The Consciousness Path

This photo was taken exactly one year ago today - 28 February 2025 - the last day I spent physically beside my Dad while he was still in this human form.

In the years leading up to that moment, there were many forces that attempted to separate us while he journeyed through Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Yet love has a strength that transcends circumstance. No matter the distance created around us, the bond between a father and daughter anchored in truth, love and connection cannot be undone. And in what I can only describe as divine grace, life gifted us one final day - a sacred pocket of time, a beautiful conversation, and a moment forever captured on video. A miracle wrapped in tenderness.

Dad, I honour you today and every day.

I celebrate your liberation from the limitations of the body, even as I acknowledge the helplessness I once felt watching you endure what I could not change. You are free now. And in that freedom, I find peace 🙏

I am profoundly blessed to call you my Father in this lifetime.
Thank you for your presence.
Thank you for your light.
Thank you for your protection, your wisdom, and your steady guidance.

You taught me - not through words alone, but through who you were - that the greatest service we can offer another is to show up consistently, to stand rooted in respect, kindness, and truth, even when doing so invites discomfort or sacrifice. You embodied integrity. You chose love. And that shaped me in ways I continue to discover.

Sometimes all a child needs is one person who believes in them - one steady anchor - to find the strength to keep going. You were that person for me. And you still are.

Our connection is not confined to time or form.

I love you, Dad 🥰
Always.
Sending you love beyond measure 💕💕💕

My First Father’s Day Without You

Today marks my first Father’s Day without my Dad. And while my heart holds a thousand emotions, the words that rise above them all are simply: Gratitude

Grateful for his unwavering love.
Greatful for his light that continues to shine in my life.
Greatful for his gentle guidance and quiet strength.
Greatful for his steady presence
Greatful for always being there, without ever needing to be asked.
Greatful for remembering my name despite Alzheimer’s & Dementia, even in our final moments together - it meant more than words can express
Grateful for his humour that lifted even the heaviest days.
Grateful for the way he lived, with grace, dignity, and kindness
Grateful for every moment together with him

I am so deeply honoured to call him my Dad.
And while he is no longer physically here, I carry him with me: in every day, in my heart, in my choices, and in my soul.

Happy Father’s Day in heaven Dad 🙏
Love you forever 💫💕

What is love?

On this day dedicated to love, I am reminded that true love is not found in gifts, chocolates, or fleeting gestures - it begins within. Self-love is the foundation of life, a sacred relationship with the deepest truth of who we are. Beneath the distractions of the external world, we are divine beings of light, expressions of the purest love itself.

I honor my Dad who has patiently held space for me as I discovered this truth for myself, and my daughter, who has been my greatest teacher of this wisdom.

I’m sharing a photo that captures a precious moment with him - a moment I will cherish forever. It was April 2023, and I had just read him a letter expressing my gratitude for all he has done for me, all he has given me, and all he has empowered me to become. Though Alzheimer’s and Dementia have since taken their toll, in that moment, as tears filled our eyes, I felt a deep knowing that he understood every word. And that knowing gave me peace.

So today, I invite you to release the ego and let the ones you love truly know how you feel about them. Don’t wait. Love, expressed from the heart, is the greatest gift we can give - on Valentine’s Day, and every day.

What is love?

On this day dedicated to love, I am reminded that true love is not found in gifts, chocolates, or fleeting gestures—it begins within. Self-love is the foundation of life, a sacred relationship with the deepest truth of who we are. Beneath the distractions of the external world, we are divine beings of light, expressions of the purest love itself.

I honor my Dad who has patiently held space for me as I discovered this truth for myself, and my daughter, who has been my greatest teacher of this wisdom. Through them, I have come to see that love is not something we seek—it is what we remember, embrace, and become.

May this day serve as a reminder that the love we long for already exists within us, waiting to be nurtured, lived, and shared.

