Kerin Eilis

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09/17/2026

My fitness years were during the era of bro quotes and big-box gyms.

“Just do it.”
“No excuses.”
“Earn it.”
“No days off.”
“BEAST MODE.”

That was the mentality.

Which basically meant one of two things:

You either grinded your way through the workout…

Or you were the loser who didn’t show up, and the inevitable spiral of:

“I’m never going to lose the weight” began.

I relied almost entirely on “KEEP GOING, YOU’VE GOT THIS” motivation (and a crap ton of energy drinks) to power me through workouts that sometimes included two hours of cardio alone.

Motivation was my deciding factor.

And the day I stopped using motivation, or my lack of it, to determine whether I took care of myself was the day I got my life back.

Because here’s what I eventually learned:

Motivation might give you the energy to have a mind-blowing two-hour workout once in a while.

But discipline, self-love, and a vision for what you want your body and your daily life to look like?

That gives you a lifetime of good, decent, and powerful workouts that actually move you toward your goals…

Without the burnout.
Without the resentment.
Without the binging.
Without constantly starting over.

The day I stopped looking for some never-ending supply of motivation was the day I got something much better:

An identity.

I am a healthy, fit woman who takes care of her body.

I am a woman who prioritizes herself.

I am a woman who can trust her feelings, emotions, and needs.

My body doesn’t work against me.

My body and I are on the same team.

I trust myself to show up.
I trust myself to rest.
I trust myself to know when I need understanding.
And I trust myself to know when I need to push.

That changed everything.

I lost the weight.

And I never looked back.

If this is the first time you’ve seen my face, welcome.

I’m Kerin 👋🏻 a former weight-loss coach turned self-trust + behavior change coach… I guess you could call me. 😉

I help women stop depending on motivation, and break the cycle of abandoning their well-thought-out plans when things get hard, and become the woman who actually follows through on what she already knows she wants.

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09/17/2026

Women have been called selfish for asking for too much, needing too much, wanting too much.

I think it’s time we own it.

Because I have yet to meet a husband or father who feels guilty asking to spend six hours on a golf course on a Saturday.

Ladies, be that type of selfish.

For my single ladies:

It will probably never be easier to prioritize yourself than it is right now.

So if you’re already struggling with guilt…

Work needs something.
Your friends want you to go out.
You’re tired.
You’re in a mood.
You don’t “feel like it.”

…and suddenly the promises you made to yourself are the first thing to go?

Get a handle on that NOW.

Because adding a partner, a family, a house, and more responsibilities into the mix is not going to magically make prioritizing yourself easier.

This is your time to learn how to choose yourself without needing perfect circumstances.

And for my married ladies + mamas:

I get it. You have A LOT going on.

But being the best version of yourself is not going to come from running your tank on empty and doing absolutely everything for everyone.

Get your husband involved.

Learn to receive.

Learn to lean back.

Let other people do the things they are perfectly capable of doing.

Stop wearing exhaustion like proof that you’re a good wife or mother.

Give yourself the time, mentally and physically, to take care of YOU.

Because taking care of yourself does not take away from the people you love.

It allows you to show up for them as the woman you actually want to be.

If this is the kind of reminder you need weekly, hit follow. Then send this to the bestie who needs to hear it too.

Kerin

09/17/2026

Women have been called selfish for asking for too much, needing too much, wanting too much.

I think it’s time we own it.

Because I have yet to meet a husband or father who feels guilty asking to spend six hours on a golf course on a Saturday.

Ladies, be that type of selfish.

For my single ladies:

It will probably never be easier to prioritize yourself than it is right now.

So if you’re already struggling with guilt…

Work needs something.
Your friends want you to go out.
You’re tired.
You’re in a mood.
You don’t “feel like it.”

…and suddenly the promises you made to yourself are the first thing to go?

Get a handle on that NOW.

Because adding a partner, a family, a house, and more responsibilities into the mix is not going to magically make prioritizing yourself easier.

This is your time to learn how to choose yourself without needing perfect circumstances.

And for my married ladies + mamas:

I get it. You have A LOT going on.

But being the best version of yourself is not going to come from running your tank on empty and doing absolutely everything for everyone.

Get your husband involved.

Learn to receive.

Learn to lean back.

Let other people do the things they are perfectly capable of doing.

Stop wearing exhaustion like proof that you’re a good wife or mother.

Give yourself the time, mentally and physically, to take care of YOU.

Because taking care of yourself does not take away from the people you love.

It allows you to show up for them as the woman you actually want to be.

If this is the kind of reminder you need weekly, hit follow. Then send this to your bestie who needs to hear it too.

Kerin

Did I mention I’m going to buy a flat in Paris?I feel like there are two types of people in this world:The logical ones ...
09/16/2026

Did I mention I’m going to buy a flat in Paris?

