Whole Human Wellness

Hey Friend!

I want you to know that I see you.
I see you struggling to find energy for things you used to enjoy doing.
I see you having a hard time making your workouts happen.
I see you tossing and turning in your sleep, not being able to turn off those nagging thoughts.
I see those overwhelming work responsibilities and stresses.
And, I see you underwhelmed by the relationships and support you desperately need right now.

Life can get super lifey.
And, the only way you can regulate ANY of that ⬆️ is if you first learn how to regulate yourself. Your nervous system, your emotional needs and reactions, and your physical body.

I SEE YOU!
I GOT YOU!

I have created The Regulators Masterclass exactly for YOU!

In this class I will teach you how to incorporate 3 of HEAVIEST HITTING wellness practices I’ve come across in 21 years of coaching; EFT, Movement and Eco Meditation, so that you can get back to feeling like YOU again!

This whole human healing class will be held on Wednesday, March 22nd @ 6:30 pm.

Now here’s the best part….
This class is entirely FREE and all registered participants will receive a copy of the replay so even if you can’t be there LIVE or you’re having a random sh&t tuesday and need a friend, you can click a button and join this class WHENEVER you are in need of support.

Click the link in my bio to register now!
I can’t wait to see YOU there!

Like all humans I have had my share of grief and loss in this life:

The dissolution of my marriage and along with it, my heart into a million tiny pieces.

The cessation of future dreams and ideas I thought would once come to pass.

The death of beloved family members; grandparents now ancestors, cousins taken far too soon, favorite aunts no longer here to share holidays.

And, most recently the loss of my best friend, my fur baby, my companion, and the best feline ANYONE could ever come to know, Cooper.

I’m sure you have a list of heartbreaks too.
And, for that I extend you my deep compassion and empathy.

Being human is a gift, but it is also HARD AS F**K!

Grief and death (in whatever form) are top on the list of hard things we humans try diligently to shield ourselves from.

We don’t want it personally and quite honestly we have a hard time sitting with it when others are experiencing it.

And, that is ok.
It’s understandable really.

Our goal as beings who want to survive is to stay away from pain & hurt and turn towards pleasure & light.

But, guess what!?!
REAL life requires we play with BOTH.

I know, “play” is an unusual word to use with grief.

But, if there is one thing I have learned this go round with my friend Mr. Grief is that the less we fear and the more curious we get the better off our healing will be.

Cuz here’s a truth that might sting the back of your throat:
There is nothing more guaranteed in life than death!

And, when the worst thing happens… when we lose what we value… we can not become afraid of our grief!

Because if we do we will be rushed to “move on” from it versus moving forward with it.

The idea of “moving on” from a trauma or loss completely abandons all possibilities for healing and growth.

The truth is we never REALLY move on from any of our past pains. Thinking you can just pack that sh&t up in a box and move onto the next step is wildly reductive to the human process.

What we humans ACTUALLY need for whole human wellness is time to feel the emotions, yes even the uncomfortable ones, process them, give meaning to the event, and THEN move forward with all of those lessons in tact.

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Yesterday was the day that I have been fearing for about two years now.

Yesterday, I had to tell my best friend that I would see him later, that I’d find him again, somehow, some way, on whatever plane of existence we both shared next.

Cooper was my most stable and reliable male companion since I was 20, the age he was yesterday when I witnessed him take his last breath.

Not only was Cooper the most special feline to walk the earth, but he was also the most open, loving, strong, and courageous soul I’ve ever come to know.

Over the past two years he used ALLL of his 9 lives fighting and coming back from various neurological events and episodes, and yesterday we was finally ready to rest.

Anyone who says the loss of the pet is any less painful, heartbreaking, and soul splitting than losing a human has clearly never been blessed by the beautiful connection humans CAN HAVE with animals.

Cooper was my soul mate.
And, I am convinced we have known each other much longer than these 20 earth side years.

Although I am gutted by his absence, I truly believe his spirit is now free from his aged body and able to once again swim, jump, run, fly, or do wherever it pleases. Renewed.
Reinvigorated.

If you have known me AT ALL - you KNOW Cooper. His nickname is The Don, because well he is such a damn G.

At one point in his life he lived with 3 PIT BULLS and kept them plus my human ass in check at all times!
Do you know any other 🐱 who could do that?

He was famous at our vet for being THE OLDEST Cat they’ve ever had as a patient. In fact, just this month I was notified that he had been voted as Pet of the Quarter at our veterinarian’s office.

Long story short, he was soooo fu***ng special and sooooo fu***ng loved not only by me, but by everyone who was lucky enough to cross paths with him.

I feel nothing short of blessed to have had his partnership for as long as I have. It has been one the greatest gifts of my life.

And, I don’t doubt that I will miss him forever.

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“Why must everything happen for a reason? Why can’t we just let the universe have a few rough edges?”
- Rabbi Harold Kushner

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“If there were no beginnings and if there were no endings, we would have the absence of inertia and the presence of stagnation.”
- Craig D Lounsbrough

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A Friday Photo Series Titled:
14 Days to 40.... a BIRTHDAY COUNT DOWN and gentle reminder to be the F who you were meant to be in this life!

“Anything you can imagine you can make real.”
- Jules Verne

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Just because you cannot witness it with your eye does not mean it doesn’t exist.

This holds true for MANY things in life:
Magic
Love
Sadness
Mental Illness

These are all invisible.
But, they are ALL profound, influential, and REAL.

For the purpose of today’s discussion, I am going to speak about the last item on that list.

Full disclosure:
Since I can remember I’ve struggled with my mental health.

And, I am talking like vivid memories of me fighting my emotions and what they felt like in my body since as early as adolescence.

S**t... there are a whole plethora of baby photos where I legit have my hands clenched in fists. On. The. Regular 👊🏻

I FEEL things and I feel them in technicolor!

Sometimes that’s great and sometimes it makes my skin crawl.

And yet, as I explain that to you now, the best I can do is describe what it feels like in euphemisms, analogies, and adjectives, because you can’t SEE what I’m talking about.

You can’t see mental illness and pain like you can see a bruise or look at a cat scan.

But, that does not make it any less real.

Because, it is an invisible condition it can be so easily overlooked, undervalued, and sadly dismissed.

But, today I call bu****it on that!

If you struggle with mental health or even the quality of your mental landscape day to day please know that I SEE YOU!

I know it is a valid challenge.

I know it is just as disruptive to your life as a tooth ache or heart murmur.

I know it’s ok to take days off to attend to it (just like you would a tooth ache or heart murmur).

I also know the more you talk about it the less invisible it seems and the more manageable it becomes.... to you and those who love and support you!

So share your story and remember your strength, you beautiful Human, YOU!

“When you make peace with yourself, you make peace with the world.”
– Maha Ghosananda

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"Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die."
- G.K. Chesterton

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