Robin Friedman Energy

Sometimes we can spend a lot of time trying to understand why we feel the way we do.

We look at our patterns.

We think about the past.

We journal.

We learn.

We become more aware.

And those things can be valuable.

But what if, at some point, we also gave ourselves permission to ask a different question?

What do I actually want?

Sometimes that question is easy.

Sometimes it's surprisingly difficult.

Especially when we're very clear about what we don't want.

If that's where you are, you can start there.

I don't want to feel so worried about money anymore.

What would I want instead?

I don't want to feel like I'm going nowhere.

What would I want instead?

This is something we explored in the Energy Circle class: using what we don't want as a clue toward discovering what we do want.

You don't have to have the perfect answer.

You don't need to know exactly how it's going to happen.

Just noticing what you would love to experience instead can be a meaningful place to begin.

What do you know you don't want anymore, and what might you want instead?

Have you ever had the sense that something could be different—even when you can’t quite put your finger on what it is?

Maybe nothing is obviously wrong.

You may simply find yourself longing for more:

More joy.
More fun.
More ease.
More connection.
More purpose.
More of what feels meaningful to you.

That feeling doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. It may be your inner voice reminding you that there is more available—and that you’re ready to experience it.

What would you love to experience more of in your life right now?

Sometimes we assume we just need more discipline.

More motivation.

One more book.

One more course.

Sometimes those things help.

But I've also seen that we can learn wonderful new ideas while an older subconscious pattern quietly keeps pulling us back toward what's familiar.

That's one reason I love energy work.

It gives us a chance to uncover those hidden patterns, clear what no longer serves us, and intentionally strengthen what we'd rather experience instead.

Not because there's something wrong with us.

Because underneath those old patterns, there's already a wiser, calmer, more authentic version of ourselves waiting to be expressed.

Sometimes your body is exhausted...

but your mind hasn't gotten the message.

You get into bed, hoping you'll finally switch off.

But your thoughts keep moving.

One thing to remember.
One conversation to replay.
One more thing to figure out.

That was something we explored during a recent Self-Hypnosis Energy Clearing session.

We talked about the different states the mind naturally moves through and how relaxation can create a more receptive state for the subconscious.

Then we practiced gently speaking to the subconscious, almost like giving direction to our own "inner staff."

There was no forcing.

No trying to make anything happen.

Just slowing down and allowing the mind and body to become more relaxed.

T.P., an Energy Circle member, shared this afterward:

"My mind usually races, but the alpha/theta explanation helped me relax into it. The guided phrases to my 'inner staff' (subconscious) were so soothing—my shoulders dropped, my breathing slowed, and I slept deeply that night."

I love what this reminds us of.

Sometimes we spend so much energy trying to make ourselves relax...

when perhaps the first step is understanding what helps our system feel safe enough to soften.

And there is another part of this that I find fascinating...

What happens when we begin working with the subconscious instead of simply trying to quiet the mind?

That's something we can explore together inside The Energy Clearing Circle.

💛 Have you ever noticed that your body is tired, but your mind keeps going?

Tell me in the comments, or send me RELAX if you'd like to learn more about the Energy Clearing Circle.

Many of us have beautiful intentions.

"I want more peace."

"I want healthier relationships."

"I want to trust myself."

But in the quiet moments throughout the day, our inner dialogue often tells a different story.

"I'm always behind."

"I'll never change."

"This is just the way I am."

Over time, those repeated thoughts become familiar. Not because they're true, but because they've been practiced.

The encouraging news is that practiced patterns can be changed.

As we become aware of the inner instructions we've been living by, we can begin choosing new ones that feel more aligned with who we truly are.

Sometimes a thought gets repeated so often...

it starts to feel like a fact.

"I'm just an overthinker."
"I'm terrible with money."
"I'm not confident."

But what if these aren't who you are?

What if they're simply stories you've learned to repeat?

Becoming aware of the way we speak to ourselves can be the first step toward creating something different.

💛 What is one story about yourself you're ready to question?

Hope opens the door.

Intention helps us decide how we want to walk through it.

Sometimes the conversation we have with ourselves while we're waiting is just as important as what we're waiting for.

Sometimes we talk about ourselves as though we're stating facts.

"I'm always worried."

"I never follow through."

"I've always been this way."

But what if those aren't permanent truths?

What if they're simply old patterns or stories that have been repeated enough to feel true?

Our subconscious is always listening.

It responds to the words, thoughts, and instructions we give it every day.

Which raises an interesting question...

What are we teaching it to believe?

And what would we rather be strengthening instead?

We don't have to criticize the old story.

We can simply recognize it...

and begin giving our subconscious a new direction.