Real Life Hero Project

There's a reason you don't help a chick break out of its shell.
The struggle is how it builds the strength to survive.
Save it from that — and you condemn it.

I was saved from every struggle my parents could see.
And arrived at adulthood unprepared for the ones they couldn't.

The hero doesn't get carried to the threshold.
He fights his way there.
Break yourself free.

"When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways." — 1 Corinthians 13:11

At 28 my employer sent me to work from home.
He sent me to my room.

I realized I'd been living someone else's life for years without ever questioning it.
Safe choices. Default settings. A life I ended up in, not one I chose.
That was the day adulthood actually started.
When I made the descision to start living *my* life

When did you last actually choose yours?

For years I hid from life.
Not in obvious ways. I showed up. I paid my bills. I went through the motions.
But I was living through screens, games, anime and costumes.
I literally dressed as heroes — because being one felt too scary.
You can't hide when you're 6'4".
You can only disguise.
I wanted to be seen. But not really seen.
Attention and interest — without the risk of anyone actually knowing me.
If that's you — stick around. More of the story coming.

Everything I ever did was half-hearted. Everything.
A business degree I didn't want. A job I watched the clock at. A gym routine with no plan and no push.
For years I thought it was a motivation problem.
It wasn't.
It was a value problem.
I knew the man I was. And I couldn't stand him.
When you hate who you are — you don't commit to anything. Not fully.
Because why invest in someone you've already written yourself off?
If this hits — stick around. More of the story coming.

Many people spend their lives avoiding discomfort and wonder why they feel hollow

As a coach, I know that muscle only grows under tension, strain, resistance, and damage. These aren't setbacks, they're the mechanism of growth.
The same is true for you.
A baby chick struggling to break free from her shell isn't suffering needlessly, she's building every muscle she needs to survive. Help her out, and you may condemn her to death, or at least a life that cannot be sustained on her own.
The struggles you're avoiding are doing the same thing to you.
The plan is simple: stop running from hard things, start treating them as training.

The cost of a comfortable, unchallenged life isn't peace, it's regret about everything you could have become.
The person who embraces struggle? They don't just survive.
They build a fuller life. A larger capacity. A cup that doesn't run dry.

Romans 5:3-4 — "Suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope."

One thing I have noticed is my tendency to hold onto things that no longer serve me. Old hobbies that no longer bring me joy, old habits that make me feel regret, old patterns that drag me down.

Jesus speaks a good amount about the imagery of burning old things. Separating the wheat from the chaff, the wheat from the weeds and burning away that which is not good. He talks about trimming branches that do not produce fruit.

As someone who wants to discover the best version of himself, I am often looking to remove the things from my life that do not seem to be bearing fruit. Things that do not make me better (by my own definition) things that do no bring me closer to God, or others, things that do not produce growth.

If you're not happy with your life, change it. Remove the things that are not pushing you towards the life you want. Spend your time on things that change your patterns, your internal landscape and your inner voice. Stop doing things that make you feel regret, or make you feel week.

Obviously, this is easier said than done.
DM me "Rebirth" if you're interested in figuring out how to change yourself.

Turns out creating content worth posting takes longer than posting content.
Every video starts as an idea. Then it becomes a reflection. Then a conversation with myself — working through what I actually believe and why. Then a script. Then a film. Then an edit. Then a post.
That's the process. I'm not willing to cut corners on it.

I have taken some time asking what it meant to become an adult.
Throughout most of my twenties I was legally an adult, but I was oriented in the world like a child. I did not take accountability for my life, I did not make real decisions, I blamed other people for my position, my issues and my shortcomings.

I was thinking like a child, blaming others for where I was. I was acting like a child, spending my time in questionable ways because nobody was there to enforce discipline upon me.

In my late twenties, I'd had enough of it. No longer was I going to accept the position I was in. No longer was I going to see myself as a victim of any circumstance in my life.
As a child, we have people around who are meant to parent us - to love us, enforce discipline, teach us which way we should go and hold our hand. As adults, we must do that ourselves.

While trying to take action, often our anxieties return: "What if ...?" comes back again
Another risk is that we fail to follow through. We stop and start over again.

The irony of this is that I missed all of last week. Hours picked up at work, I got busy, life got in the way and my priorities were not here. In that same time, I begun to wonder why I am doing this, and if I am focused in the right things.

The fact is, content like this is not what gets attention. It's not amusing, it's got no hashtags, no trending music, in fact - nothing about it is trendy or not.
That being said, I may be pivoting on where I am going with this page. I had a plan a month ago, but life changes fast and focuses shift when you aren't focused on the world as much anymore.

At the end of the day, what I want is to share information and insights that will lead people to a better life for those I encounter and who encounter me. I am not a jester, I am not a clown - I am not here to entertain you. 🤡

There may be some chaos and disorder in the next little while as I try some things. I do not want to put out content for the sake of content, nor do I want to offer you half-baked videos.
Stay tuned.