08/31/2026
Hey Coach Thoman!
Here's this week's Mindset Monday Concept from Jason:
Stop Protecting Your Ego
I read this post from Steve Magness and I thought it was great:
"We often give ourselves an out before we even start: "I didn't study much.", "I haven't started speed work.", "I didn't really care about it."
Underpreparation is a way to protect your ego. Our brain is protective. It wants to keep us safe. So giving yourself an out is a clever trick it plays. It allows you to numb some of the sting that potentially falling short brings. If you don't try, then you can always say, "If I would have tried, I would have won…"
But in trying to protect ourselves, we miss the chance to actually grow.
"I didn't study much…" → If I fail, it's because I didn't prepare, not because I'm not smart.
"I haven't started speed work yet…" → If I lose, it's not my fitness. It's my training schedule.
"I've barely been sleeping…" → Creates a buffer: I could've done better if I was well-rested.
"This isn't my main event…" → Distancing from identity, making the result "not count."
But performing is about taking a risk. In fact, it demands it. Putting forth real effort means risking real disappointment. It means confronting the possibility that even your best might not be good enough…yet.
Researchers have a name for this phenomenon: self-handicapping. It's when we deliberately create obstacles to success so they're an excuse if we fail. In the short-term it works. It limits the hit on our self-esteem. But over the long haul, it prevents us from both learning and developing resilience. We make avoidance our default way to cope with anything hard.
Self-handicapping is often framed as "not caring." But many of the people who self-sabotage actually care a ton, and put in the work. But they can't escape their ego and confronting themselves if they don't get the result. Ironically, the care (in the wrong direction) is what prevents them from showing up fully. It's what occurs when you tie your self-worth to the result.
True toughness is the willingness to show up fully. To prepare as best you can and leave it all out there, even if it doesn't meet your expectations. Real confidence is about being secure enough to risk losing. It's knowing you can put in the effort, give it your all and still be okay with the result.
Don't hide behind "not trying." Dare to show up fully."
Jason