Tamara Driskell, LMHC

10/24/2026

Forever the professional hype woman. 📣

Spent my whole life cheering people on, reminding them who the f**k they are, and encouraging a little audacity.

Now I just have a license and get paid for it. 💋

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Sooooo loving that Joy & ConfiDance at Crestview Fitness is now including pom classes in the lineup!

10/14/2026

Radical autonomy sounds beautiful in theory, and I truly believe it IS the key to existential freedom and all of its subsequent states like peace, love, and happiness, HOWEVER, and this cannot be overly stated,

In practice, it means becoming willing to be misread.

Somebody will think freedom is selfishness.
Somebody will see confidence as arrogance.
Somebody will interpret pleasure as indulgence.
Somebody will see visibility as attention-seeking.
Somebody will see a happy relationship and assume you’re somehow staging it.

And so, even if you are finally past needing other people’s permission/ approval to live your life the way you now know is best for you, you might still find yourself hung up at times in one of the most universal yet agonizing bitch ass parts of being human:

WANTING TO BE UNDERSTOOD.

There are times I can still hear my inner monologue saying something like, “You can dislike me. But please dislike the real me because if you actually understood what I’m doing, you’d know this isn’t bulls**t.”

But would they??? Would they though???

Why radical autonomy requires making peace with rejection, relinquishing the need to be understood, and choosing a life that feels f**king delicious anyway.

10/05/2026

You are not a rehabilitation center for attractive people with potential. 👏

Admire them. Maybe sleep with them?? (depending on your mindset and heart space).

But wish them well on their way if they aren’t GROWN. 👏👏

You can waste YEARS loving someone’s potential (… although it is one hell of a life lesson so no need to beat yourself up or live in regret either).

But I’m begging you,

Watch what they repeatedly do when nobody is managing, motivating, parenting, or rescuing them.

Pay attention to what they repeatedly choose:

How they handle responsibility.
How they repair.
How they pursue.
How they love when it requires effort.

Patterns tell the truth. BELIEVE THEM.

10/05/2026

I know it sounds so good on paper to identify as a giver in the bedroom…

And truly, I’m sure most partners are super thankful for that, HOWEVER…

That is only half of the equation.

Great s*x, just like anything else in a great relationship, is about giving AND receiving.

It’s polarity and ebb and flow.

Research has proven time and time again, that humans are attracted to people who feel comfortable in their own skin and enthusiastic about being in the moment with someone.

That requires you to be able to own who you are and what you want and your energy in the room with someone else.

You might even call it self objectification. The ability to see yourself as the object of someone else’s desire and to stay in that energy.

Often times, when I am working with an individual who is struggling to climax, this is one of the roots of that issue.

They are up in their heads about whatever and not embodying their own desire in the moment.

There’s no one right way to be in the bedroom. It’s about bringing the fullest expression of you.

*xtherapy

10/04/2026

THANK YOU PENSACOLA!

What a wild privilege to be recognized for doing work I believe in this deeply! 🖤

🏆 Runner Up for Best Mental Health Practitioner in Inweekly ‘s 2026 Best of the Coast 🏆

To every beautiful human who has trusted me with the messy, sacred business of healing and becoming more fully themselves, thank you.

Here’s to reclaiming what’s always been ours and having the audacity to build lives that feel so damn good to live. 🥂

And a special thank you to Rick Outzen & joanidelezen as well as Pensacola’s Luxury Venue for hosting such a badass party! You guys knock it out of the park every time!

And to DJ Hale | Culture & Celebration for keeping us dancing! 💃

10/01/2026

*HUGE DISCLAIMER* - I am NOT saying you shouldn’t have time and space to genuinely process the hard s**t NOR am I saying to try and gaslight yourself as if life isn’t hard at times NOR am I saying to invalidate others’ feelings.

Ok, now that said, as a former university psychology instructor, I am referring to the research on humans’ tendency to commiserate to belong - and even more so, women to co-ruminate.

It’s like we all agreed it makes us nicer.

We’ve made commiseration a cultural norm.

Talk about how exhausted you are. How broke you are. How terrible dating is. How much your body hurts. How disappointing life has been.

Everyone nods along.

But say you feel f**king fantastic?

That you’re making great money?

That you love your body?

That your relationship is incredible?

That you’re having phenomenal s*x?

That you genuinely love your life?

Suddenly, you’re “bragging.”

We need to stop making misery the price of belonging!!

It’s holding all of us back, both on the individual level, and on the collective level. No literally. In every area.

Let yourself be visibly, unapologetically WELL.

Someone else needs to see that a beautiful life is possible without watching you shrink it down to make everyone comfortable!!

When you do so, it gives permission for others to do the same.

We need to be able to cheer one another on!

We need to be able to be an example of great possibilities for someone else who is going through the s**t right now and maybe losing hope.

09/30/2026

You are not too much. You are not too weird. You are not too intense, too s*xual, too ambitious, too loud, too deep, too f**king you.

There are people out there looking for EXACTLY what you naturally bring to the table!!

The problem starts when YOU decide that couldn’t possibly be true.

So you edit yourself. Dilute yourself. Second-guess yourself. Start performing for whoever … including some imaginary audience in your head .. instead of participating fully in your own damn life.

And that’s when the energy gets weird babe!

Authenticity is coherence.
And coherence is magnetic. Some even say it’s the strongest vibrational in the universe, even stronger than love. It might just be the creation wavelength itself.

When you stop trying to be desirable and start inhabiting your actual desires, you become easier to find.

The people. The love. The money. The s*x. The opportunities. The life that actually fits.