What do you think happens when one’s childhood experience involved:
Receiving only conditional love? 💔
Feeling powerless as they witnessed or experienced abuse 😞
Bullying? 😡
Criticism for expressing true feelings or for being themselves? 🥺
Being raised under fear and dominance? 😨
The loss of a loved one without feeling safe to grieve? 💔
Taking on adult responsibilities as a child? 👶➡️👩‍💼
Living in scarcity?
Constantly being in survival mode? 🥵

It’s crucial to recognize that as children, we lacked the emotional maturity to process such painful experiences in a healthy way. In many cases, we developed dysfunctional ways of coping.

We either:
-Suppressed our emotions, storing unhealed emotional wounds.
-Disconnected from our true selves because it was not accepted, leading to a deep misalignment with who we really are. 🌪️
-Engaged in self-harming or addictive behavior patterns. 🚬
-Learned to live in a constant state of survival mode, adding stress to our nervous systems and creating illness. ⚠️

The foundation that supports who we are as adults is deeply rooted in our childhood experiences. This is why we may face challenges navigating life, career, and relationships. To thrive in adulthood, we need to heal our inner child. 🌈 When we heal, we return to balance and a natural state of flow. We shift from survival mode to liberation. ✨

While we may have felt powerless to change our environment as children, as adults, we have the power to heal ourselves now. It’s vital that we take responsibility for our healing to break the cycle of pain and suffering. 🌻

We are all connected. The impact of our traumas does not stop with us; it affects those around us, particularly those we love. ❤️

Title: “God Loves Me”
Inspired by Dr. Maya Angelou

I listened to an interview Oprah conducted with Dr. Maya Angelou, where she shared a profound moment of understanding: “God loves me.” This sentiment resonated deeply with me.

Having endured domestic violence in a past relationship, I faced criticism and rejection for choosing to leave that environment to protect myself and my daughter. During that turbulent time, I found myself turning against God.

I was hurt, confused, and angry. I thought I had done everything right to be the “good girl,” yet maintaining that title came at the cost of my own well-being. I reached my threshold for pain and could no longer endure.

As a child, I witnessed a woman being physically abused by her alcoholic husband. Silenced by threats from a member of her family, her role as a wife was prioritized over her safety and emotional well-being. Though her husband eventually passed away, the trauma of his abuse had left lasting scars on her nervous system and diminished her quality of life.

I believed in a humanity that cared for one another, but I began to see that my beliefs were an illusion. As I grappled with the disconnect between our shared humanity and the ego-driven actions of individuals, I realized that my understanding of the world was shattering.

When I found the courage to speak out about my experiences - believing I was advocating for women’s empowerment and child protection - I quickly discovered how many felt threatened by a woman breaking her silence. Both men and women who thrived in control and creating fear, sought to silence me.

This was my “dark night of the soul,” a journey that lasted over four years.

Even after I exited the relationship, he assaulted me in a public space, in the presence of my daughter. Despite my efforts to protect myself, he falsely denied the assault under oath while acknowledging that should such an incident have taken place, it would be classified as a crime.

This experience deepened my understanding of the layers of the ego, and how it responds, when it feels threatened.

I realised that I was not a “bad” person simply because I did not fit the “good girl” script imposed by those disconnected from their own divinity. I began to cultivate compassion for myself, rewiring my belief system. This was no easy task, but my commitment to being the best Mother I can be, fueled my perseverance.

Although I rejected God during my struggles, looking back, I can see the divine hand guiding me through every experience. God did not abandon me. “God loves me.”

I recognize God's presence in:
• The individuals who treated me with love, respect, and kindness.
• The opportunities to travel and broaden my perspective.
• The education that empowered me to master new skills.
• The indescribable healing powers children carry.

While my experiences were challenging, they were essential for my awakening. They taught me how to serve with greater wisdom and from a place of love and compassion, without judgement.

In all that I do, I commit to showing up with pure intentions and in the highest vibration of love, light, and service.

This is a loving Universe 💕

If you ever feel alone, remember that a divine presence is always with you. Simply ask for guidance.

God loves you!

I invite you to watch the clip of Maya Angelou discussing “God loves me” on YouTube.

