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2024 you’ve been beautiful. A joy FULL gift of coming into a new level of motherhood as a mom of 2, with a home birth of my dreams and flowing into my full self in my parenting. My proposal for my PhD dissertation on natural practices for mental health healing in postpartum populations was accepted. I continued seeing patients 2 days a week, managed to win a fitness challenge at my gym, and kept up with all the wonderful family and friends in our lives…and now I’m tired. And ready to melt into some delicious solitude and silence going inward more and honoring the divine quiet in me. 2025 is the year of DO LESS. Last year at Lent I asked myself who I would be if no one was watching…I love what I continue to find out. 2025, let’s get weird: I’m ready to lose, to disappoint, to let down, to fail, to be mediocre, to go unseen, to live without the applause. To stop chasing greatness and get really comfy and cozy in good enough. Because I was always enough. And so are you…so while you might see a lot of people posting big goals for the year, hooray, send them lots of love and show up and cheer for them. Know that you can also rest. Breathe. Do more yoga. Have long slow meals with simple ingredients. Buy nothing. Wear old clothes. Underschedule yourself. Take a break from social media. Go for a walk. Touch grass (or snow here). If you want to BE more, try to DO less. I’m reaaaaalllly really ready🤗💫🌙☀️🍂☘️🌿🪴🌱🦔🍅🍑🍋🥦🫐🍇💤🧘🏽‍♀️🌚💤🌝🌑 #2025

You’re not only allowed to change, it’s required. As I’m embarking on the end of my PhD classes and into my dissertation research, combined with the magic of the motherhood journey, on the back of the pieces who’ve made me who I am until now…everything has aligned to bring me to this next phase of how I want to show up in the world, NOW. It’s been 13 years since started the development of The Motivation Method. This next phase, for however long she wants to reveal herself, is a connection to Mother Earth as Healer. Its WHOLE body soul and mind healing as ONE, instead of treating parts for symptoms. It’s the democratization of mental health FOR ALL, starting with psychoeducation on what’s already available provided by our ultimate healer, Mother Earth. It’s fighting to make these things more accessible for everyone. But it doesn’t happen if you don’t KNOW about it. We can demand better from our systems once we know what to demand. Clean water, whole foods, sunlight, play, rest, connection, and movement. These are our BIRTH RIGHT for soul healing from Mother Earth. I focus on Connection because that is my world as a clinical psychologist, but all these other pieces not only matter- they are absolutely necessary. Yesterday marks day 1 of the new journey, I don’t know exactly how it’s going to unfold but I hope you’ll stay with me to watch it develop 🍎🍊🍋🥦🫐🍆🧘🏽‍♀️🎨🗣️🌊☀️😴…

It’s been awhile since I’ve done a true post! I’ve been listening more, and talking less. Growing, evolving, and changing. Who I was before motherhood, no longer exists, though I love and appreciate her dearly. no longer fits who I am as a title. A concept I created in 2014, when my life was dedicated to the grind, working full time at a treatment center, while traveling the world and going to grad school #1 full time, and throwing in half marathons for good measure 🙄😆🥰I’ve spent my life adult hustling for my worthiness. Trying to “make-up” lost time on the capitalistic developmental progression that says be born and go to school to prepare for work, and live the rest of your days to work, only to rest when you’re near dead- if you’ve played all your cards right and the system is set up for you. Then you can rest. 2023 is no more of the hustle. It’s peace, the divine in me honoring the divine in all of you. It’s sinking in to all the feminine motherhood energy I am, unapologetically, while still allowing you to honor yours- whatever is true and right for you, right now. It’s less coffee, and more chai. And when I’m quiet enough in my peace, stopping the endless chatter of do more, be more, the signs appear. A crescent moon in my golden milk chai this morning. This life is magic when we are quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger. More sleep. More rest. More play. Welcome to the UNmotivated method. It’s delightful here. 💜💫💜💫💜💫 #2023

Passed my comp exam to move on to my final year of my PhD program and get my (second) masters degree!! 🤩🥳 (just barely 😅 but I made it) Two weeks postpartum. BF/Pumping every 3 hours. Recovering from an emergency CSection. 🤯🤯🤯
I hope one day you see this picture and you’re proud of your Moma, sweet boy. I hope you know that your determination at 34 weeks to get out of the NICU in 8 days when they told us it would be more, is forever my inspiration. I hope you know that you can do absolutely anything, if you decide you want it bad enough and go after it with everything you’ve got. I hope you learn that trying your best and just showing up are more than half the battle. I hope I can teach you to trust in yourself and your resourcefulness, even when you have no clue how the F&2$&2 you’re gonna find a way- that you will. And more than anything, I hope you know that God and the Universe are always always always guiding you. 💙

Two weeks ago we were in class together as one body on a Friday. That night was the scariest night of my life when we went to the hospital and you had to come early. But here we are now on this next phase of the journey. You are my favorite classmate 💙

“I promise you won’t want to change a thing about your journey when you see where it’s taking you” 💜💜💜

The universe only answers in 3 ways: Yes, not now, or I have something better for you.

