10/15/2026
I swore I'd NEVER go back to church. 10+ years later? I'm singing in the choir. 👀
The hardest part hasn't been church. It's been ME. I've been angry with myself for going back, as if I betrayed the woman who walked away after church hurt.
Queen, maybe you have a "never again" too. Never trust again. Never start over. Never try something new at 40-something.
Jump rope taught me something about this. A lot of beginners jump high and stiff, bracing for impact. That tires you out fast and puts more stress on your joints. Instead:
✅ Jump just 1–2 inches off the ground
✅ Turn the rope with your wrists, not your whole arms
✅ Land softly on the balls of your feet with your knees slightly bent
Healing works the same way. Protecting yourself isn't wrong, but bracing forever keeps you stiff. Therapy helped me see that what I'm experiencing TODAY isn't what I experienced back THEN. I can honor why I made that decision without living by it forever.
Research suggests that treating our shortcomings with self-compassion, rather than harsh self-criticism, may increase our motivation to grow. I don't have to shame myself into progress.
That's J.U.M.P.: Journey of the Underdog MAKING Progress. The rope was already turning. Standing still only let it keep catching my feet. So I JUMPED. I'm still learning how to land, softly and with boundaries.
Try this today: do 10 small, soft bounces without a rope, then 10 with one. Misses count as practice. Need a rope? I have a limited amount available at http://bit.ly/freestyleropemif
The woman who said "never" was trying to survive. The woman you are now gets to decide how to LIVE.
👑 What "never again" are you still obeying that today's version of you never agreed to?