The Naked Heart Coach

So, I see a lot of woman say, “I don’t chase, I attract”.
I’m not a huge believer in that these days, and I’m gonna show you why. Becasue I’m gonna make you question that idea in a second.

If the awakened woman is not chasing, or reaching, or looking, and we are “attracting”…. Are we not also attracting the lower vibrational men as well? Are we not attracting the creeps in our in box? Are we not creating our own reality and feelings of an unsafe world?

Or, are we judging them as creeps, misogynistic AH, etc?

You talk about us running to our cars, having to carry mace, basically living in fear etc. Yes, for some this is true (and they will attract more of that) and we would love men to acknowledge this is real. Some men are dangerous. This is fact. We like to hear men acknowledge that.
Men also like to hear how women can be dangerous too. That’s a fact.

{{ I just learned the term “stranger danger” can from the fact people realized they had to start warning kids of strange woman too after Myra Hindly helpped kidnap and kill children}}}

We awakened woman need to acknowledge the dangerous, hate filled, broken, messed up woman.
AND men need to acknowledge the same in men.

That said.

Are we not responsible at all for what we speak into the world? Into these spaces? Into our own energy??
If we are gonna talk law of attraction, manifestation, and the like, let’s talk about both sides of that.

We have to speak into this life, what we want, and what we need. If we keep shouting about what we DONT want, we will get more of it.
What we focus on increases. That includes always pointing out the wrong that men do. We can do that by speaking about what we DO want. We don’t need to keep giving energy to the parts we don’t like.

Also, woman ARE responsible and need to hold themselves accountable for what we have allowed in the past or currently. Every time we have allowed or tolerated behavior we do not like, we are telling people how to treat us.
We can “blame” the women that are not awake divine woman, but we were all that woman before, and we need to own that.

People feel defensive for many reasons. Most times that is on them. However, I’m a firm believer in that we can say anything, it is all on how we say it.
Some people will also be on the defense because they haven’t healed that within. And sometimes we do not communicate in a way that opens the door for understanding. This goes both ways. It’s a two way street.

We SHOULD be able to talk about the unhealthy behavior of some men while the “good ones” stand up to their brother’s poor behavior.
AND
We SHOULD be able to talk about the unhealthy behavior of some women while the “good ones” stand up to their sister’s poor behavior.

We can recognize what all humans can go through and how we are all are capable of treating the other like s**t while also holding space for each other when we talk about the treatment we’ve experienced.

Holding space and acknowledging what some have gone through, is not us personally owning that behavior ourselves. It’s only acknowledging what that person experienced. We can validate another’s experience and feelings while also knowing there are three sides to every story. We can validate another’s experience and choose not to feel defensive personally or even for a whole gender. We can validate that our sisters and brothers are, have been and can be terrible human beings who have done great harm.
This is not a war or a composition on which side has done the most harm.

We can also stop trying to change anyone with posts or videos and just let the ones who don’t align, fall away.
It’s all starts with us. We don’t have to even tell another what our standards or boundaries are. We don’t need them to be anything but who they are. From there, WE choose if we along with them or not.

There is still a little bit of all of us wanting to change and to help people grow so that we have more people we align with. But that’s not how it works.

WE MUST BE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO SEE. And nothing more. ☮️ 🤍💗

Andrea M Savelo
naked heart coach

Create a life that nothing can destroy. Being happy today, means we will be happy if an end ever comes.
Our peace, joy, zest for life cannot depend on another. Or else we give them the power to break us

How many of you want your life partner to be your best friend…or for those with a partner, are they your BF?

If you are dating or in a relationship… are you with someone you would describe as your favorite person?

Would you date or be in a relationship or marry someone like yourself?

Love doesn’t lie
Love doesn’t cheat
Love doesn’t try and make you jealous
Love doesn’t have expectations
Love doesn’t talk in possibilities
Love doesn’t have a mean streak
Love is not revengeful
Love doesn’t try to push your friends away
Love doesn’t talk trash about you to others
Love doesn’t try to win
Love doesn’t need to convince
Love doesn’t sleep with another while claiming to love you
Love doesn’t buy you
Love doesn’t push you to change
Love doesn’t demand
Love doesn’t give ultimatums
Love doesn’t call names
Love doesn’t run away
Love is not confusing
Love is not avoidant
Love is not anxious
Love is not just a feeling
Love is enough, but it’s not all we need💝