Committing to love is committing to loss...loss is inherent in all we do,just like love.

Love is your birth right.

Don’t leave before the miracles happen 💜

Feeling so grateful for this happy little place and this happy little moment. For all the seasons of hardship and obstacles along the way in life, I think it’s really important to share the joys too. It’s so easy when things are difficult, to think and feel like they’re going to stay that way forever. That it will never get better. We’ll never get through this. But for all the people holding onto hope that life does gets better, that they’re not going through their pain for nothing, this is your sign that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel coming for you too. Don’t leave before the miracle happens. Your season of joy is waiting for you. ❤️❤️❤️

Just going to go ahead and drop this here and say nothing more on it...but if you’re one of my clients be prepared to be hit with these v. soon. We👏🏽are👏🏽changing 👏🏽 generational 👏🏽patterns 👏🏽...and the actual hard work of changing them depends upon your ability to sit with YOUR S**T dead on and yours alone. We’re not out here blaming anyone else anymore.
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💫Year Two of my Doctorate has officially begun 💫
Just started seeing patients at the clinic (including lots of child and adolescents pts. And their parents🥰🥰), Kicking off the School Year In-Person next week as the Director of Children’s Christian Ed., very exciting to show off the classrooms, curriculum, and all the fun events I have planned to my littles....and still rocking with my coaching clients I adore so much.

Life is so full and abundant and wonderful. I finally understand that whole adult lie we tell ourselves that “I just have to get through this next XYZ, then things will slow down”....they’re not slowing down. And maybe that’s okay. Lean into the chaos. Be okay with not having everything 100% perfect because there are too many boxes to check off just right. My good enough is good enough. If I need to rest and slow down I will, but I prayed for this life, I dreamt about it. Being sick so much for so long, I wasn’t sure I could have this full of a life: a best friend husband, a house we love in the happiest little neighborhood, a calendar full of friends we love through all the ups and downs; the ability to run long distances and do half marathons, and a career life that is BEYOND fulfilling .

it’s here. It’s happening. And if it can exist for me, and sure as hell can exist for you.

BEYOND proud of my client for this next big step in her glow up! This business woman puts in WERKKK. I almost never talk about my client successes because I honor their process and journey as their own-they’re not mine to brag about, but this one we are going to scream together from the roof tops (she approved 🤩). She hustles to grow, improve, love others and the community and to be her absolute best self in every capacity. She’s LEVELED UP and is welcoming this next chapter with open arms. Beyond proud watching her life blow up and unfold the way she’s dreaming it to be. From hitting major sales milestones and scaling, while still holding to her ethics and beliefs for treating others and sustainability. She is the real deal. MAKE THIS EVENT IF YOU CAN and hear how she does it! And go check out her stuff! That elderberry lemonade for summer is dangerously good 🤭🤭

Breaking my lent and hoping on here to shout out !!! We had the most amazing tasting at our house for our wedding. This is just 3 of like 15 more gorgeous foods he prepared. I can’t recommend him enough for brides, events, everythinggggg!! Like seriously, book him now before he’s gone. Also quick pick of me and my hottest most handsome fiancé 😍👰🏽.

Lent is my favorite time of year 😂 I know that sounds crazy, but if you know me, it makes sense. Time to get quiet, reflect, put ourselves and our behaviors in check, and connect with God. Every year I usually give up social media during lent. This year is extra special to have a new FIANCÉ on the journey with me. This year we are giving up TV 😱 AND social media. My heart is so full teaching my little students about Lent. I’m so proud every time I see what they are learning from our program. They are absolute blessings. Time to check out for a bit and get back to loving God with all my heart, mind and soul 💗💗💗✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽 See you soon!

Dear 2020,
Thank you. You made me stronger, you pushed me to the next level. You took me out of my comfort zone. You ended lots of things for me, and brought in so much more than I could have dreamed of. The universe has a way of doing what we won’t sometimes. You brought me closer to God in a way I would have never done otherwise. You ripped the bandaid of fear off starting my PhD and launched me right in. You brought the love of my life back, in the healthiest versions of ourselves, ready to grow together and individually. You gave me another year with my mom and family close by. You let my dad live on in my heart with so much basketball and the last dance. You made me take space for myself and learn to say no a lot more. You taught me to love my skin, my history, my heritage, my last name. You gave me a voice for justice. You made my circle closer, tighter, and richer with love for my friends. In a time where people are dying and have lost their jobs, it feels guilty to be grateful for 2020. But I am. You brought me to the best me yet and I loved meeting her.

In 2021, I want to keep my striving to be the best high but loosen the reigns on controlling timelines, outcomes and expectations. I want to be at peace with whatever comes (or doesn’t). I want to treat my body with more love and kindness...and I want to learn to keep ONE plant alive 😬