The Poise Influence

People understand needing a sponsor when you’re trying to get off drugs, but nobody talks about needing a sponsor when you’re addicted to your own thoughts. The thoughts that tell you to quit before you try the thoughts that tell you he doesn’t love me because he didn’t do this or that. The thoughts that convince you silence means rejection. The thoughts that make you wait for somebody else approval before you decide how you feel for the day.

and that’s an addiction too because you’ve gotten so used to believe in everything. Your mind tells you that you don’t even question anymore. You need somebody who can catch you in the middle of your own stuff, somebody you can call and say OK this is the story. I’m telling myself tell me what we actually know.

healing learning that a thought can knock on the door without you giving that a key you can feel rejected without deciding you’ve been rejected. Your thoughts can have a voice without having the final say so .

We learn how to communicate the facts and not get mad at the story we tell ourselves.

📖 The Space in Between helps you feel it.
🎧 Passport to Healing helps you work through it.
🤍 Coaching helps you grow through it.
✈️ Travel gives you the space to experience it.

Wherever you are in your journey, let’s find your way back to YOU.

Everything is already working out. I’m blessed beyond measure, and I’m still expecting it to turn out better than I ever imagined💪🏾

You ever find yourself treating a situation like the last situation, and you don’t even realize you’re doing it until after the damage is done? Now you looking back like, damn, I made a mistake. This person wasn’t doing what the last person did. I responded to what I was afraid was going to happen instead of what was actually happening. I made a decision based on an experience I already survived and brought that s**t into something that had nothing to do with it.

Everybody is not the person who hurt you, and if you don’t deal with what happened to you, you’ll keep making new people pay old bills.

📖 The Space in Between helps you feel it.
🎧 Passport to Healing helps you work through it.
🤍 Coaching helps you grow through it.
✈️ Travel gives you the space to experience it.

Wherever you are in your journey, let’s find your way back to YOU.

Don’t make a permanent decision because you need a temporary boundary. There’s a difference between protecting what you’re building and making decisions out of fear.

Fear can cause more fighting in the relationship than actually fighting for the relationship. Because everything isn’t worth fighting for either. Sometimes we fight so hard because we really want the person, without stopping to ask if we actually want everything that comes with them.

Their character. Their lifestyle. The way they communicate. The way they love.

Wanting somebody badly doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is worth keeping. So before you fight for love, make sure you’re fighting for something you actually want not just somebody you’re afraid to lose!

📖 The Space in Between helps you feel it.
🎧 Passport to Healing helps you work through it.
🤍 Coaching helps you grow through it.
✈️ Travel gives you the space to experience it.

Wherever you are in your journey, let’s find your way back to YOU.

And honestly, I don’t want a coach, mentor, therapist, or trainer putting on a show like they have everything together. That’s not human! I don’t want people around me pretending to be “perfect” because perfect isn’t realistic. I want real. You can be good at what you do, help other people through what they’re going through, and still have days when YOU are going through it.

📖 The Space in Between helps you feel it.
🎧 Passport to Healing helps you work through it.
🤍 Coaching helps you grow through it.
✈️ Travel gives you the space to experience it.

Wherever you are in your journey, let’s find your way back to YOU.

Do you want the person standing in front of you right now, or are you staying because of who you hope they’ll eventually become? Because “we’ve been through too much to leave” isn’t always love. Sometimes it’s history, obligation, guilt, or simply being afraid all those years will feel wasted.

I’m talking about that and a whole lot more on The Space In Between Podcast by Coletta Alyse🎙️

Now available on Apple Podcasts♥️

Sometimes I wonder if communication is even worth it.

Because what’s the point of explaining exactly how you feel if somebody is still going to replace your words with the version that makes sense to them?

I still believe in communication.
I just learned that speaking clearly doesn’t guarantee being understood♥️ but have an amazing day!!!!

Sometimes hate isn’t the opposite of love. You can be so angry with somebody and still love them. You can hate how deeply it affected you, and still not hate the person at all. And I think that’s why the line gets so thin.

Healing is learning how to let yourself be angry without turning love into hate just because love didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to. Sometimes the truth is simply: I love you, and I hate that this hurts. Both can exist at the same time.

📖 The Space in Between helps you feel it.
🎧 Passport to Healing helps you work through it.
🤍 Coaching helps you grow through it.
✈️ Travel gives you the space to experience it.

Wherever you are in your journey, let’s find your way back to YOU.