10/18/2026
From Jared: People are interesting to me. I've noticed how some people seem to have everything together, but when one part of their life falls apart, everything else seems to come down with it. Working with a wide array of personalities and people from different walks of life has shown me a lot about people. Opening Sevens and seeing hundreds of different people through my doors that all give different answers when you say, “Hey, good to see you here today. How’s your day?” One of my favorite parts of what I do is getting to meet so many amazing people. I see people at their highs and their lows. The thing with the gym is, a dedicated person is going to still come to the gym no matter if they had the the worst day of their life or the best day. I get to share in happiness and I do play therapist quite often and I finally sat down and put my thoughts together about what I’ve learned and my take on it. If you are someone who struggles with mental health, someone who tries to please everyone no matter what it costs you, or someone who puts all their hopes and prayers into one earthly person or component, I hope you get something out of this.
I've been thinking about that lately and what actually makes someone stable.
I look at life almost like a structure. You're the foundation, and the different parts of your life are the columns supporting everything you've built. Your relationships, family, friendships, health, finances, career, business, whatever those things may be for you.
I think a lot of people make the mistake of relying too heavily on one or two of those columns.
And sometimes I think we want something to be stable so badly that we convince ourselves it is, long before it's had the chance to become that.
Relationships are a good example. People want to find someone they can depend on, someone we can build a life with. Sometimes we want it so badly that they rush things, overlook problems, and place expectations on someone who hasn't had the time to earn that level of trust.
That doesn't necessarily make the relationship bad. It just means it hasn't matured yet.
I've been married for 16 years. My wife and I have been through a lot together. Good times, bad times, things we never could have anticipated. That's what has made our relationship such a stable part of my life. It wasn't something that happened overnight.
But as much as I love her, I can't expect her to be my entire world or the only thing holding me together.
The reality, though, is that none of us are guaranteed forever. As difficult as it is to think about, eventually we're going to lose people we love, or they're going to lose us. That's life. It doesn't mean we should love them any less. If anything, it should make us appreciate the time we have with them even more.
I think that's why it's so important to keep building other stable parts of your life.
And not every part of life develops the same way.
Friendships and relationships take time. Trust and loyalty are earned through consistency and shared experiences, not through some manufactured test of loyalty. Your health takes ongoing effort. Financial stability requires attention and good decisions. A business requires constant work across several different areas.
Some things are already established and just need to be maintained. Others need a lot more attention because they're still growing.
I think it's important to recognize the difference.
I also think we need to be willing to look at the things in our lives that aren't stable. Sometimes they just need more time and attention. Sometimes we've invested in something that simply isn't going to become what we hoped it would.
And sometimes we know that deep down, but letting go is harder than admitting it.
None of this means that having a strong foundation and a stable life will keep you from getting hurt. It won't. You can lose something incredibly important and be completely devastated by it. That's human.
But I do think the more stable parts of your life you've developed, the better chance you have of getting through those things without everything else falling apart.
And it starts with you.
You have to invest in yourself. Your physical health, your emotional health, your growth, your ability to recognize your own weaknesses and do something about them. You can't pour from an empty cup.
I don't think stability is something you just achieve and then you're finished. Life changes. People change. Circumstances change. You have to keep paying attention to what you're building.
I guess my point is that having one or two really good things in your life isn't necessarily the same as having a stable life.
Keep building. Not because what you already have isn't enough, but because you never know what life is going to take away from you.
