Jump the Groove Coaching & Consulting

In honor of the work Wellspring Women's Center does everyday, and the upcoming Big Day of Giving here in Sacramento, I'm going to share a tool that you can use to create an atmosphere of trust, respect, and openness, this Friday in a free mini-seminar.
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What would it be like for you, if instead of thinking in terms of ‘work life balance’ you thought of your life as a dance.

🪩Your life is not a tightrope you have to creep across, with a linear start and end point, with a binary success (balance on the rope), or fail (fall and die). Your life does not require the same set of muscles to be tensed in all times, with vigilance or catastrophe.

🪩Your life is your experience on this earth, this unpredictable, ever changing physical reality. You don’t know what you’ll wake up with in the morning. We must use different muscles as we face different challenges. Our times of activity require times of rest, and it's not always 1:1. Our future is not guaranteed.

So, strive not for balance, instead, strive to move with intention in a dance. Sometimes you’re leaning into one place, and sometimes another, and it is OK. It is all your life.

As humans, change tends to make us uncomfortable. Change brings uncertainty. Our 🧠❤️ certainty, because certainty is 'safe' (been there, done that, got the T-shirt, love that non-dangerous T-shirt). 👕

So, how can you make change 1) less threatening, and 2) more successful?

You've got to attend to where you're pointing your brain.

If you don't, your pre-existing conclusions and beliefs are going to eat your change-lunch for breakfast.

🚀 Unlocking Potential with Ontological Coaching: Key Benefits 🚀

Ontological coaching isn’t just about improving performance; it’s about transforming your whole approach to life and work. Here are some powerful benefits of this deep coaching method:

🧠Enhanced Self-Awareness: Discover the deep-rooted beliefs that shape your actions and outcomes.

🧠Improved Communication: Learn to express yourself more effectively and listen in a way that fosters genuine connections.

🧠Emotional Intelligence: Gain skills to better manage your emotions, enhancing decision-making and resilience.

🧠Behavioral Transformation: Make lasting changes that align with your deepest values and aspirations.

🧠Increased Effectiveness and Satisfaction: Achieve your goals with a newfound clarity and drive.

Whether you’re looking to step up in leadership, navigate personal challenges, or simply want to live a more fulfilled life, ontological coaching offers a profound toolkit for change.

Curious to learn more or try ontological coaching? Let’s connect and explore how this approach can elevate your personal and professional journey. 🌐✨

Excited to have received my order of LEGO (R) SERIOUS PLAY (R) Starter Kits! As a facilitator certified to design and facilitate workshops with the LEGO (R) SERIOUS PLAY (R) Method, I will use these with my clients so they can break habitual patterns of thinking (and create solutions for the new), and unlock the knowledge and potential of their whole teams.

Not all feedback is valuable. All feedback is data.

The 'value' of feedback depends on at least three things:
💥 Purpose - what is your intent in gathering feedback?
💥 Source - where is the feedback coming from?
💥 Quality - is the feedback clear? Actionable? Utterly opaque and useless?

For example:
💠 Purpose - If my goal is to grow my skillset as a coach, and I get a lot of feedback about what a great project manager I am, much of that is not relevant to me and my goals. Yes, it's nice to know (feels great!), it might heighten my awareness of how I might bring different skills to bear on my goal, but it's not focused on where my intention (and attention) is. That is not the fuel that is going to help propel me to the next level of where I want to do. Don't put diesel in your Formula 1 race car. 🚗

💠 Source - Be a discerning consumer of feedback. 🔎 The source of the feedback (and data) matters. Am I asking for feedback from someone who hasn't really worked with me? They don't have an adequate data sample to pull from! Further, qualitative feedback is "one person's experience of [you/the thing] at a given point in time." The experience someone has of YOU is inseparable from THEM. Another fallible human who has lived experiences, tough days, good days, hungry or tired days, and different values or ideas than you. People are telling you about 👏 themselves 👏 all the time.

💠 Quality - Did I request clear specifics, or did I invite someone's super fuzzy subjective judgement? Is how I requested/gathered the feedback skillful? Did I create an opportunity where people could share what I'm looking for without fear of reprisal? Were my prompts, questions, or engagements well crafted, and clear? Or did I 'lead the witness' or ask double-, triple-, quadruple-barreled questions that will make the responses a tangled mess of "whattheduck?" I can't act on "you did a great job." There is no growth opportunity there. Is the feedback-giver's definition of "great" even close to mine/appropriate to my goals? You must invite, and support, your feedback-givers to give you clear stories - the what/how/when/where/who - so you can more clearly discern where their 'interpretations' begin and the 'observable reality' ends.