The Sustainable Phoenix

Thought you should know 😎

The trick to processing your emotions is to do what feels counterintuitive and push inward instead of out.

Otherwise, they tighten their grip on you and keep you trapped.

You can try to run, hide, ignore, and even claim you ”don’t do emotions,” but they stay where you don’t want them to until you lean in.

The moment you lean in is the moment you realize the emotions you were trying to control were controlling you, and now you are free. Everything can change for the better. ☺️

These days, I am wildly passionate about processing emotions, inner growth & self-identity, but I wasn’t always. The catalyst for all these passions triggered the lowest, darkest season I have ever had. I wasn’t ready to admit it at the time, but I was in the process of a divorce. You see, I had just found out my (now ex) husband was cheating on me, and it unequivocally destroyed me. It put me into a dark rabbit hole where I became close with a few... 🤔 how shall I say, unpopular friends? Maybe you’ve heard of them; they go by sadness, grief, insecurity, shame, fear, rage, anxiety, and hopelessness. I could go on, but you get the gist of the crowd I was hanging with. I was in that rabbit hole of misery for a year. One whole year.

I learned a lot while in the hole, but only one thing got me out: processing my emotions.

Emotions are like a finger trap. The trick to processing them is to do what feels counterintuitive and push inward instead of out. Otherwise, they tighten their grip on you and keep you trapped.

You can try to run, hide, ignore, and block out your emotions, but they are always there and won’t go anywhere until you lean in.

I realized the emotion I was trying to control was controlling me& everything changed.

Now, I am a master at getting out of the rabbit hole because I have a plan. I have a plan for whenever I feel bad, and that’s not even the best part.
The best part is that all my years of coaching sports, leading small groups, and public speaking, combined with my wild imagination, learning, and teaching style, have finally culminated into something beautiful that I am excited to share with those who need a plan for when they feel bad.

All of this cool stuff is in my coaching program, where we get to geek out on these topics one-on-one, but I will share bits and pieces here, too.
The truth is the world is a better place when more emotions are processed. It is foundational to Sustainability (no matter what our textbooks teach) and cultivating the change we want to see.
I have a good feeling about this year. I sense more wanting to get out of the rabbit hole. What about you? This new year, will there be a new you? 🥂

When we are in a toxic relationship we stay in it way too long bc we cling to the 1% chance it will be as happy & healthy as it once was in real life or in our head.

And yet, when we are in a position to grow, try something new, chase our dreams, and step outside our comfort zone we run away bc we cling to the 1% chance that things might not work out. 🤨

Hiiiii, 👋🏼 let’s switch this mentality.

How cool would it be to see more people speaking their truth, using their talents and sharing it with the world?

So how do we do that?

Learn how to process your emotions. That is the single most important tool you need to take that chance.

Growth isn’t about how far along you are bc this isn’t a 🍆 measuring contest & the real ones know this. 💋

It’s about bouncing back, learning from your failures, and moving TF on.

You are not a victim.

You are not powerless to change or at the mercy of your mind. You make your own decisions.

Processing your emotions helps you utilize the other 3 tools you need to be resilient which are: healthy boundaries, self-validation, and a strong mindset.

Resilient people know how to take a hit, they know how to fall, and they know how to get back up bc perfection isn’t real. We are not perfect beings which means we have the opportunity to never stop getting better.

Take that 1% chance and change the world.

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CONNECTION.

How do we create more connections that are healthy?

→ Emotional intelligence
→ Emotional literacy &
→ Emotional resilience

Everything we choose is in response to an emotion. We are either chasing an emotion like joy or running from one like fear.

Some of the worst things in the world could be prevented from more humans having a healthy relationship with their emotions.

Things like:
•Divorce
•Suicide
•Murder
•Bombings
•War
•Cyber trolls
•Bullying
•Mass shootings

The list goes on.

All of the above are preventable.

Develop your emotions, your thoughts, and your ability to make better decisions.

Develop yourself.

Your development affects other people.

It affects the health of the planet and all beings living on it.

People who walk around knowing their worth change the world on a deeper level than those who don’t.

Sustainability is rooted in inner resilience.

It’s not about the things you do that people see and applaud you for.

It’s not about how much money you can throw at a problem.

It’s about who you are when no one is looking.

It’s how you reflect your values when you are at your lowest.

People with inner resilience, strong self-identity, and emotional maturity are the people who should be on the front lines of corporate sustainability.

They should be speaking with government officials and joining forces with large corporations.

If you want to change the world, learn how to validate yourself.

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You put your walls up to defend yourself against the emotions you think are scary. I get it.

It’s terrifying to think about opening yourself up to feel a tough emotion and end up lost in it forever. 😳🫠
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Letting your walls down is tough ❤️ and it’s the best way to start protecting yourself.

I know it sounds counter-intuitive but letting your walls down will lead to feeling safe, secure, and in control.

The truth is your walls aren’t protecting you and frankly, it’s not about that.

It’s about equipping yourself to be resilient. It’s about alchemizing your pain into power. It’s about turning the thing that broke you into the thing that healed you and made you invincible.

The thing you avoid holds power over you until you face it head-on. It isolates you and makes you feel misunderstood, lonely, and powerless.

Humans are wired for connection.

We connect with the right people, places, and things when we connect with ourselves first. That means connecting to our emotions.

They are so powerful, informative, and essential to learning who we are and why we are the way we are.

