Cali Coach Nikki

You are Me and I am You.


Once you begin to understand that others are a reflection of you, your life will change.


What bothers you, annoys you, triggers you, guilts you, shrinks you, and challenges you in your relationships with others?


These are all mirrors you see. Of places within you that are calling for you to be aware of. They are seeking attention, strength, acceptance, expansion, light, growth, evolution and change. 💕


What is the hardest challenge for you in your relationship?


I used to be SUPER JEALOUS, still feel it at times of course yet once I got real about WHY, my perception changed.


I wasn't just jealous because of others I was jealous because I FELT unworthy, insecure, and I didn't want to admit that I wasn't a hetrose×ual woman.


Now that I have ACCEPTED all these pieces of myself my relationship with my partner shifted. Am I a perfect non-jealous angel?? Hell No, but I am more aware of my jealous behaviors and where they stem from so I AM in control, not my emotion mind or ego. 🧠


What have you struggled with in partnerships? Getting it out into the light is the first step.


Let's heal as One.


Keep loving kindly, Nicole

Arousal isn't always a se☆ual thing. You can get aroused by the trees, the sky, a flower, how someone waves, the color of someone's hair. Water, peace, The Universe.
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That s**t don't always gotta be se☆ual and totally can be.🔥
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It's time for us to normalize arousal and understand that is a normal physiological response to various kinds of stimuli. 🌡
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Also, arousal during physical interaction doesn't always mean CONSENT.
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It's important for each of us to be clear and communicate openly when we desire se☆ual attention. 💕
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Simply ask if someone wants to do A, B or C with you.
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Become aware of a partner's body language and response to you. What means let's keep going, STOP, more of that, or less. 👫👬👭
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When we offer autonomous respect to others it can make it better for everyone.
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By the way flowers turn me on...and NO! It doesn't have anything to do with wanting to have se☆. Thx ✌
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Keep Acting Wisely, Nicole 🙏

Latest Advice...listen to the Universe.
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Image by the INCREDIBLE 😍😍

I post this as I prepare to go for a RUN on the BEACH! 🌊☀️
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And this act of Self-Love reminds me of these words that I just recently felt the desire to share with you all.
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You See....
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You KNOW what needs to be done. The deepest parts of your truest and wisest self KNOWS. 🕯
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You have to be the one to CREATE CHANGE. It HAS to be YOU.
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The one killer of the DIVINE SPARK within You is unintentional and stagnant living. ⚰
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Decide. Choose. Succeed. Every moment in your life is the chance and opportunity to move forward into a new part of your journey.
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It's not easy, not for any of us. And there may come a time when you feel like there are obstacles or challenges that are immovable. ⛰
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So much so that you can not see another way. However, remember it is also a CHOICE to decide if you will find another way to climb the mountain, or bow to it. 🌄
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You Choose how You want to SEE.
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Keep Choosing Wisely, Nicole 🙏




@ Torrance Beach

The ways in which we each perceive our reality is vastly expansive. 👁
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We all do not see in the same way.
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We all do not feel with the same understanding.
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Each of us is a unique life, experiencing existence from our own set of eyes.
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The beauty in this is also the interconnectedness that we have between us all. 💕
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What better way to exerperice every possible reality than to live it, through billions and billions of lifetimes.
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We are all part of THE ONE same thing and also autonomous in our human experience.
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You Choose how You want to SEE.
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Keep Choosing Wisely, Nicole 🙏

Arousal isn't always a se☆ual thing. You can get aroused by the trees, the sky, a flower, how someone waves, the color of someone's hair. Water, peace, The Universe.
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That s**t don't always gotta be se☆ual and totally can be.🔥

If you're struggling, if you're shifting, if you are changing, if you are evolving. Remember this.

Keep loving yourself kindly, Nicole 💛

Our style of loving has been shaped by so many things.
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The way in which you love your partner could be the way in which you saw love expressed.
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Growing up we view various ways to LOVE in our environment.
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We can be effected by our parents, family members, society, media and so much more.
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What can you do to be more aware of ineffective styles of loving?
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OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS, ACTIONS, AND BEHAVIORS around love.
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Start by observing instead of reacting to a situation. It's hard AF and also extremely enlightening.
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What patterns of behavior do you mirror from your childhood?
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Mine would be being a pleaser, doing for others without care of self. Like my loving mother. Who I can now see the effects of neglected self care in.
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What pattern do you still play out? 💕

I just want to say TANK YOU seriously to everyone who has supported me!!

I SEE YOU.

For so long I've been chasing dreams and goals that I felt would put me in the place I NEEDED to be. I always felt like accomplishing more would get me what I really wanted and truly needed, inner peace.

Over the last few years my life has changed TREMENDOUSLY and I can think of several souls who were an undeniable part of my shift.

Thank you. I love you for being in my life.

As we move on to a new decade I have to say I feel FU**IN FANTASTIC I'm ready. I've been growing and burning away the parts of myself that the woman RIGHT NOW NEEDS.

I WAS BORN FOR THIS.

See you all in 2020




#2019 #2020

Why do we look at the stars? 🌌
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Once I was staring up at the sky in Abq, NM and I was astonished at the beauty of the sky.
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I stood there with an old friend and mentioned to them that the feeling I got when I looked above, felt like home. 💕
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"That's where we came from and that is where we are going." I said. 👽
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I still believe this and feel this deep within my being. I can not explain it, it is simply...a knowing.
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And often times I truly miss the space.
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May you all find peace in a place you can call home, Nicole. 💛

Habits can change your life.
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They can be the force that keeps you in the same space.
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Or they can drive you to the next level of your life.
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Developing healthy, effective habits within your life is essential to your overall well-being.
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This habits have helped me CHANGE MY LIFE. Over the last year. 💕
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Which of these habits do you want to build mastery in?
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Which have helped you to shift your life?
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Comment/tag someone who needs to see this before 2020!!




#2020