4x4 Recall: Dating & Relationships

What do you want?

I want to be free.

I want to take on challenges that are worth doing and solve interesting business problems.

I want to generate wealth for me and my family so we can maximize our experiences in life. Best education. Best trips. Best service. Best position to give back to the world around us.

I want to rub shoulders with, and be respected in groups of businessmen doing high level business.

I want to build and create lasting ventures.

I want to give back to, and help the lives of other men around me.

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If you’re struggling with women, you’re not alone.

I used to think I wasn’t good enough to be with the girls I wanted. I thought I didn’t have what the other guys had. I thought women didn’t understand why I was a better match.

Then I got so good at dating that I wondered what the whole point of it was anyway.

Life was too easy. Career success was too easy. It felt like playing a game on cheat mode, and it lost its meaning.

Life is funny.

It’s rarely the start or the ending that matters. It’s everything you build in the joeurney between the two.

It’s the meaning you create, and the value you generate that makes anything worth something.

I’m family dinners and porch ci**rs now.

It used to be foreign travel and new hotels every week.

I don’t regret any chapter of my life, but it does occur to me that some of them never come into fruition without the others.

If you want the woman of your dreams, the family of your dreams, the lifestyle of your dreams (whether that’s porch or strip clubs), it takes intention and reps.

You have to know where you want to go, and then do the motions that will get you there, and not quit.

The biggest mistake I see guys make is that they settle for the first girl that pays them attention.

They get these new skills, this new understanding, and then a month later, they’re “in a relationship” on FB.

It hurts my face. Don’t stop. Don’t settle. Have everything you want in life.

If you want to get high quality women in your life, you have to be willing to put in the reps.

You have to be willing to polarize.

You can’t just wait for the first girl in 17 months that’s shown you attention. Go out and get. Go approach.

See girls that you like, be honest about your attraction to them, say what’s authentically on your mind, and then ask them out.

Rinse, repeat…

The girls you date 3 months from now will be hotter than the girls you’re dating now. That’s just how life works.

Don’t stop until you’ve reached apathy.

Then we have other things to talk about. 😉

How fast would your life change if you didn’t wonder about how to setup a date, or what you’re supposed to say next, or if she even liked you?

Dating is supposed to be fun and easy. It’s supposed to be you screening women to find the ones that fit into your life and match your expectations.

Dates are filled with laughs, and touching, and escalating in every creative spot you guys can think of. It’s literally the stuff your girl writes home to mom about!

If you’re a single guy over 30, and you want help filling your calendar with more women, shoot me a message here and let’s talk! 👊

Someone asked me all the things I’d tell myself about women 10 years ago. I opened a notepad and banged out 14 points. That was it. I wish someone would have told me them when I was 16! 👀

Your job is to generate options for yourself, not your woman. A guy needs to make his mind up about what it is he wants to do. Pick a direction and lead people there.

A woman wants a guy that will be more of a man than she is. Be about something. Find the principles that matter most to you, operate from that framework, and invite the women you like to come along with you.

No one is going to give it to you. Be clear on where you want to go, and take steps in that direction everyday, unapologetically.