and estrogen influx 😵‍💫😃) and I pivoted to writing about my personal s*xual liberation journey, hoping that my story will resonate with other women.

What I’ve experienced in my psyche through my bodily sensations and visions is a full-on encounter of Madonna and W***e archetypes.

My holy, innocent and spiritual self met with my primal wild animal l***y creature.

And, omg, how I delighted in this!

Not that I haven’t met *these two* before, I have. But these days more than ever they are dancing the dance, taking charge and at times surprising me to bewilderment and amusement.

I frequently would find myself in a state of desiring to be devoured, consumed, taken by everyone around me. I’d want people to drink me like the fountain that I am, or the fertile earth that is there to nourish her people. I would often lie naked on the ground fantasizing of being a part of this Godly creation we live in, offering myself for all to taste and get nurtured from with deep appreciation and reverence. I would get so turned on by this fantasy!

So here it is. From this frequency, the course for women was born ✨.

And don’t get me wrong. This program isn’t for pregnant women only. This program is for ALL women who find themselves feeling deeply disempowered in their s*x life, lacking confidence in expressing themselves s*xually, feeling insecure in their body, and/or have difficulty connecting to their pleasure and or***ms. And feeling tired of enduring this life and are ready for a change.

Come play and dance with me, explore your pleasure potential, and numerous possibilities of a feel-good life for yourself!

The program starts in 3 days, October 11th!

The details are in the link below 💦💋 or PM me if you want to chat with me first!

https://www.irynasulim.com/sacred-whore