Willis Wellness Coaching and Pilates

10/15/2026

One thing I know about ADHD: regulated doesn’t always look calm.

A couple of weeks ago, I said I would post every day. I haven’t.

I was already having trouble getting my content scheduling organized. Then we learned our sweet kitty Isabel was dying. A week ago, we said goodbye.

I’m sobbing while I get the cat food.

And I’m noticing something important about how this feels.

This is not emotional dysregulation. This is grief.

When I get caught in rejection sensitivity or the distress of being unable to start something, there can be another layer: Why am I like this? What’s wrong with me? Can I trust myself? So dysregulation, for me, is often triggered not by the feeling itself, but by the feeling ABOUT the feeling. Anxiety that I feel this at all. Criticism that I am so sensitive. Fear that my mask will slip and others will see how screwed up I am.

This grief feels different. It hurts enormously, but I’m not arguing with myself about whether I should feel it. I know why it’s here.

I can feel a strong emotion and still have a relationship with myself inside it. I can cry, need support, change my plans, and let the feeling move through me.

Today, being regulated includes being heartbroken.

10/04/2026

These days, as I hold the workings of my ADHD nervous system up to the light so intently, it does me well to remember what distractibility has brought me.

In the ’90s, it brought me an entire artistic identity.

Yesterday, it brought me this bouquet.

All summer, I felt a little stab of micro-stress every time I passed the weed-obscured garden beds. I averted my eyes from the hydrangeas being swallowed by the myrtles on my way to take out the garbage. I love working in the yard, but I rarely manage much more than beating back the stringy grass that jumps the sidewalk and takes over the everything.

This summer, not even that.

Too hot + too tired + too busy = unprecedented fall cleanup.

So yesterday, with a sense of overwhelm and a touch of grief, I started the fall cleanup.

I do love yard work for processing. There’s something cleansing about being in relationship with nature, even at the side of the driveway. And the immediate results are a main course in my dopamine menu.

As I worked, I kept getting distracted by the beauty of what I was cutting down.

The leaves. The herbs. The tomato vines. The glorious end-stage zinnias. I took moments noting, appreciating to my core, the intricate beauty in the waning summer fauna.

But I kept going.

And I saved the distraction for the end.

From everything I was discarding, I picked out the most beautiful pieces and gathered them into a mason jar.

Then, at the very end, the barely visible hydrangea bloom called to me from across under the Myrtle:

Me too.

So yes, distractibility got me this bouquet.

But delayed gratification did too.

Maybe we don’t always have to curse our distractibility. Sometimes we can use it as a reward.

I think ADHD brains are especially good at seeing possibility in what looks unusable. We notice details, structure, odd little bits of beauty. Where someone else might see yard waste, we might see something worth gathering.

Yesterday I did the job.

And then I made something beautiful out of what was left.

So, so satisfying.

10/02/2026

One thing I know about ADHD: support helps. Getting that support isn’t always easy.

“Get help.” Two little words that can come with a whole lot of steps.

Find someone. Compare options. Make the call. Fill out the forms. Schedule the appointment. Remember the appointment.

It’s not always that we don’t WANT to ask for help. Getting help can require the very things we’re struggling with.

Sometimes we need an extra brain just to get started. Someone to help narrow down the options, sit with us while we make the call, or help us figure out the next step.

You deserve that kind of support, too.

During ADHD Awareness Month, I’m sharing resources I’ve used and that I point my clients toward. One place to start is ADDA—the Attention Deficit Disorder Association—at add.org. They focus on adults with ADHD and offer educational resources and opportunities to connect with people who get it.& ;

I started with ADDA. I recommend it to everyone for all things ADHD. Non-profit, non-AI, real people who are passionate about our neuro-spicy tribe.

You don’t have to figure everything out before you reach out. Figuring it out can be part of the help. 💛

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10/01/2026

October is ADHD Awareness Month, so you’ll be hearing a lot about ADHD—including from me. 💛

This month, I’m sharing “One thing I know about ADHD” every day. I’ll also be sharing organizations, resources, and the occasional video that have helped me personally and that I point my clients toward. Some of these people and communities have made a huge difference in my life, and I want you to know about them, too.

Here’s today’s one thing: transitions are tasks, too.

Sometimes the hard part isn’t the thing you need to do next. It’s pulling yourself away from what you’re doing now—even when you WANT to move on.

Closing the laptop. Getting out of the car. Putting down the phone. Those moments can take more effort than they get credit for.

If that’s familiar, try giving the transition itself a little room in your plans. Leaving one thing is part of getting to the next.

What’s a transition that’s harder for you than people might realize?

09/24/2026

Sometimes the most powerful moment in coaching is hearing, “Oh, you too?”

That feeling of being understood. Of being able to talk about what’s hard without having to explain yourself first.

Jennie’s words capture so much of what I want people to find in our groups: understanding, connection, and room to discover what works for them.

Curious about group coaching? Send me a message. 💙

07/07/2026

This puts that “I feel seen” lump in my throat. RSD is so real, y’all. The answer to every “Why can’t you just get over it?” I ever heard. The reason for every moment of quiet desperation I ever felt. The explanation for why every emotional difficulty seemed to hurt to an incapacitating degree. If you have ever been thought of as too sensitive, too much, read on.

Rejection sensitive dysphoria shapes the personalities and lives of people with ADHD.

01/26/2026

Here's me demonstrating how to shovel snow without wrecking your back! Switch sides regularly to distribute the load. I was out for an hour yesterday and my back didn't hurt!