Together in this journey, may we uplift and inspire one another,
Pragashnee Govender 💫

Abundant blessings to all. May this new year be filled with love, joy, peace and beautiful experiences 💕

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Kids aren’t your husband or life partner; they’ll have their own life and eventually their own partner. As parents, it’s easy to feel as though we are the center of their world, but that’s only true for a small window of time. Our role is to nurture them, guide them, and equip them to face the world, but never to hold them back from spreading their wings.

As they grow, we must remember that the foundation we lay for them is meant to give them strength, not chains. They will form their own dreams, passions, and relationships that will shape the course of their lives. And while we are there to support and love them unconditionally, they are not ours to possess or control. It's important to let them experience life on their terms, even if it means stepping back when we'd prefer to hold on tighter.

One of the hardest lessons in parenting is learning to let go. It’s an act of trust and faith — faith in the upbringing we’ve given them and trust in their ability to navigate their journey. Our children aren’t meant to fill the voids in our lives or compensate for unmet expectations we may have. They are unique souls on their own path, and our job is to walk alongside them for as long as they need us, not to walk in front of them or carry them.

We also must realize that, in a way, children reflect what we show them in our relationships. If we pour everything into them at the expense of nurturing our partnership with our spouse, they may grow up with a distorted view of what love and commitment look like. By maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with our life partner, we demonstrate the value of partnership and the balance between familial bonds and romantic ones.

The relationship we have with our children will evolve over time, shifting from one of dependency to one of mutual respect and admiration. They will move forward, forging their own paths, and one day, they may become the parents in the same role we are in now. The cycle continues, and it's essential to accept that this natural progression is part of life's beauty.

It's vital to prepare ourselves emotionally for that day when their primary attachment will no longer be us, but someone else. It doesn’t mean we lose them; it just means their circle of love expands, and we need to make space for others in their lives. Being able to celebrate their growth, their partnerships, and their future families is a testament to the love and trust we’ve nurtured over the years.

As parents, we may find ourselves adjusting to an emptier house or less frequent calls, but that doesn’t diminish our role in their lives. The bond between parent and child is timeless, and no amount of physical or emotional distance can break that. What we must aim for is a relationship built on mutual respect, where they feel empowered to come to us when they need guidance, not out of obligation or guilt, but out of love and trust.

In our role as life partners, it’s essential to maintain the connection with our spouse. When the children leave, we are left with the person we chose to build a life with, and that relationship deserves as much care and attention as any other. It's crucial not to lose sight of this bond during the busy years of parenting, for it's the love between partners that will carry us through all phases of life, even when the children are no longer in our care.

Parenthood is a journey of giving — we give our love, time, and effort to raise the next generation, but we must also take care of ourselves and our own relationship. As the kids grow and go, we need to remain grounded in our connection with our spouse, ensuring that this relationship stands strong as the central pillar of our family.

The greatest gift we can give our children is the example of a healthy, loving relationship between their parents. This allows them to form their own strong bonds in life, knowing that love, independence, and mutual respect can coexist.

Our kids aren’t our life partners, but through our example, they learn what it means to build meaningful, lasting relationships of their own.

- Abhikesh

I post this message to honour a teacher, Mrs M Padayachee from Erica Primary School. I was in her class from Grade 1 to 3 back in the 80’s. Her kindness and love extended towards me as a teacher, allowed me to thrive in the classroom.

Transitioning from this nurturing environment into Grade 4, I experienced severe corporal punishment by a different teacher. I immediately withdrew to protect myself to avoid further humiliating corporal punishment in the presence of my fellow classmates. That experience created a great degree of misalignment to my true self.

While it took me decades to truly heal from that experience and feel safe to be myself again, I cannot ignore how those positive experiences in Mrs Padayachee’s classroom, revealed my potential to excel under the right environmental conditions.

To all teachers that create a positive learning environment for their students, I honour you. A child that feels safe in his/her learning environment, will soar in life.

Thank you Mrs Padayachee for your kindness and humanity extended to me. Much love and abundant blessings to you 💕

Let’s schedule that coffee date in the new year 🤗