08/27/2026
We usually assume gentle parenting isn’t working because our kid’s behavior isn’t changing fast enough
But if you feel constantly exhausted and stuck, it’s often because you’re still relying on the reactive scripts you heard growing up
You can’t shift their behavior until you update your own reaction and response
Try swapping your default reactions for these regulating scripts:
📍 Instead of lecturing and blaming in the moment, try:
“It makes sense you made a mistake. Let’s figure out what we can do about it together.”
📍 Instead of saying “Stop crying” or “Because I said so”, try:
“I see you’re very upset. It would we so much fun to continue playing/watching TV/getting that toy. I’m here with you. You can be upset.”
📍 Instead of comparisons, like “See! Jimmy listened on the first try”, try:
“Last time you had a hard time listening to me, let’s see if this time I can help you and it’ll be different.”
📍 Instead of threats, “I’m leaving you here since you’re not listening/throwing a fit”, try:
“I need you to stay close to me so we stay safe. If you can’t do that right now, I will have to help you to go and we can try this again another time.”
These keep your boundaries clear, feel respectful and introduce problem solving
These responses always stay away from shame, blame and fear of abandonment
Which of these scripts would be easiest to try today?