I feel like there are two types of people in this world:

The logical ones who play by the rules…

And people like me who are completely delusional.

Being in the delusional camp, here’s what I know:

To create a life you’ve never experienced before, at some point you have to be delusional enough to believe something you’ve never experienced is possible before there’s any evidence that it is.

Being delusional allowed me to break free from emotional eating, bingeing, body shame, low self-worth, bulimia, and chronic dieting… things so many women carry with them for their entire lives.

Being delusional allowed me to completely flip my dating life on its head.

I went from abusive relationships, cheating, constantly worrying “there’s someone else,” and feeling like I had lost myself in relationships…

to one moment where I said:

“Enough. This isn’t it.”

And I swear, I put myself on an entirely different timeline.

The men I date are now different.
The men I’m attracted to are different.
The men who are attracted to me are different.

Because I’m different.

And now?

Being delusional means I make the type of money that allows me to buy two, maybe three homes.

It means building a business that creates financial freedom for me and my family.

It means going to Bali and helping clean litter out of the ocean because why not?!

God, it feels good to write that for the world to see and not give a s**t what anyone thinks.

I do not care how far away any of that is from where I am right now.

Because there was also a time when every predictable pattern in my life suggested I was never going to get my 💩 together with my body or my relationships.

And look at me now.

I care far less about where I am today than I do about where I’m going.

So if you’re that kind of person too…

The kind who can look at your current circumstances and say:

“Okay. But this isn’t where the story ends.”

In this space, you’ve got yourself.

And for the parts of you that don’t quite believe yet?

You’ve got me.

I believe in magic.

And I believe in anyone’s ability to completely change their life. ✨

09/15/2026

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Basically: anywhere you already know you’re capable of more… but you’ve been tolerating less. 🤪

Drop “ELEVATE” below and I’ll keep you updated on when we begin

09/15/2026

I don’t remember the last time I stumbled over my words in a video as much as I did in this one…

but I posted it anyway.

My old self would have said, “I’ll do this tomorrow.”

And tomorrow turns into 2 days.
2 days turns into 2 weeks.
2 weeks turns into 2 months.

You know the drill.

And the same is going to go for you.

You’re going to have crappy workouts.
Days you don’t feel like it.
Days you’re uninspired, tired, annoyed, not in the mood.

But you already know this.

The question is:

What do you do in that moment?

Who are you when you don’t feel like doing the thing you said you were going to do?

Because THAT is the moment your life changes.

In the moment you would normally bail on yourself.

And if you already know exactly where you keep doing that but you need some support actually choosing differently in that moment , I’m your woman.

THE STANDARD was built for exactly that moment.

Add your name to the waitlist in my bio.

This is going to be a ride. 🔥
Kerin

Nowadays, everyone has diagnosed everyone.He’s avoidant.He’s toxic.He’s emotionally unavailable.He’s a gaslighter.He’s a...
09/10/2026

Nowadays, everyone has diagnosed everyone.

He’s avoidant.
He’s toxic.
He’s emotionally unavailable.
He’s a gaslighter.
He’s a narcissist.

Personally?

I think a lot of people just have communication issues, different values, different relationship styles, or unresolved 💩 they haven’t learned how to navigate yet.

With that said…

Back in the day, I used to date actual walking red flags.

And there is a difference.

A red flag is a man who follows half-naked women all over IG and when you tell him it bothers you, he laughs at you, dismisses you, or tells you you’re crazy.

A red flag is emotional or physical abuse.
Been there 🙋🏻‍♀️

A red flag is love bombing you, disappearing, coming back when you’ve finally started moving on, and love bombing you all over again.

A red flag is someone who repeatedly lies about things and then somehow makes YOU feel like the problem for questioning him.

That’s different from a trigger.

And it’s different from a values mismatch.

Sometimes he’s not a bad guy.
You just keep having the same fight.

Sometimes he reminds you SO much of your father that when he brings up a specific topic during conflict, you see red…

while another woman might barely react to it.

Sometimes he wants a totally different lifestyle than you do.

Sometimes you want children and he doesn’t.

Sometimes you want a man who is highly ambitious and he genuinely does not care about that.

None of those things necessarily make him a bad person.

They may just make him not YOUR person.

And I think the work is different depending on which camp you’re in.

If you keep dating actual red flags, there’s usually work to do around your self-worth, self-love, boundaries and standards.

If you’re dating good men who simply aren’t right for you?

That becomes a self-trust issue.

Can you leave when you know?

Can you stop trying to turn a good man into the right man?

Can you trust yourself enough to walk away without needing him to become the villain first?

I’ve been in both camps.

And what I will say is…

I actually think the second one can be harder.

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09/10/2026

He’s tall, he’s got a great job, you both love the same restaurants, you both have a gerbil named Alfred, you “have a connection,” he smells like sex…

Or you just turned 40 and the dating pool feels slim.

