Shilamida

You don’t 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤 until you know.

And then when you know, you don’t 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 it at first because the evidence doesn’t show what you 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤.

So you have to 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕 and just be happy and free.

But you can’t because you just can’t see.

And so you live in panic, or stress.

You look at where everyone else is and you compare.

You beat yourself up because your not further ahead.

You self loathe, self sabotage, and self destruct instead of enjoying the beautiful 𝑛𝑜𝑤, because you can’t see the beauty here because it seems like it’s not enough…

It’s all about the journey…

And it all starts when I 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆 in the knowing and I can see the evidence around me.

I can show you ℎ𝑜𝑤. Join me live on Tuesday June 14 at noon or catch the replay. You can buy the class or the pass❤️🍍

There was a time that I thought I would never find love

I was so desperate for it.

I was so scared of it, that I always had one foot out the door and would sabotage it

What changed is I started to 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 in the evidence around me. When I saw people in love, instead of being jealous of it, I started being grateful for my love and being loved.

By the time I met Ben I 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑 I was 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑡ℎ𝑦 of true love and I wasn’t going to settle for anything else!

When Ben and I met our circumstance were far from ideal. He should’ve left me behind too
(Old patterns) but something was different…

I 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑 him when he told me he loved me after a few short weeks.

I 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑 him when he told me together forever.

I 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑 him when he said time will tell

And 11 years later we are blissfully in love!

You see, we make decisions in our life based on the evidence around us and what we know to be true based on how we were raised. And even when we see it for others, we don’t 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 it to be true for us.

Because they are more beautiful, more social, more known, thinner, funnier etc…

❌The evidence showed me that I wasn’t loveable

❌The evidence showed me that I wasn’t good enough to be the only one

❌The evidence showed me that I needed to be the dominant one, the financial earner and to be the masculine. (Ex-conditioned liberal feminist)

But the evidence was all wrong!

My life up until then was based on the trauma of my past and the brain wash of our system.

I’ve spent years of my life re-writing my story. Reprogramming my 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓𝑠. Building my strength, falling in love with myself and allowing myself to receive!

I started to 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆 in me and the evidence 𝑎𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑 me!

If I saw true love, I 𝑘𝑛𝑒𝑤 it was mine too.

If I saw a woman treated like a queen, I 𝑘𝑛𝑒𝑤 my day would come.

If I saw luxury, travel, any 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 I 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑 those things could be mine!

And now I am living breathing proof of the evidence that once surrounded me all by living my truth and you can too! I’m breaking it down for you in my masterclass on 6/14 called 𝑩𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆. This one you don’t want to miss!

Do you want to know the secret sauce of every successful human being on this planet?

They 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑑! 👉

✨They believed in themselves.
✨They believe in miracles
✨They believe in magic
✨They believe in the impossible being possible!
✨Last, but not least they believe they CAN!

Always, even when they don’t. Or even when it gets hard. Or even when they quit. Eventually they bring themselves back to alignment in the belief of success.

We believe what we 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤, but what if we believe in the unknown?

That’s where the magic happens and the miracles unfold!

Are you ready?

𝐵𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 the masterclass happens 2 weeks from today. You don’t want to miss it. The link is in my bio.

Everything that I’ve acquired and accomplished in my life is because of gratitude.

Everything always stems from gratitude.

The good, the bad, the ugly can be healed or magnified by gratitude 🙏

You just have to believe it to be true.

Reframe all the negative into something to be grateful for! It works I promise!

There’s thousands of live that have been changed and shifted from my first book available on my website shilamida.com or on

Let’s be thankful together on this beautiful Tuesday. No matter what your mood is take a moment to say thanks with me. ❤️

I’ll start in the comments.

Next week is jam packed with in person events and I couldn’t be happier.

My word this year is connection and I’ve been doing just that.

Connecting with new women, connecting with myself, connecting with source… all of it!!

And I love it!!

If you are in the NJ area come join me and some pretty amazing speakers.

We will motivate, educate and inspire you to live a healthier happier life!

Can you join me live?

The other day I went for a facial and it was the first time I didn’t get yelled at 😬.

You see up until 2 months ago I didn’t even wash my face 🙈🙈🙈.

I know it’s embarrassing to say out loud.

I mean I would splash water on my face, but there was no face wash, no soap, no toners, no serums… just a moisturizer and wallah!

Lucky for me, all these years I’ve focused on gut health and because of that have reversed aged.

But my skin was dry, dull and sun damaged.

A few months ago I was introduced to 𝑃𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝐻𝑎𝑣𝑒𝑛. A huge delivery of home products that included a five piece face kit showed up to my house in a beautiful box with directions and it changed not only my skin but my life!

For years I 𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑢𝑠𝑒𝑑 to use skin care. I said I would 𝑛𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 do a daily routine and here I am…

My skin is now hydrated. The dark spots are evening out. The lines aren’t as deep and I’ve stopped wearing face powders on my face.

This is a no filter no make up photo.
Not so bad for 42.5!

On top of my great skin, my bank account grows every Friday and I’ve earned two luxury vacations and luggage for my trips!

And the best part?? Sisterhood and Mentorship!

I’ve met some of the most incredible people. I am supported and guided daily and I am having the time of my life just sharing the products I use in my home. 💗

There’s an incredible offer that was released today. I’ll drop it in my stories for you to see. Feel free to DM me to chat.

And if you are in NJ, save a date for my events coming up! I am teaming up with some pretty incredible humans to elevate the world! I would love for you to join us in person.

I am so excited for this weeks episode!! If you know me, you know I love business and we have Chavet Mason joining us this week to discuss her woman owned valet parking and management company, the ONLY WOMAN owned valet parking company in the nation!!

How cool is that?!

This is going to be a great episode - we are talking Airb&b, real estate, and mentoring women.

Join me for some wisdom and gratitude at noon EST this Thursday and stay tuned to hear all about Chavet’s experiences in business and life!

Tune in live or catch the replay! Link in bio 🤍

Yesterday morning my phone rang…

Ben: Good Morning princess.
Me: Good Morning
Ben: This is Benjamin lover calling to ask you to go to lunch or dinner. You’ve been so busy…

𝐻𝑒’𝑠 𝑙𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑒 I thought. Then I laugh bc those are my same words to ℎ𝑖𝑚.

The last few weeks have been pretty crazy around our house. I can’t tell you the last time we had a solo date night… we didn’t even have anniversary dinner! (It’s a good thing we celebrate everyday Benjamin lover 😉)

There’s always something to do or somewhere to be…

There’s always people, children around, and while I wouldn’t have it any other way I desire my own one to one time with my bestie.

So this week I started to 𝑎𝑠𝑘 for what I needed.

I 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑𝑒𝑑 to be wined, dined and 😉

I communicated my feelings.

I was grateful for connection and then the call…

Me: oh yeah? Well if Ben Lover is calling I am all in. Let me move things around.

11 years together and I love him more everyday, but if we don’t connect like this then love days turn into bicker and argue days and no one has time for that!

So go ahead and ask your partner to take you on a date! And if you are solo, take yourself out sister! Act as though your already in love starts with loving you ❤️.

Beyond grateful 🙏🍍💗