So remember boo, you don’t attract what’s meant for you by becoming more “acceptable.”

You become recognizable to the people that matter by becoming MORE YOU! 🔥🤘

09/29/2026

Trying to initiate a little adult playtime doesn’t need to freak you out.

Flirting is supposed to be fun.

A lingering kiss. A suggestive glance. A hand on the thigh. A deliciously inappropriate comment while you’re making dinner.

A little tease. A little tension. A little invitation.

It’s an art of playful possibility. You’re inviting your partner into a delicious little dance, one gesture at a time.

And sometimes all it takes to reignite the spark is a little BOOP. 🤺🍑 A parry.

Just the tip, darling. Just the tip. 😈

*xtherapy

09/28/2026

If our souls really did sign up for a century-long human vacation, spending the whole trip worried about whether everybody back at the hotel approves of our chosen itinerary or our wardrobe would be a spectacular waste of airfare. 😂

For years, most of us have apparently been running a subconscious program that sounds something like:

Visibility → evaluation → scan others’ reactions → determine belonging → adjust.

But I’m proposing it should look more like:

Desire → choice → experience → savor → document if desired → release.

Notice what’s missing?

Audience response (approval or even just understanding… if you’re like me, you f**king hate being misunderstood!).

Are there people watching? YES. Especially if you choose to post about it like I do. 😏

BUT… audience response no longer completes the circuit.

That’s the f**king key to freedom!

Maybe try this for a new mantra:

LET ME EXPERIENCE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I NO LONGER REQUIRE CONSENSUS TO EXPERIENCE MY LIFE AS GOOD.

Because notice what happens to the ontology.

Their judgment can remain.

Their jealousy can remain.

Their affection can remain.

Their indifference can remain.

Their misunderstanding can remain.

None of it controls the state you’re generating - whether or not you’re allowing yourself to enjoy your life.

You post the sunset because holy f**king s**t, look at that sunset.

You post your partner because holy f**king s**t, I love this person.

You post your workout because holy f**king s**t, I have a body and it’s alive.

You make money because resources expand what you can experience and create.

You dress beautifully or comfortably or whatever floats your boat because embodiment is delicious.

You photograph your life because temporality makes the moment precious.

THE ACT COMPLETES ITSELF.

And that, my dear, is true ethical hedonism and radical autonomy.

DON’T HOLD BACK. NONE OF US ARE MAKING IT OUT ALIVE AND TIME IS TICKING.

09/28/2026

Today is our four year anniversary.

Sometimes, at our age, it may feel weird to have started over, and in my case, multiple times.

I can either be embarrassed by that fact and let it hold me back, or I can own it and allow my mess to be part of my message. Obviously, I chose the latter.

And I firmly believe my clients and followers benefit from, it as I can PROMISE you, I not only have the graduate degree in how relationships “should” work, I also have lived experience 😝.

I joke that I was raised on Jesus and Disney and with a Dad who set the bar high when it came to acts of service and love. Gave me great daydreams about my future romances, but woefully underprepared me for the realities of the nuances of relationships.

Especially if they contained trauma and or toxic scenarios, including abuse and infidelity or compulsive behaviors. Or partners that couldn’t or wouldn’t do the work with you.

TURNS OUT, LOVE MAY BE UNCONDITIONAL, BUT RELATIONSHIP RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT.

And while even the God of the Bible, Quran, and Torah, would agree because he has his own stipulations for a relationship 😝, he can’t override someone’s free will and neither can we.

So here I am… four years into the best relationship of my life and here’s why:

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1. Rather than look for someone who has what I don’t, I went for a partner who compliments who I am and what I bring to the table. Who grinds beside me. Who wants what I want.

While opposites may initially attract, research shows that birds of a feather flock together and COMPLEMENTARY relationships built on common core values tend to last the longest and with the highest satisfaction rating.

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2. We sat down at the beginning and had the “hard” (aka honest and vulnerable) conversations about what we each wanted and were unwilling to tolerate in a relationship.

Studies have revealed most people have unexpressed “default expectations” and this can really wreak havoc on a relationship later on.

For us personally, some of our non-negotiables are never allowing outside noise to come between us and that includes absolutely everything and everyone else, even our family. It’s him and I against the world/ every problem. PERIOD.

We also flat out refuse to speak ill of one another to anyone else, including our children.

There is NEVER any disrespect. Not publicly or privately. There’s no need to be rude to someone that you claim to love. We are best friends first and we treat each other as such.

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3. We let it be easy.

And I mean EVERYTHING.

Why stress about what’s for dinner? Or where we are going for the weekend or who we are hanging out with. Or what type of s*x we’re having. Or how we’re gonna spend our retirement. Or who’s hosting the holidays.

Doesn’t mean there’s not any stressful moments or differences of opinion. But we don’t allow them to last. We simply work together.

We have each other’s backs and we are always a team.

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4. The biggest one of all is that we refuse to grow complacent about ourselves or each other.

We each take responsibility for our health, our romance, our s*xual fulfillment and more. Complacency kills. Literally.

So we keep ourselves in shape, we prioritize flirting, when he’s home he packs my lunch and cooks dinner, and we take turns planning adventures or bringing each other coffee, etc.

It’s really not complicated. Nor is it hard work. It’s simply the effort put towards attempting to live our best lives.

The best relationships really are comprised of two people living independently together and being one another’s greatest support system.

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BOTTOM LINE:

I guess I just want you to know that it’s never too late to find love or to start over or even recommit with your current partner.

Here’s to love in all its many splendid forms!

P.S. And if you could use someone who has been there done that, and who absolutely would never judge what you got going on, hit me up.