Whatever your reason is for wanting to accept low effort, if you are serious about wanting to get married, I promise you:

Those last-minute texts and 10pm phone calls are not going to get you there.

So here is what you do instead.

You don’t answer.

Sorry. I know it’s not some profound 20-page script.

But the real answer is: you don’t respond.

And how do you have the discipline not to respond?

You remember that he had a phone in his hand every single day since your last date a week ago…

and the first time he thought to message you was 8:37pm on Friday night.

And let’s be real.

There’s a pretty good chance his other plans fell through.

That’s being an option.

And why, oh WHY, would you ever want to be someone’s option?

And if that’s still not enough, remember this:

This pattern has NOT gotten you the fairy-tale ending you keep saying you want.

You want a man who adores you.

A man who is also looking for his forever person.

Think about your wedding.

Your life together.

Playing tennis.

Having people over on Sundays.

Traveling together.

Having a forever date to every wedding.

Building an actual LIFE with someone.

Now tell me…

Do you still want to text Mike back?

You’re welcome.

Kerin

P.S. If you want more straight-shooting conversations like this and help holding your standards when it’s so tempting to let something slide “just this once” hit follow.

Once you’ve had a taste of being someone’s intention instead of someone’s option, you’ll never want to go back. 😉

Here’s the thing:Women who trust themselves do not permanently live on the “good list.”They still have moments where the...
09/10/2026

Here’s the thing:

Women who trust themselves do not permanently live on the “good list.”

They still have moments where they stay too long. Say yes when they mean no. Avoid the conversation. Eat the thing. Text the guy. Lower their standard because in that moment, they second-guess themselves, don’t want to make a fuss, choose the easier option… or simply because they’re human.

The difference?

They catch it.

They take ownership of it.

They repair it.

And they practice choosing differently the next time.

Because self-trust isn’t built by never making the “wrong” choice.

It’s built by what you do when you realize you did.

And I say this as a woman who has done every single thing I currently recommend NOT doing.

I do not handle everything perfectly.

But I am constantly using the tools I’ve learned to reconnect to my worth, my standards and ultimately, my truth whenever I feel I’m off track.

No matter where you are in your journey, the same principles apply:

1. Get honest about where you are without shaming yourself.
2. Become aware of the cycles you keep repeating.
3. Start practicing different choices in the moments that actually matter.

Because your life isn’t built from one giant decision.

It’s built in the tiny moments.

The moment you know better…and then choose better.

If you’re self-aware AF, have read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe even gone to therapy…

but still find yourself repeating the same patterns in real time… this is exactly the work we’re doing inside THE STANDARD.

It’s a month-long voice messaging experience where we work on what happens in the actual moment when emotions are high, logic is low, and the old version (and path of least resistance) wants to take over.

Because knowing better was never the problem.

Learning to choose better when it matters is the work.

DM me “STANDARD” if you’d like to join the waitlist, lock in founders pricing, and be the first to know when we open

09/08/2026

If you missed Part 1 about health + movement and you’re looking to lose weight, I recommend going back and reading that first.

It’s basic information.

But if you don’t have a handle on the basics, you do NOT need to complicate it.

You need to master the basics.

Ok, let’s get on to Part 2: GET YOUR MINDSET UNDER CONTROL.

Being a master over your mind and essentially your emotions is NOT about never having a bad day again.

It’s about not allowing your emotions to rule your decisions.

Because if every bad day, stressful work situation or “f**k it” moment leads you to grab a drink, skip the workout, not show up or completely change the plans you made when you were thinking clearly…

I promise you, you’re going to have a really hard time getting anywhere.

So here are a few things I would do:

1. First thing, I’d buy workout clothes that make me feel really good NOW.

Because if I’m going to be moving my body every single day for the next few months, I’m not spending those months hiding myself in ratty oversized T-shirts waiting until I lose weight to feel hot.

Why would you dress great AFTER you lose the weight but not before?

That plays directly into the belief that you have to EARN looking good.

Earn feeling good.

Earn looking good for love.

Earn feeling confident.

No.

This belief that you have to earn, be worthy of or deserve X is part of why you’re stuck in the loop.

Looking good and feeling good is your birthright and has absolutely nothing to do with your current size.

YOU CHOOSE to lose weight because you want to look and feel a certain way.

Not because losing weight is the grand prize that suddenly gives you permission to dress well, feel sexy, be confident or get the guy.

2.Next, I would plug into some type of mindset practice at the beginning of my day. Meditation. Breathwork. Journaling. Whatever works for you.

But I would do it 👏🏻 every 👏🏻 single 👏🏻 day.

And positive thinking alone isn’t enough.

You have to be willing to go deeper and look at what you actually believe subconsciously.

Because it’s not just your thoughts affecting your life. It’s the emotions attached to those thoughts

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