Whole Story Health Coaching

Why are people writing diets, and discussing nutrition like muscle tissue is the only thing in our bodies? You have other tissues and cells people. Take care of them all.
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Muscle cells are largely a stress on the rest of the body for the most part. They demand a lot of nutrients, create a lot of metabolic waste, and can challenge our hormone system and blood sugar regulation if we don't stay healthy.
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In the grand scheme of things, muscles provide very little to our health other than movement. I'm not saying don't take care of your muscles, at least not until we get to the WALL-E space ship and live in the floaty chairs. But let's not forget all the stuff that supports them, feeds them, cleans up after them, etc.
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You can't move when you are dead.

It took me a long time to realize that my codependency didn't just harm me ⁠— it hurt my loved ones, too. Learning this, and understanding that my healing would be a net positive for ALL involved, helped me affirm my commitment to recovery.⠀ ⠀ In past relationships, my codependency took center stage. Without a firm sense of identity, we come to rely on those around us for EVERYTHING⁠—our purpose, our happiness, our emotional regulation, our sense of being "okay." This is too great a burden for any person to bear. And of course, it left me feeling hollowed out, scared, and uncertain on a daily basis.⠀⠀ ⠀ When we first start breaking patterns of staying silent and people-pleasing, it can be easy to worry ⁠— how will they react? Will it be “too much”? Will they still like me when I change? But when we come to terms with the way our codependency harms our partners ⁠— and that our recovery benefits them, too ⁠— we can use this perspective to enhance our own commitment to healing.⠀ ⠀ In recovery, we learn to soothe ourselves. We learn that we can be responsible for our own happiness ⁠— and that is a very liberating and empowering thing! We can receive others' kindnesses, reassurances, and love without being 100% dependent on them. ⠀⠀⠀ ⠀ In recovery, everyone wins 🤘🏼⠀⠀ ⠀ #healthycommunication #relationshiptips #mentalhealth #codependency #boundaries #selfadvocacy #nonviolentcommunication #independence #interdependence #integrity #radicalhonesty #radicalacceptance #dbt #cbt #mentalhealthmeme #codependencyrecovery #emotionalregulation #selfsoothing #meditation

As someone who doesn’t always embrace change and deals with anxiety, being mentally uncomfortable is often also physically uncomfortable for me.

But, as my comfort zones became prisons, and I was doing much more harm by staying the same— I had to make a choice…

Discomfort or destruction.

Every day has to be lived with intention and practicing becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.

That was hard for me to admit and wrap my mind around.

I wanted to think of myself as this wonderful, nice person that was always willing to be there for someone else.

SO….

Finally recognizing that my people pleasing had a lot more to do with me than them was eye-opening.

I wasn’t being everything to everybody to be nice.

Underneath it all, I was trying to keep my needs met and my fears under control.

👉Rejection👈
👉Abandonment👈
👉Approval👈

I was being driven by much more than the opportunity to be helpful.

Understanding myself at that level helped me to stop (subconsciously) manipulating people for my own purposes.

From there, I was able to meet and get to know my authentic self.

It also cut the cord between me and those who were benefiting from my unhealthy boundaries and dysfunctional way of interacting.

We can spend a lifetime trying to figure out WHY:
👉Something has happened
👉Somebody did something to us
👉Things are the way they are
👉We make the choices we make
👉Etc…

But the truth is… We’re not always going to find a true, legitimate answer. Instead of spending our time overthinking and spiraling, sometimes we just need to accept what it is —and make a decision to intentionally make better choices when given the opportunity.

It’s incredibly easy to suggest how someone else should live their life.

We often here or even say things like:

* All you have to do is…
* You should just…
* If it were me, I would…

But I mean… would you though?

We have to be careful when we’re judging someone else’s situation based on OUR own personal background, mindset, abilities, values, strengths, and boundaries…

No matter how well we know them, we aren’t them.

We don’t live in their body. We won’t have to deal with the fallout from their choices.

Is this to say that we should condone what they’re doing?

No. But…

We should be supportive.
We should hold space.
We should offer compassion and prayer.

One thing’s for sure…the judgment, minimization, sometimes condescension, and invalidation need to stop…

Healthy doesn’t mean boring... One thing I love about healthy cooking is it engages my creativity… because I truly love food, I try to think outside the box and create things that are exciting to make and eat... for me, it becomes about mindset, mindfulness, and meaning.