BeccaKemp.Life

How afraid of failure are you? I know, it’s not a simple question. You’re probably fine with failing to fold your laundry. I know I am.

But what about those bigger failures? The ones that stop us in our tracks because they are very scary. Our brains want us to stay safe and failure seems dangerous...which sometimes it is.

Now, obviously, I’m not talking about like, skydiving or fighting a bear. I’m a life coach and not an outdoorsy one at that.

If you’re reading this, failure hasn’t buried you yet. You’re still up and kicking. Failure really sucks sometimes and I’m sorry about that.

But we can’t avoid it. We need to learn from it or it’ll be an even bigger failure. The more lessons we can find in failure, the more information we have, and the more valuable the experience is.

This is about being honest with yourself.
This is about being objective.
This is about feeling your feelings and trusting that you won’t shatter.
This is about talking it through with someone or writing it out or making a spreadsheet or whatever.

Too many times we try to change our lives without facing what’s really holding us back.

It’s almost always fear.

But acknowledging the reality gives you the power to change it.

If you’re going to put in the effort, you might as well get some useful data from it.

Failure sucks, but it’s never wasted.

Bring yourself back to this moment. Just this one here, right now.

For just one breath, let yourself be.

Inhale here.

Exhale here.

The rest of the day, the rest of your list, the rest of fu***ng everything, it’s all still out there.

But for one breath, you can just exist.

You are enough, you deserve this moment.

Okay, now go take the next step. Maybe even go kick some ass.

This goes not only for communicating with others, but also for ourselves.⁣
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When was the last time you asked yourself what you wanted? Not just what you need, but what you want.

Will you listen to the answer with an open heart?⁣
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Allow others 𝗮𝗻𝗱 yourself the gift of this simple question - asked with genuine curiosity.

Does the fear of wasted effort keep you up at night? Do you think if you don’t succeed quickly enough, you’ve falling behind?⁣
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“𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘧 𝘐 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦, 𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦/𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵/𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘺.”⁣
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This is the big thing I see keeping people stuck. They get paralyzed by the “what ifs”, but worse, they judge themselves for these “what ifs”.
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They are judging themselves for something that hasn’t even happened. Just the very idea that something might not work out feels too dangerous.

I get it. Our resources are not infinite. Eventually we do run out of time/energy/money. It’s totally valid to want a return on the investment of those things. But there aren’t any guarantees, for failure or success.

If you’re going to get caught up in “what ifs”, try these:
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What if you decided that whatever experience you have, is full of value and learning and worth your effort? ⁣
What if you trusted that you are actually capable AF? What if you asked for help?⁣
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What if you imagined yourself figuring s**t out and building knowledge and resilience? ⁣

What if you try and new possibilities open up?
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You’re smart. You’re paying attention. And you can create something valuable from your efforts, no matter the outcome.

Life is also like a bicycle in that sometimes you have to go uphill and it’s really hard.

Here’s hoping you can coast downhill today.

Clarity. Confidence. Self-compassion. Insight. Enthusiasm. Ease. Curiosity. Hope. Boldness. Possibility.

I’m not just randomly listing words.

I’m telling you what clients have reported that they’ve gained from coaching with me.

What would you like to gain?

I’m here to go after it with you.

Yes, you.

You are not exempt from this statement.

If a voice in your head tries to argue with this - that voice is wrong.

Are you worried that if you indulge in self-compassion, you’ll never accomplish anything ever again?

Maybe you believe that kindness equals comfort and comfort means never pushing yourself to achieve.

You might think that the ruthless supervisor in your head is what’s giving you motivation, but I promise you - it’s really holding you back.

If you’re ready to change the way you think about yourself, I’m ready to coach with you. Visit beccakemp dot life to find out how.

Happy Friday, y’all.

Get out there (or stay in) and do something!

You’re going to fail.

Sorry! But it’s true.

Not every time, but especially when you’re creating something new in your life, you’re going to have some failures.

And while you might be ready for it, are you making the most of it?

I’d love to dig into these questions with you. First coaching call is always free!