Anytime someone says, “I don’t care” I know they very much do and are feeling disconnected to who and what they value.

The “I don’t care” attitude and the “I don’t do emotions” mindset keep you hidden, trapped, and disconnected from all the things that can bring you joy.

At the end of the day, all we want is to feel good, feel happy, and have more joy in our lives.

Let your walls down. 🫶🏼

If you weren’t taught how to find security within yourself and how to be happy with who you are even when you feel you are not at your best it’s going to take a lot of time, energy, frustration, and dedication to get there.

It takes a lot of trial and error to figure out what tools work and how to use them. It takes time to learn how to process your thoughts and emotions. It takes practice to figure out who to talk to in your circle of peeps depending on the topic or mood you are in so you don’t walk away feeling more depleted, discouraged, and confused.

You can figure out how to find yourself, create a strong sense of self, and maintain a solid sense of security and safety even when life around you is chaotic. You can take the time and dedicate the years to do it on your own but if you had an opportunity to do it in 6 weeks and with someone who is going to guide, encourage, and coach you the entire way would you take it?

5 years ago, I know I would have. Don’t get me wrong I have loved and appreciated the journey but time is the one resource money can’t buy more of. So, if I could have had the knowledge, wisdom, confidence, and security I have today, back then I would choose that in a heartbeat.

RECONNECT is a 6-week course that accelerates your growth to help you build a solid foundation, gather your tools, and improve your skills so you can finally get happy. At the end of the day, that’s all we want. Your every thought, emotion, and decision is made with the intent and hope to feel joy and every wonderful emotion that falls under that umbrella.

If you want to feel all those positive and amazing emotions more often than the difficult and heavy ones, create a strong sense of self. And if you want to accelerate that process join RECONNECT.

This is where sustainability starts, with you. I think it’s time to reconnect with your inner badass, know what you’re made of, and learn how to pick yourself up no matter how down you are because sustainable humans create and cultivate a sustainable planet.

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Nature’s raw and unfiltered beauty always has this way of bringing tears to my eyes. Every single time I am standing and staring in awe, the only thing that comes to mind is, “God, you are so beautiful.” 🤍

The best gift is learning how to pick yourself up and something only you can give to yourself. I don’t say this in the 'hit it and quit it' mentality. 😉 I mean this in the 'I will do this no matter what, mentality.

When people come to me for advice, I can tell whether or not they intend to feel better temporarily or to be a better human long-term. I like being there, giving advice, and sharing encouraging words. But what I love and what truly fills my cup is helping those who intend to be there for the long haul.

As a former track coach, I see them as an inner growth athlete. They show up sore and tired because they are focused more on the result than “all the hard stuff” it takes to get there.

Growth is difficult and meant to be. Athletes are not surprised by this they expect it. Growth means change...you are quite literally changing and that process is quite uncomfortable.

People become stagnant in life because they aren't willing to feel uncomfortable. They aren't willing to step outside their comfort zone, process their emotions, admit where they need to grow, admit when they are wrong, or see themself as a whole human. Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

So they stay where they are and complain about it as if someone is forcing them there against their will.

I can understand mindsets like this. I can understand what it is like to feel stuck in your misery, depression, unprocessed emotions, and limiting thoughts. I have picked myself up from this place many times, and I know the roadmap to get out as quickly, efficiently, and with as much grace and wisdom as possible. It is why I created RECONNECT- A course on how to discover who you are & what you are made of so you can finally become happy.

Picking yourself up is a skill and a gift you give to yourself when you are ready to stop feeling stuck in your misery. If you are in a place where you are ready for change, RECONNECT is for you.

A difficult time is an opportunity to level up, and I can show you how not to waste it. The best part, we do it together. ♥️🌱🌎💃🏻

If digging below the surface was easy, more of us would be in therapy and investing our precious dolla dolla bills into our mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

Sadly, we remain strangers to ourselves because it is easier to deceive others once we have deceived ourselves.

Confronting our hidden motives is no joke. It is incredibly eye-opening and heart-wrenching, which explains why so few pursue personal growth and self-identity.

It requires an investment of time, being bad at something to become good at it. Ain't nobody got time for that...am I right? 😄

We don't enjoy setting aside our egos and miss out on developing skills that equip us with knowing what we are up to.

As a result, we can't be self-aware, process, and name our emotions, and we don't know how to self-validate. In other words, we don't feel good enough unless someone tells us we are.

So, are we better off not knowing what we are up to?

Well, the answer depends on the person. Personal growth is not for everyone, just like going to the Olympics isn't for everyone.

Some are zero percent interested, and others are curious enough to ask themselves..could I do it?

You can if you put in the hard work.

You have to train and be willing to suffer a little bit to see how much you can handle. You have to take the time to prep your mind, body, and soul. You have to ask for help and show up when no one is looking.

You have to be honest with yourself and look at things that aren't easy to see. You have to be willing to sit in your discomfort long enough to bear that weight, cultivate the changes you want, and accept yourself for the perfectly imperfect human you are.

Without a strong sense of Self, we will continue to deceive ourselves, be strangers to ourselves, and sadly pass on these skills (or lack thereof) to the next generation.

If you want to transform your existing sense of Self, identity, and self-perception, Reconnect is the course to teach you how step-by-step
so you can find yourself, be honest with yourself, have fun in the process, and become a personal growth olympian. 😉🤸‍♂️💛

Stay sustainable! 🌎🌱💃🏻

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