Jaclyn Lee Coaching

I am reading the book Freeing Children and Young Adults from Shame, Scales, and Stigma by

It’s a great book and I highly recommend it for anyone wanting to understand how to more fully support youth in feeling confident and stable in their bodies and with food!

But Lauren brings in this great reframe, not thinking “ What is wrong with me” but “ What is strong with me”.
Every single one of us has strength. I don’t care what you try and do to convince me you don’t, because I don’t buy it. So next time you find yourself ruminating on your faults, I want you to pause for a moment and think about your strengths, and just stay there a while.💛

I heard this exact sentence from a woman on a call this month. And another one. And another one.

That moment- where you wake up halfway through a binge and realize you don’t even remember starting- that’s not weakness.

That’s your brain going somewhere faster for a moment. Because whatever you were feeling before was too much.

And if that’s you, I’m not here to fix you today. I just want you to know: You are not broken. You’re resourceful. You found the fastest exit you had.

We can find you better exits. But first- you get to be here. Exactly as you are.💛

The gap between knowing and doing isn’t a flaw.
It’s information.

Your nervous system doesn’t change because you understand it.
It changes because you show it something new — gently, slowly, over time.

If you’ve been beating yourself up for “knowing better” —
let this be the permission to stop.

Embodied Eating Workshop is May 6.
A gentle space to meet the part of you
that’s been trying to protect you with food.

Link in bio when you’re ready.

I’m not anti-diet because it’s trendy. I’m not hopping on a bandwagon.

Nope. I’m anti diet because diets will never get people to the health they seek. Diets won’t get people to the mental stability that they seek. They just won’t.

But for some reason we keeping thinking they will! So I take this stance of anti-diet because I believe it’s time to try something different.

The other reason I’m anti-diet is because not only do diets not work, diets actually cause harm. A lot of harm. They cause fear, shame, disordered eating, eating disorders, body image issues, medical care avoidance and more. How do I know? I’ve seen it. I’ve seen a lot of it. So yea- I’m anti the thing that I have seen cause a lot of pain in people’s lives. Wouldn’t you be?!?

I posted this yesterday accidentally on my personal page- sorry if this a double for you!!

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The old me couldn’t be present for moments like this.

Even standing somewhere beautiful, my mind was somewhere else — replaying the last binge, planning the next one, checking out of my own life.

I was mentally eating even when I wasn’t eating.

Healing gave me moments like this one back. The laughing, the sand, my kids running to me fully present. That’s what this work actually does — it gives you your life back.

If you’re ready for that, I’m running a workshop this Wednesday April 16th at 12pm PT for just $27 — I’ll show you exactly how to start breaking the cycle.

Link in bio to grab your spot. 💛

Tell me below: what moment do you want back?

Most people think the urge is the problem.

That if they could just get rid of it, control it, or ignore it, the binge eating would stop.

And so a lot of energy goes into trying to push it away as quickly as possible. But from what I have seen it’s not the urge that is fully responsible for the binge.

It’s what happens around the urge. It’s almost like we have to escape the urge- so we binge!

It’s also that judgment that comes in around an urge almost immediately. Or the urgency to shut it down.
The fear of what it means.The feeling that something has already gone wrong just because it’s there.

And the faster that cycle happens, the less space there is to actually understand what is going on underneath an urge.

That’s often where the cycle keeps repeating.

Healing food is not about never having urges.

It’s about learning how to stay with them a little longer.
To understand them. To respond differently inside those moments instead of reacting automatically.

When we do this, we get to learn what our body is really needing. We learn how to connect to ourselves, even when that connection feels intense, strong, and a little firey. We learn that we can stay even in the hard.

Save this if you need the reminder. Share it with someone who may need a softer way to think about urges. If this is something you are wanting support around, feel free to reach out — link in bio. I would love to connect. 💛