10/12/2026
Tang Soo !!! I met with a former student over the weekend and had the best time. We talked about "adulting", work, shooting, other students, parents, family, kids (basically life stuff)...it was a great several hours.
We talked about one aspect of her training that I'd like to mention now. She trained in the same school with a really strong competitor. That competitor has gone on to win numerous Grand Champion trophies...locally, nationally and internationally. The student I visited with really really wanted to beat her just once.
She trained hard...thought about quitting...got frustrated...but always walked onto the mat a better martial artist. For the record, she did beat the other student for Grand Champion Forms once...but never in fighting. She came within a single point several times...but never crossed the finish line.
In today's world of instant gratification (if my kid doesn't start on the team we're switching teams, split up the divisions so everyone gets a medal, just look at the NCAA transfer portal...) young people are missing very important life lessons.
This young woman works in a very demanding job, she has a ton of responsibility, she works in a very dynamic environment that's constantly changing (btw...she has a World Series ring as well) and she is literally defining the "process" her company uses as they expand and grow. She's recently married a great guy and they are figuring all that out (sorry....it's not always perfect and there will always be outside challenges). This young woman has a tool bag full of life skills.
I told my student...you are who you are because you never beat Holly in sparring. You kept improving...kept getting better...and now your defining success on your own terms.
I love the quote...."A competitor either wins or learns"...LLPS did a lot of winning and learning....I couldn't be prouder of Kyo Sa Nim Paige Baker.
She may not always "win" but I promise you she will learn and improve. As an instructor I couldn't ever ask for more (I bet her employer feels exactly the same way).
Paige doesn't wear her Black Belt to work....but she carries that experience with her every single day. She IS a Black Belt / Kyo Sa Nim and everything that implies.
It's ironic in a way...I never won a Grand Champion Trophy (no way I ever could...I trained and competed with some of the finest Master Instructors in the world...I would never beat SBN C. Defour, SBN M. Murtaugh, SBN J. Fitzgerald, SBN J. Goss Jr, SBN M. Gregor. Yet...I was truly honored to just be in the ring with them and they all made me a better martial artist.
Interesting...my students have won more Grand Champion trophies than I could ever count. Those trophies are so much more important to me.....