Marina Yanay-Triner

Connecting with my anger has been one of the hardest, most liberating things…

I used to think I was totally good with feeling my anger. I was… but indoors and in secret - for no one to see.

For years, my anger was weaponized by people in my life who just couldn’t handle it. Who were triggered by it, but instead of dealing with that, they projected it on me - I became the problem, and the message was - stop being so angry.

I learned to totally disconnect and shutdown from my body while in conflict or any potentially conflicting situation, so that I could stay safe.

So I had to relearn all this: to connect to the anger, which was always there in my body, in the moment - when I was in an interaction. To speak from the anger, and still do it with kindness and respect.

From suppression to expression! Living your truth in a liberated way is so revolutionary.

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment ANGER501 to grab it.

To the people pleaser in you… the one who is so used to being the peacemaker in conflict and has kept you safe in your childhood chaotic family dynamic.

The “poker face” that has kept you safe in this lifetime had an important place in your survival, and maybe it is now slowly time to let it go.

For people pleasers, one of the most healing things is to connect with your anger in real time, and to speak from it, rather than suppressing more and more.

This suppression is so deadly, it eats you alive from the inside out.

How can you learn to connect with your anger?

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment ANGER501 to grab it.

The road from pretending to vulnerability has involved A LOT, and it has been f**ing worth it!

The level of connection, depth, intimacy - incredible!

I remember the moment I realized no one actually knows when I’m sad. The level of energy I put into hiding my emotions, and how much this drains me.

Many of us who have been taught to avoid expressing or feeling our emotions continue this way - it seems normal, it seems safe, it seems like how it should be. But we pay a price for it.

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment “ANGER501” to grab it!

Last year, I felt the deepest helplessness, and I was able to actually sit with it for the first time.

Helplessness is one of the toughest states to sit with because it brings us back to the moments in our childhoods when we were so vulnerable, alone, and terrified.

I teach my clients to teach with helplessness from an observing place - meaning, not to drown in it, but as if they are the adult holding the child they were in the experience.

After I sat with my helplessness for a while, there was a big shift: that little child could feel being held by the adult me.

And then, the anger came, anger that hasn’t been fully felt for so long. Anger without excuses or explanation.

Some of it was delayed anger (you know how we stew in it for years, and then get really bitter?) and some of it was my anger in the moment, a felt sense in my body.

It brought me into action, change. It made me feel so very capable, powerful - the opposite of helpless!

What is your relationship with anger, and with helplessness?

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment ANGER501 to grab it.

Have you ever noticed your body being actually numb when you interact with others, especially in situations that are distressing to you? This is a trauma response - you feel unsafe and threatened, and numbness is a safety mechanism.

There is a way to learn to stop suppressing, and it must happen in safe spaces, with support. When you learn to FEEL your body while interacting with others - this is one of the most important first steps to healing people pleasing as a trauma response.

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment ANGER501 to grab it.

Anger is liberation. Anger is healing. Anger is the way out of a lifetime of functional freeze, where you play “the good one” but burn up inside.

From smallness to bigness, anger paves the way for your body to finally be felt, for your truth to be spoken, for you to reclaim yourself from the depths of trauma.

Feeling your anger in your daily life is so important because it has messages for you - about needs, desires and boundaries.

Feeling how that anger connects to your childhood trauma is huge because it allows you to stop feeling like the victim, the perpetrator, or like it’s your fault.

Anger liberates you from playing roles and allows you to play YOU in your life story.

I created an awesome FREE new resource for you: “Repression to Expression: A Free Guide to Working with Your Anger”. It’s a 25 minute teaching and guided somatic practice you can return to again and again as you heal your relationship with anger. Get it now and follow along - comment ANGER501 to grab it.