Thoughtfullykat

When people reveal themselves, believe them.

AVOID repainting who they are to who you want them to be.

AVOID talking yourself out of red flags and nonnegotiables.

RUN into the arms of those you feel safe and can be completely yourself with.

You deserve a love that respects + treasures you for who you fully are.

"Is he going to text?" 😳
"Wonder when I'll hear from him..." 🤔
"Why hasn't he said anything yet?!" 😣
↑↑↑ Those ↑↑↑ used to be my mental cycles of anxiety waiting for men to respond back. It felt like pulling teeth... just... to... have... some engagement.

Ugh, have you ever found yourself constantly trying to decipher someone's intentions?
"Does he like me?" 😐
"So…where is this going?" 😕

Real, genuine connection goes beyond the unsaid. It’s built upon consistent efforts, clear intentions, and genuine commitment. The right person will not only tell you but show you in numerous ways how much they value you + your connection.

No guesswork.
No mixed signals.

If you're always left wondering, it might be time to reflect on what you truly deserve.

Don't let unacceptable behavior be "ok". Speak up to clarify your needs + wants, and give them a chance to rectify it. But if they don't, then that's clear feedback for you, too.

Remember, true love speaks through actions + words, not just the silence in between. Value yourself and the one who shows up wholeheartedly for you.

"Is he going to text?" 😳
"Wonder when I'll hear from him..." 🤔
"Why hasn't he said anything yet?!" 😣
↑↑↑ Those ↑↑↑ used to be my mental cycles of anxiety waiting for men to respond back. It felt like pulling teeth... just... to... have... some engagement.

Ugh, have you ever found yourself constantly trying to decipher someone's intentions?
"Does he like me?" 😐
"Where is this going?" 😕

Real, genuine connection goes beyond the unsaid. It’s built upon consistent efforts, clear intentions, and genuine commitment. The right person will not only tell you but show you in numerous ways how much they value you + your connection.

No guesswork.
No mixed signals.

If you're always left wondering, it might be time to reflect on what you truly deserve.

Don't let unacceptable behavior be "ok". Speak up to clarify your needs/wants, and give them a chance to rectify it. If they don't, then that's clear feedback for you.

Remember, true love speaks through actions + words, not just the silence in between. Value yourself, and in turn, value those who show up wholeheartedly for you and your relationship.

THE POLE IS GONE!! 💔
I woke up this morning to an undescript link from my boyfriend. Not knowing clicking on that link would reveal such sad news that this iconic Mission Peak metal pole has been vandalized and cut down. 🥺

The who and why are unknown besides demonstrating their disapproval and creating disappointment for those who were looking forward to seeing this iconic pole. I can still remember that moment of finally seeing THE iconic Mission Peak pole for the first time, in addition to celebrating our hiking efforts (with oh-so-much relief) and happily documenting our achievement with a few photos.

When we did it early this year, I was so concerned of doing this hike with my boyfriend since he’s so athletic and I’m… uhm… working-on-being-more-consistently-active. So now knowing that the pole is no longer there to greet + celebrate the hikers, especially for those like me who never thought I’d be able to summit this challenging hike, it is SUCH a bummer!! Hope the city of Fremont will resurrect this iconic monument for people to enjoy once again.

This is my reminder to you to do the things you’ve always said you’ve wanted to do or wish you could. You NEVER know what could happen in the next moment. It’s uncertain what circumstances could change that leads you to losing out on an opportunity.

Don’t wait for the perfect moment.

Don’t let your excuses hold you back.

Courageously go for it, and create those precious memories.

Relationship patterns can be broken and changed into something better. Just because it has happened in your past, it doesn't mean it needs to stay in your future.

Take the time to reflect on the commonalities you keep experiencing in dating and in relationships, and CHOOSE to do something different about them.

👉🏼 SHARE this message with someone who needs to hear this today.

Psst, come a little closer. I have this guided journal that can help you with just that! It's called "Love Vision Clarity".

It'll help you discover + create a clear vision and detailed blueprint of your ideal partner and dream relationship.

AND... I also have something that'll help you get started, too. I host Vision Inking Sessions, which are supportive coworking opportunities to work on your love vision, live with me. Feel free to bring any questions you have on the love vision process, dating, and relationships as I'll be doing a Q&A at the end, too.

For more info + to sign up, go to: https://thoughtfullykat.com/ vision-inking (the link in bio as well). See you there!

Psst, come a little closer. I have this guided journal that can help you with just that! It’s called “Love Vision Clarity”.

It’ll help you discover + create a clear vision and detailed blueprint of your ideal partner and dream relationship.

AND… I also have something that’ll help you get started, too. I host Vision Inking Sessions, which are supportive coworking opportunities to work on your love vision, live with me. Feel free to bring any questions you have on the love vision process, dating, and relationships as I’ll be doing a Q&A at the end, too.

For more info + to sign up, go to: https://thoughtfullykat.com/vision-inking (the link in bio as well). See you there!

When anticipating having a hard conversation, our mind can go to the worst case scenario and go “what if things end over this?”

It’s a possibility, but…
Maybe it won’t.

What if you two became closer after having this conversation? What if the relationship improves? What if the conversation went so well that nothing remotely close to your irrational fears even happened?

No matter what happens, isn’t it better to have known what each other truly think and feel about the situation sooner than later? Avoiding the answer doesn’t resolve anything. It just drags it out the inevitable.

Stop treading on eggshells and address the elephants in the room!

When anticipating having a hard conversation, our mind can go to the worst case scenario and go “what if things end over this?”

It’s a possibility, but…
Maybe it won’t.

What if you two became closer after having this conversation? What if the relationship improves? What if the conversation went so well that nothing remotely close to your irrational fears even happened?

No matter what happens, isn’t it better to have known what each other truly think and feel about the situation sooner than later? Avoiding the answer doesn’t resolve anything. It just drags it out the inevitable.

Stop treading on eggshells and address those elephants in the room.

Join me in my upcoming Vision Inking Session to help you create an extraordinary love. Together, we'll transform your love dreams into a vibrant vision and craft a personalized roadmap just for you.

Ever felt lost or frustrated in the world of dating?

Want to manifest love with excitement, clarity, and intention instead?

Take a chance on approaching dating in another way, especially if what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working for you.

The next session is just around the corner, so grab your Love Vision Clarity guided journal and click the link in bio to sign up. Love can be more than just a hope for you. Let’s make it your reality.

Have the hard conversations.

Advocate for your own needs.

It’s only uncomfortable when you get too much in your head about it.

Fight through that discomfort and express what needs to be said for the greater good of your relationship.

Ever felt lost or underwhelmed in the pursuit for meaningful love? You're not alone, and it's still possible for you to find love!

Unsurprisingly, your feelings are fairly common in the modern dating scene, but that doesn’t have to define your love journey. Join me to explore your true needs + wants in a relationship and transform that confusion into clarity. Let's discover together what makes your heart thrive and set you on the way to make it happen.

Tap the link in my bio for an opportunity to a different approach to dating and how I can support you on this journey.