09/20/2026
😉God Winks & Plot Twists: Matt’s Journey Through the Valley✝️
We have walked through the valley.
And then some.
Blood clots. Blood transfusions. Malnutrition. Weight loss. Surgery. Pain. Complications. Conversations no family ever wants to have—including conversations about the end of life.
But here’s the thing:
Not happening.
We are not at the end of our story. We are in the middle of it.
And through all of this, we have learned something about God winks.
They happen all the time.
But sometimes life is so loud that we don't hear them.
Sometimes we have to slow down. We have to make time to be still, reflect, and talk to God. Because without that quiet time alone with Him, the noise of everyday life can drown out the conversation.
When you make time for God—to ask for what you need, to pray, to listen—and then step back and look around, you begin to see all the tiny winks He is giving you along the way.
Little reminders that He is listening.
Little connections that seem too perfect to be coincidence.
Little answers to prayers that might have been easy to miss if we weren't paying attention.
And when you begin to recognize those things, something changes.
Gratitude begins to fill your heart.
And we believe that when you have gratitude in your heart, the true journey of healing begins.
We recently had one of those God winks.
While in the ER with a blood clot in Matt's lung, a specialist came in to take a look at his ostomy and make sure everything was okay.
Our surgeon has been with UVA, and with everything Matt has been through, traveling back and forth for postoperative appointments has become increasingly difficult. So moving forward, we are looking at working with a local surgeon here who can help us through this next chapter.
And wouldn't you know it...
The specialist they sent in to check Matt's ostomy had been trained by Matt's cousin, “Little Al” — the very best there ever was in Roanoke.
And just before this happened, we had been on the phone with Little Al.
He has been helping us navigate decisions all along this journey.
We were literally talking to him, asking for guidance, trying to figure out our next steps...
And then, somehow, the dots connected.
Right there in the ER.
A person Little Al had trained.
A person who could help Matt.
At exactly the moment we needed her.
That's a God wink.
Not because everything suddenly became easy.
Not because the road disappeared.
But because in the middle of the chaos, God reminded us:
“I've got you.”
Those are the moments we are learning to stop and recognize.
To be grateful for.
To hold onto.
Because the winks are happening every day.
We just have to slow down enough to see them.
And right now, while we work to get Matt stronger, we are incredibly blessed to have a terrific holistic team surrounding us.
A huge thank you to Pamela Burnham for connecting us with some of the best people we could have ever hoped to find—and for coming over EVERY SINGLE DAY, even late at night, to make sure Matt has everything he needs.
That kind of love is something we will never forget.
Our journey forward is one of hope, faith, natural medicines, love, prayer, God and mindset.
Mind. Body. Spirit.
All hands on deck.
The recent scans have given us some important information. The cancer has not spread outside of the areas we already knew about, although the liver lesions have grown some while we have been navigating everything else and working to rebuild Matt's strength.
So we keep moving forward.
We keep praying.
We keep nourishing his body.
We keep strengthening his mind.
We keep surrounding him with love.
And we keep looking for the winks.
Because we believe God is still writing this story.
And we are still writing it with Him.
This is not the end.
This is another chapter.
And someday, when we are standing on the other side of this valley, we will look back and see all the moments we couldn't see clearly while we were in the middle of it.
All the people.
All the prayers.
All the connections.
All the tiny winks.
All the moments God quietly whispered:
“I've got your back.”
And maybe that's the greatest lesson of this journey so far:
Slow down.
Be still.
Talk to God.
Listen.
Look around.
And be grateful.
Because sometimes the miracle isn't that the mountain disappears.
Sometimes the miracle is realizing you were never climbing it alone.