28/09/2026
When Coaching Leaves a Lasting Connection
I deeply appreciate the connections I build with my coachees. These relationships are unique and meaningful, both for them and for me. Since relocating to Hong Kong, I have finally had the opportunity to meet a few of my coachees in person. It has been a wonderful surprise to discover how naturally we can reconnect and continue having deep and meaningful conversations. They appreciate the support I offered them during challenging times, and I feel honoured to have become a trusted and meaningful presence in their lives. Together, we have created experiences that have had a profound and lasting impact on their personal growth.
While coaching others, I have also faced challenges of my own. Rather than focusing too much on my difficulties, I chose to redirect some of my energy and attention towards helping others. In doing so, I discovered that coaching others also became part of my own journey of continuous learning and personal growth. It has helped me become a more capable coach while teaching me how to better support both myself and others.
I choose to see the challenges I have experienced as experiences that have ultimately contributed to my growth. I also do not want what I have learned to go to waste. I enjoy turning my challenges into lessons, wisdom, and insights that I can eventually share with the world. My motivation for publishing my first book, The Life Toolkit, was rooted in this belief: to share my experiences, wisdom, and insights to support others in navigating and overcoming their own life challenges.
I am still in the process of planting seeds. I may not see much growth at this stage, but I trust the process. With time, I hope these seeds will grow into something meaningful and make a positive difference in the lives of others.
As a highly sensitive person (HSP), I also have a natural sensitivity and empathy that help me understand others through both their verbal and non-verbal communication. These qualities have become valuable resources in my coaching practice, allowing me to notice not only what people say, but sometimes also what they may find difficult to express.
Through the support, care, and encouragement I offer my coachees, I am delighted to see them becoming more confident and developing greater self-awareness, including a clearer understanding of the areas in which they would like to improve and grow. More importantly, I hope that by helping them develop a growth mindset and guiding them to focus on what lies within their sphere of control, they can find greater peace and inner serenity in an ever-changing world.
When the formal coaching relationship comes to an end, I usually tell my coachees that we can remain “low-touch” friends – staying in occasional contact rather than regularly, while also avoiding becoming complete strangers. I am always happy when they choose to share their progress, achievements, or important milestones with me. It is especially meaningful when they still want to meet me in person, even though some of them were coached by me entirely online several years ago.
I believe that the deep connections we build through coaching can leave a lasting impact. It is heartwarming to know that, through the support and trust we have developed, I have become a meaningful and special person in their lives. For many people, being truly understood is a rare experience, and I feel privileged to be able to offer that through coaching.
Ultimately, I hope to encourage my coachees to create balanced lives that they genuinely enjoy, while becoming more self-driven and empowered to pursue their goals and dreams.
Perhaps this is one of the most meaningful aspects of coaching for me: the coaching journey may end, but the connection, growth, and impact can reach far beyond what we may ever imagine.
超越教練：持久的聯繫
我珍惜與學員之間建立的深厚連結。這些關係獨特而意義非凡，對他們和我而言都是如此。自從搬到香港後，我終於有機會與幾位學員見面。令我驚訝的是，我們能夠如此輕鬆地重新建立聯繫，並繼續進行深入而有意義的對話。他們感謝我在他們遇到挑戰時給予的支持，我也很榮幸能夠成為他們生命中值得信賴且重要的存在。我們共同創造了對他們個人成長產生深遠而持久影響的經驗。
在教練他人的過程中，我也遇到個人的挑戰。與其過度關注自身的困難，我選擇將部分精力和注意力轉移到幫助他人。在這個過程中，我發現教練過程也成為了我持續學習和個人成長的一部分。它不僅幫助我成為一個更優秀的教練，也教會了我如何更好地支持自己和他人。
我選擇將我所經歷的痛苦，視為最終促成我成長的寶貴經驗。我不想浪費我所學到的一切，所以我樂於將挑戰轉化為經驗、智慧和洞見，最終與世界分享。我出版的第一本書《The Life Toolkit》的初衷正是源自於這個信念：分享我的經驗、智慧和洞見，幫助他人應對和克服人生挑戰。
身為一個高敏感族（HSP），我天生具有敏銳的感知力和同理心，這幫助我透過言語和非言語溝通來理解他人。這些特質已成為我教練實踐中的寶貴資源，使我不僅能注意到人們說了什麼，有時還能注意到他們難以表達的內容。
我很高興看到我的學員們在接受我的支持、關懷和鼓勵後，變得更加自信，並對自身有了更深刻的認識，包括他們希望改進和成長的領域。更重要的，我希望幫他們培養了成長思維及專注於自己的控制範圍之後，他們可以在這變化萬千的世界裡，能安然地自處及擁有內心的平靜。
當正式的教練關係結束時，我通常會告訴他們，我們可以保持「低接觸」的朋友關係，偶爾聯繫，而不是頻繁聯繫或徹底斷絕聯絡。每當他們選擇與我分享他們的進步、成就或重要里程碑時，我總是感到無比欣慰。尤其令我感動的是，即使幾年前我完全透過線上教練他們，他們仍然希望與我見面。
我相信，透過教練會談而建立的深厚連結能夠留下持久的印記。令人欣慰的是，透過我們之間建立的支持和信任，我成為了他們生命中一個重要而特別的人。對許多人來說，被真正理解是一種難得的體驗，我深感榮幸能夠透過教練會談為他們提供這種體驗。
最終，我希望鼓勵我的學員創造真正令他們感到滿足的平衡生活，同時增強他們的自我驅動力和自主能力，去追求他們的目標和夢想。
這也許是教練工作最有意義的地方：教練之旅可能會結束，但由此產生的連結、成長和影響力遠遠超出了我們的想像。
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